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Should I talk to people?
| It's okay, OP! Most people are boring. Media have gotten us used to adventures and suchlike, but that's just media.
If you don't feel like talking to people, have you considered listening to new music, checking out a genre of books you haven't touched, or picking up a hobby?
If you do feel like talking to people, remember that stories are social currency - sharing stories are how you get closer to one another. So if that's your plan, go on a trip before uni starts. Ganbare~
| You might have a point, sharing stories is how you get attention. Once I get my second jab I'll go somewhere.
I'm just trying to figure out what I want out of people; Roommates? Gaming friends? Fuck buddies? Network for jobs?
Ngl feel like a psycho for not being all "friendship is magic" and instead I'm thinking what I could get out of people. However I try to think of it as having something to actually bond over, to both give and take in a relationship.
| >feel like a psycho for not being all "friendship is magic"
I may get trouble from other g/u/rls for this, but on the lowdown just about everyone is transactional? Especially when we think of relationships in the abstract rather than after already having formed an emotional bond.
What I mean by this is that, please don't guilt yourself over this -- everyone needs to know what they want from a relationship for it to have a chance at success.
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As long as you make sure for it to be bilateral - a bit of give there, a bit of take there, as you already indicated you want it to be - I see no problems here whatsoever and wish you the best of luck.
| >>785262 Yeah you get it, maybe the economics lingo is where things get psycho. Like give and take sure but I won't do bookkeeping to see it's a 1:1 ratio or act like you're indebted to me
If you only wanna talk about weeb shit it's fine I won't demand to cry on your shoulder, you don't owe me stuff you don't wanna do just cause we're fans of the same show
So yeah, it's just kinda knowing what we're bonding over. Finding something that's better together be it love, anime or work
| You got me thinking g/u/rl.
Outside of the network jobs, why do people need friends? Now that I think of it, the answer is hard to tackle.
But the way that I see it, making friends it's just something casual, something that pops up naturally, and it's just to enjoy a little time before parting different ways in life.
| Talking with people is overrated
| Sorry OP no offense but, you sound like a Neet/Hikikomori type, who denies any sort of human conection before even trying. "Boring" by itself is subjective, I can say most of us g/u/rls enjoy games but, for a lot of people it is boring. I think you should try a new look on things, what do you want/expect in a relationship. Companionship? Someone to talk to? What is interesting to you? Be honest in your endeavors, make no assumptions and go for it, I guess.
| Did you know people are delusional as all hell. When one expects something beforehand that's all they will feel. A fun conversation can't really happen when you have the mindset that it's gonna be boring.
| Sadly, we are social animals and you will probably go insane if you don't talk to anyone.
Wish it was not a problem.
| i feel you OP, i passing thru a similar state of mind. i prefer much more to spend time alone than going to parties n such
| >>785406 On that note, where do people even go when they want to play video games with other people? I want to get back into Payday 2 but cruising through public lobbies is an exercise in masochism.
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| I notice I don't want to start conversations with people, but also life is kinda boring rn.
Don't have anything interesting to say and honestly I feel like others don't as well. Everyone is kinda just boring, including me.
I'm hoping going for my final year of uni will change my mood but I never bothered to talk to anyone before don't see how I'd do it now