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Hiding emotions behind a wall with friends you're close to.
| I guess maybe even this is me getting my mind off somewhere because I can't stomach comfronting my friends and challenging thier intentions.
| >This may come off
No, never. I'm the same: if you've got friends, if you're already choosing to share their life with them and it's mutual, then for *fuck's sake*, communicate your feelings and emotions.
I've got one particularly annoying case - she does very well by me, and I try my best by her, too; but to learn what she feels I essentially have to pin her against a wall. And then she complains that she has barely any emotional support to fall back on, the nerve...
| "I feel bad"
"Oh no, I'm here if you need to talk or so, and don't hesitate to tell me if I can do something to help"
And not "explain what you mean in details or I kill your dog"
| I mean, it's entirely possible your friend isn't sure why they're feeling bad? Like sometimes I just want to lie down forever without really knowing why.
Sometimes just being asked "what's wrong" can help trigger my brain to start processing what's REALLY making me feel bad.
So, like, just be patient with your friends.
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| This may come off about me, but at times I can be the opposite. I act on impulse when I get distressed or saddness because I know my friends will comfort me.
I just find it interesting that people I know, even my romantic partner can still just say the phrase, "I feel bad". What does that mean? How bad? I don't really understand or know how to respond because why wouldn't you just say what's troubling you. I know the onvious answer is "What's wrong?" But that doesn't feel right.