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How to fight big sad?
| Drugs are how I handled it for a long time, but it's ended up fucking my liver over three ways to Sunday so overall not recommended.
But then, depending on where you live drugs may well be as expensive as therapy.
In this case, I would recommend seeking something, anything, that you can hope for. Like a relationship onto which you could cling and expect to make your life magically better. Any delusion like this should work for you, best of luck.
| This is easy, just don't be sad lmao /s
Shitty jokes aside, I wish you can win against the big sad g/u/rl, you deserve to be happy.
| >>780005 thanks g/u/rl. I thought the relationship thing worked too but we're currently on the rocks right now and it's honestly one of the reasons on why i'm currently miserable. I just hope this is a hurdle we just need to overcome.
Tried religion too, but it hasn't been working. I'm not motivated for anything at all. It's just been difficult. Drugs can't be given unless prescribed by a therapist.
I guess this is it for me.
| >>780010 thank you g/u/rl. I honestly don't think i deserve to be happy. I haven't been in a while. I just want the pain to stop
| >>780036
Stop that. Having thoughts like those only serves to make you more miserable. Like the teachings of East Buddhism says: don't suffer any more than you have to.
You should look up some of Alan Watts speeches on YouTube, namely How To Learn To Let Go and You Must Go Alone.
| Have sex and have fun.
| >>780065
"Oh you're having negative thoughts? Just stop lmao."
God fucking damn it, if only it was actually that simple.
| Big sex fix big sad
| >>780071 Hey, gaslighting yourself into not having negative thoughts is the chief goal of CBT. Love me some CBT.
| >>780071
>God fucking damn it, if only it was actually that simple.
It isn't, which is why I recommended you two one-hour lectures instead.
Stop believing that the words you say to yourself inside your own mind are all that you are. Begin to experiment with your potential. Bring awareness to the fact that you aren’t the words inside your head and the fact that you are so much more.
| At first we are nothing but atoms in the void, everything else is meaning we give to it. I too live in big sad every god damn day, I know how it is really well but, maybe your case is not like mine. Can you think of the reason why you feel like this? Do you objectives? Dreams? Goals or anything? Coveted anything? That can give you purpose, objective and something to push you foward, also remember what you have, what you conquered, how you've grown, that could bring satisfaction now
| >>780161 my relationship which is a source of love and stability for me's currently on the rocks. That's a big reason. I see that i've been dependent on this person and i need to protect myself when they're being shaky like this but it's been taking out a lot in me mentally because of the immediate widthrawal.
I'll try those but i really don't have motivation to do anything. I'm pretty broken
| Maybe look into if you sadness has a physiological source? Like lack of sunlight/vit D,exercise,or sleep? Getting those in order can really help.
| >>780171 Try to have an objective approach, your issue is fixable unlike mine. Try to learn a few things like, how to be alone, how to be with yourself, that can make you stronger, and when you become stronger you can be a place for others to seek shelter, and that makes you feel really better, you will be able to care for your loved ones way better. Also, you love her and that is great, but dependency is bad for everything you want to be a partner, not a burden.
| >>780738 yeah, i see that. I shouldn't rely on my partner that much when it comes to security and fulfilment. Since i became aware, i really want to be able to set up boundaries because i don't want to leech off like this anymore.
Update: G/u/rls! I'm having my first therapy session on monday. Wish me luck in bettering myself.
| >>781661 good luck gal, your journey has just started, please enjoy it and enjoy yourself a little more. ;)
| >>781661 Please be mindful that it's going to take a few sessions to develop the kind of rapport/trust you need to even know this therapist is right for you. Ganbare.
| >>783296 thank you g/u/rl. I'll keep that in mind. I think he's a psychologist? They have different names but i dont know the differences between a psychologist and psychometrician
| >>783405 thank you! I need all the luck i can get. I'm tired of hurting.
>>783539 aww that's great!! I'm really looking forward for this. Good luck to both of us!
| Rope.
For jump rope! That's always fun.
Or knife.
For cooking!
| Turn big sad into = big mad
later big mad = small sad
Finally small sad = null
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| Too broke for therapy. Kinda wish i was dead right now. I try to shove it at the back of my head but my heart's been hurting for days. Any tips?