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Thoughts on Relationship aspects?
| Your guys thoughts? Or anything else to be addressed?
| oh well, never think of that, i actually just go with the flow
| I don't have much thought for the first question ("is sex an integral part to a relationship?"); but as for the "should people be honest with each other?" I think I personally have an opinion on that.
Sometimes blind honesty can burn people out, but always lying isn't the solution either. I once had a partner that would lie simply to make me feel safe, and that is sweet, sure, but at times I felt like I don't need to have blanket of lies being sweetly delivered to me.
| It's one of those things that, even now, I have yet to find the perfect balance of. Sometimes even the people I know have an extremely different opinion on whether or not I should be bluntly honest to them.
| ah yeah, and being completely honest isn't a good thing for me though, but being as honest as possible is what i always do
| >>84600 good arguement.Thank you for the input. In truth it hurts to have the full truth but due to years being lied to I find that's the best route.
| >>84617
Yeah, having experienced that myself, I know how it feels to be lied upon almost all the time. Thankfully mine is a "white lie" — whatever that means in the end.
Welp. Good luck for your future relationships (or the one you have now) then, OP. If I know anything then it's that relationships are at times harder to guess even when compared to the Powerball.
| Sex is great, but I don't think it can be relied upon only, or even most of the time, to keep a relationship together. I want to be with someone who I wouldn't mind waking up to in the morning (or not waking up to, as it were) every day for the rest of my life, which means we'd need to get along outside the bedroom.
I generally also find that for most of my (successfully happy) friends that are married and have kids, sex plays a huge role early on, but after that need is
| satisfied, it takes a backseat to everything else in their life. You can kinda see this is their choice of conversations as time passes. In the beginning a lot of it is about what their relationship is like, how good the sex was, how good/bad they are to each other, etc. Later on, it's more about everyday things they're doing together, what they've done or continue to do for each other to keep each other sane and alive, things like that.
| Regarding truth, I agree with the anon above about finding a balance to things. In my opinion, your spouse, just like your friends and family, don't need to know EVERYTHING about you- everyone should reserve some secrets to take with them to their grave. But they do deserve to know about things that affect the relationship itself. Number of partners is a big one, and things like major differences in values (kids or no kids, for example) are also important to put on the table.
| Or like, do you agree or disagree with their religion or lack thereof? How do you feel about how money can or should be spent? Things like that. Fetishes, too, obviously, in the bedroom.
| This is kinda strange coming from someone who tends to be bluntly honest most of the time, too, but I feel like being too honest all the time and perhaps telling your partner everything there is to know about your life really does get "tiring," emotionally. I once told a partner about being molested as a pre teen, and... well.
Kinda regret it now.
Same thing happened when a family member told me a similar story. It's just, like, excess weight that doesn't do anything.
| None of us are better off having known these lurid tidbits. I could, and should, have kept those to myself.
Needless to say I won't be making the same mistake.
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| What do you guys think about sex, love, etc. I honestly believe sex is an essential part of relationships and that love is a strong bond of trust which allows people to have sex and not fear being slutshamed and ego hurt. That being said love definitely in later years of life become different. Should people be COMPLETELY honest with each other. I believe yes, but others are afraid to hurt their partners. Even more so what about possessiveness? I'd honestly let my partner swing.