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Ex messaged me- help
| Say thank you and refuse to escalate further
| Say that you are doing well
| Say you are fucking with different people every day and feel fantastic about it
| Say what you honestly think.
| Don't engage, walk away.
| Have sex with them.
| I have never heard a single case of someone getting back with their ex and it turning out well. You don't have to be friends with your ex, and it's probably better for both of you if you maintain some distance, I would imagine.
| >>801182 true. However my comrade eventually got back with his ex a few years ago, and they still are together. Although I'm not sure if you could call her "ex". Back then he told me they broke up, but it only lasted a few weeks (a month or two, maybe), after which they got together again, so I doubt they REALLY broke up then.
| We do lack some of the context here.
If they are your ex because the relationship ended due to... "problems" (they did something bad to you) then don't fall for them just apologizing. People don't just change like that.
If you two just broke because it wasn't working but both were in good terms... well, maybe talk a little? (But don't just go back tho, it'll be the same all over).
Ultimately it's up to you if you want to give them a chance. Thought I've seen this go bad before.
| Ask her if she misses you only because she feels alone now.
Both answers (yes or no) will lead up to the most rational outcome: you both still need time to know your inner feelings and emotions.
Always play cold with your heart. Then your heart won't play with your feelings.
| Hey gurls thank you for the responses. I still haven't replied. For further context, we didn't end on good terms that's why they're guilty. Let's just say i was really taken for granted and they broke it off. It ended a few months ago.
They're just saying sorry one last time, they've been thinking about me everyday and hope that i'm doing well. Is that an indication that they want to get back together?
| >>801229
Good, keep not replying. That's honestly the best thing you can do for them.
If you were to get back in touch, you'd just restart the healing process.
They're obviously at a low point of it now.
If you were being taken for granted, I imagine they lost whoever it was they actually cared about and now want to come back to the fallback of. Being with you.
And between the two of us, I seriously doubt you want to be someone's fallback.
| Even if you enjoyed being with them, it's just a waste of your limited energy. Be with people who actually treat you as a primary, or at least as they would a primary.
Keep not replying. And keep yourself busy, just in case their presence in your mind is burdensome.
Each one of you has to move on with their lives in your separate ways.
Ganbare.
| Dear, people have really no manners. Reply and stop being a rude bitch. If you don't want to talk to them anymore, then after replying and being polite, you can say that you do not feel like talking anymore, that you hope the best for them, and that's it.
Is using words and saying thing so much harder than being rude, disrespectful and self-centered?
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| Don't ignore it, harass them
| >>801322 that was what i was thinking too. I didn't want to seem petty. So I just responded in a polite way. I'm not expecting anything from it and i'm sure they don't, either, so.. all's well that ends well(?)
| >>801322 Nah g/u/rl you trippin I can tell it for sure those fuckers be coming back only to get attention for you if you don't cut them off by not replying or blocking, it's not a matter of being rude it's a matter of setting space between both of 'em, fuckers get their hopes all up just cause you responding to not be rude, fuck that, they should have never responded ever ever ever
| >>801405 Mind you, I was in this situation before. When you tell someone who isn't completely stupid "I don't feel like talking with you anymore", they'll understand. Being rude serves no purpose other than hurting the person.
| Ask them if they've fucked any mouths?
| Getting back with an ex is never a good idea, no matter how much your heart screams for it.
Take it from me who has already had such experience. Been there, done that.
| Update: they're seeing someone else but they don't love em. They don't know what they want. You're right, g/u/rls. This is such a sticky and unnecessary situation. Sorry for being stupid
| >>802833
>implying tripcode is still op
you live and learn. just make up your own mind. if you want to get back with them, then do it. if not, then just ignore them or tell them so.
though if they're cheating on their girl, that's not a good sign. they'll do it again.
| >>802909 hi yes this is OP. I do see redflags left and right. This is screaming red. I think they were just really using their new partner as a rebound. Yikes. They want to come back but also don't. Seems confused. I wish they didn't message me. I didn't need go be a part of that limbo
| >>802930
>I think they were just really using their new partner as a rebound.
Buddy I fucking TOLD you this is what's happening, should've just walked away, now you're stuck as part of this situation wwwww
Good luck, have fun~
| Why the fuck is it so hard to say "sorry, I don't want to talk to you anymore, I hope you'll manage to sort your situation and have a good life, bye" ? You g/u/rls really are hopelessly socially disabled.
| >>802932
>stuck as a part of this situation
inb4 could just block and ghost them. don't gotta humor them.
| Tell them you fucked their mouth. Let them understand it at their will.
| Op here! Update. They dumped me the 2nd time. How did this happen? I don't know. Was i even aware that we were getting back together? No as well. But they managed to dump me twice. Amazing.
| Keep the combo going ☆
| kys since yer ugly?
| Getting dumped without even getting back together sounds like an 100 iq move they failed at trying.
Yo OP, don't think too much about this. Just ignore them and move on. I'd recommend blocking them and not letting them the chance to bother you. Specially considering they are very unlikely to change their ways.
If it's getting to you, I recommend calling Dorothy. She knows how to lift you and your spirit ;)
| >>803134 >>803235
Im in a rough spot rn because they literally just did to me what they did on our first breakup. I just wanted to be civil.... Something died in me today, kings. The world is harsh.
| >>803276
Be strong OP. This stuff can happen to anyone.
Eventually you'll climb up this harsh part of the world, and the plateau will be beautiful... or...
... ok, I suck at analogies. You'll heal and find someone deserving of you is what I'm getting at.
Good luck!
| >>803319 >>803328
thanks g/u/rls. i have been a fool.
things will get better but i just hope they didn't reach out. what was the point? i feel like the progress i had was now back to square one. i'll remember this.
| >mfw me and my ex are on good terms and have dinners and sex every week
| Grab the intelligence from the BLU team
| https://youtu.be/AdOclHNTexs
| Hit the gym kings
| I am going to ERP with OP's ex.
| >>803851 thank you. i needed that. my depression has been cured. now that i think about it, i think i also needed this. it ended whatever feelings i felt for them once and for all. who need a g/u/rl when i have you kings.
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| They said they're sorry and they feel guilty everyday. They hope im doing well.
What do