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built up too much pressure, venting it
| then she threatened suicide and since she had a miserable life and being told I was basically the love of her life, the only person she's been able to keep contact with for extended periods of times made me unable to just abandon her, eventually she convince/forced me to try a relationship again, I declined and threatened suicide again, which made me try to work out our past mistakes and problems, during those 3 last years I couldn't bring myself to love her again as I used to
| despite that I think we were doing notorious improvements on our relationship, however I noticed she remembers with excruciating detail stuff both real and imagined about our relationship, and due to this she tends to explode at the tiniest bit of criticism I make no matter the context, recently this has brought some of her old behavior, like keeping me awake all night to discuss something without care for me, threatening suicide for playing video games with friends and so on
| it is important to mention that I've saved her from a suicide attempt and prevented many others, however with my birthday less than a week away, she's started to believe I'd want to fully commit to the relationship and go out again, but the all nighters she forced me into made me kinda realize how bad of an idea it would be, so now the question.
how should I tell her that I don't want to be in a relationship with her while minimizing her suicide threats/attempts ?
| :(
been here
sometimes you just need to evacuate. just pack up and make one big shove off while she's asleep or out or something and actually block all comms.
you don't deserve this and no amount of compromising is going to change her and will ONLY leave you in more pain, distress, and feeling obligated to care for her.
i know this sounds harsh but it really is the best course of action. she needs therapy, not codependence.
| >>962082
^This. You can't help everyone.
It's one of the most impactful things anyone has ever said to me and it helped me get over a similar situation as yours.
| Just tell her to go hang herself and block all contact, fuck that dumb bitch go live your life.
| Exactly. Sounds like you are pretty much being blackmailed by threats of suicide. If you were really that important to her then she wouldn't threaten something like that when you are just trying to live your life. You saved her from suicide before and the fact she is now threatening you with is is despicable and abhorrent at best and pure evil at worst.
If you can leave just leave, leave a letter if its important for you, but give no chance for her to contact you ever again.
| >>962046
>how should I tell her that I don't want to be in a relationship with her while minimizing her suicide threats/attempts ?
You don't. For starters, she probably isn't actually going to do it, it's just a way to manipulate you - and it's working. Second, you aren't responsible for her actions, she is. You aren't guilty if she does this, and she's wrong to try and turn you into the linchpin of her life. Take care of yourself and get out.
| > venting
amogus
| get the fuck out of there brother, just block her from all social media, messaging apps and her cellphone, tell your family to block her too, your friends, everyone that she can call/text to blackmail you, ignore her, she doesn’t wanna jill herself, is just threatening you, get away from there ASAP bro, everyday you are there is just unnecessary pain.
| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSoDtS2EqKw
watch this gurl
| what he said but just tell her your moving on or watever
| >>962082 >>962109 >>962174 >>962224 >>962241 >>962357 >>962437
thanks everyone for the motivation to tell her, went to her house yesterday to retrieve some things as I told her that I'm done with looking after her life, and to stop believing I'll be or try to be in a relationship.
I feel like I'm free to enjoy life now, something I haven't felt since high-school which is nice
>>962419 I've heard a bit about therapy gecko, is he enjoyable?
| Good luck with your life, g/u/rl!
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| This is probably going to be fairly long, sorry for that but I need to vent
so some 5 years ago I got into a relationship, it started nice but eventually she demanded more and more of me, forcing me to constantly choose between her and friends/games/family, eating more and more of my overall time, sometimes kept me awake entire nights fighting for the smallest of stuff, other nights she would just deprive me of sleep before raping me.
I got out of it after a couple of years but