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Assistance on a one sided relation where you are the one with no feelings
| Tough sitch, g/u/rl. The worst thing you could do here is to go along with her desire for a relationship when you don't truly desire one.
People can tell, and it stings a lot more than just being told that it'll never happen outright.
Is there a good solution? Not sure, but it will definitely involve a tough conversation about what you can do to make your friendship work for the two of you.
| Tell her the exact honest feelings and then there is no confusion and everyone can form a plan asap
| You two should have sex and see if something changes.
| You can become friends with benefits without really committing to each other romantically, so it would be a win-win situation :D
And why it's better to be friends?
Because friendships last longer than romantic relationships.
Source: Believe me
| I can help you, just send her my way (unless she's fat and ugly).
| I can help you, just send her my way (if she's fat and ugly).
| Just be honest with her g/u/rl. You can't be with her if you really don't see her that way. Coming from a g/u/rl myself, i would prefer if the person i liked just told me straight up that it wasn't gonna happen instead of leading me on.
| Say no lmao?
| I know it's been said in every other reply, but just be honest with her. Starting a relationship when you don't feel the same would just hurt her way more in the long run, and trying to force yourself to develop feelings is, well, just iffy and unhealthy.
| OP back, you g/u/rls are right and now, as I look bqck on it I knew that I needed to do this but for some reason didn't want to. It hurt but I did it, I told her we could still be friends, hopefully things start to pick up again. I feel a lot more free with my head a bit more cleaner and stable.
| Fuck, ignore the typo
| I wish you guys keep enjoying your friendship
| >>786195
That's alright OP. Everyone makes mistakes, and I'm glad your head's clearing up a bit. That's always a nice feeling.
I wish you two the best in having a good friendship!
| OP update again, so we probably aren't going to talk again, I wanted a bit of time and she wanted everything to be done. Another downside for when I was in the relation ship was that I didn't get to talk to my other friends, (it used to be us three but then it was me and her and my other 2 friends were together) and while talking to my other friends again I found out they are dating and I don't feel as close to them anymore because they are really only with each other.
| we used to be the trio that never left each other and now they leave to be together leaving me alone. I don't know what I'm here to say, I'm just venting but idk, it just hurts more, hearing their "I love you" back and forth hurts.
| wow op that sounds like it's nearly as bad of an outcome as it could possibly be
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| Odd I get it but I have a friend and she's a good friend and really wants to have a relation ship with me and it's not exactly that I'm against it, it's just that I don't really see her the same way. I want to make her happy and I want the best for her, she's had negative relation ships and I want to help change that but am afraid something bad will happen later on because of this. I hope that by spending quality time together my feelings will change but I'm afraid it may not help.