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I'm turning 26 in 2 minutes and I am not okay
| H-Happy birthday Op.
| Stop trying to achieve things OP. Money and "achievements" are not what life is about.
Just enjoy the ride, literally the little things that you enjoy are the best part of life.
Cherish them and enjoy the company of your loved ones.
| It's okay.
Just by being here, you've proven you're far enough outside the norm that there's SOMETHING different about you. You are relatively unique. Therefore, there is something about you that will turn out worthwhile eventually. That's how it works!
| Birthdays are social constructs. How old you are doesn't decide what you can or can't do, op. It's ok to take time at your own pace.
| OP here, different IP cause I'm at work now.
>>779253
T-Thanks. It's actually not as bad coming from someone I don't know. Pretty sure it has something to do with the lack of expectations to be met.
>>779271
It's not just about money, on that front I'm doing... okay.
Little things are great, but perhaps they are too little, if that makes sense. In the end I have nothing to show for whatever life I've lived so far. Sometimes it feels like I'm just wasting time on those things.
| >>779287
Being unique or different is not necessarily good though, is it now? I'd rather be more like everyone else, but it's a bit too late now. And I don't know if I'll live to see that "eventually."
>>779291
And humans are social creatures. How old I am decides what other people expect of me. And I'm not quite up to speed sometimes
Would be nice to "take time at my own pace", but time is finite. And stuff like birthdays or New Years celebrations only serve as reminders of that.
| >I vividly remember being so excited for birthdays
There's your mistake. You should have been suffering from depression since childhood like the cool kids! ヽ(o^ ^o)ﾉ
>How old I am decides what other people expect of me.
You can just say you're 21. Do you think people will turn around and demand to see ID? Not everyone works as a bouncer, silly.
| >>779371
>should have been suffering from depression since childhood
Oh, don't you worry, I wasn't *too* late to the party. Like... fashionably late, I guess.
>just say you're 21
That *could* work maybe, I do look quite young for my age. Wouldn't be able to pass for a teen per se, but 21 should be doable. Here's the thing though. *I* know I'm not 21 anymore. So do my family and friends. And whoever I'll attempt to connect with will eventually get to know I'm not 21 as well. Pass.
| >>779370 >Would be nice to "take time at my own pace", but time is finite.
So? Where are you getting by worrying about being "up to speed" instead? It's not like constantly putting that kind of pressure to conform on yourself is helping you achieve things, is it? It's just making you miserable.
You *can* take things at your own pace. Social pressure is a real thing, but it seems like for you it's just an excuse to beat yourself up bc of *your* expectations, not someone else's.
| I don't wanna be mean - I sympathize, I really do. I've been trying to get out of the same rut myself. But this isn't the way.
Good luck, OP. I genuinely believe in you <3
| OP, I'll be joining you at 26 in a few months. I haven't been excited for a birthday since I turned 14. I have accomplished absolutely nothing of worth, either. My prospects for improvement are non-existent. I should probably get back on my meds.
But that's all okay. Just be here, and look forward to the next thing that makes you smile. There will always be something, and it doesn't need to be a silly birthday.
| >>779366 THAT'S WHAT I'M TRYING TO TELL YOU, YOU DOOF!
THERE'S NO THING LIKE
"WASTING YOUR TIME".
DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS' LIFE.
DON'T LET THE PRESSURE GET YOU BUDDY.
YOU CAN SAY "F$&# YOURSELF" TO ANYONE THAT "EXPECTS YOU TO BE SOMEWAY".
Please. Enjoy life at your own pace, or you are gonna to regret living life at others' pace.
| >>779366 Sorry for yelling you, but I needed to. Because I've been there. I was like you.
"Expecting" that I should achieve things and think that was important. It was not.
Good luck g/u/rl. Go to chill and relax.
| >>779370
> I'd rather be more like everyone else
Oh, don't say that. What's unique about you has to have some worthwhile quality, you just need to find it.
| >>779518 in my personal opinion, we're not that special or unique but that's ok. It's not wrong to be "average" nor "brilliant" just being yourself is enough.
| Hey g/u/rl, you got 4 years before your body starts to fail. Go out and live life to your fullest
| Alright, gonna step a bit away from all the other 'go at your own pace' 'do your own thing' statements here. From your post it sounds like you have yet to achieve the things YOU want to, not what others expect. I'm a decade ahead of you, 36 bday coming up, and those feelings that you haven't achieved what you want don't go away until you make a decision or get lucky and fall into a situation where you're working on something you think is genuinely important. Search for that.
| This doesn't mean I'm judging anyone who is happy w the way things are, or are cool with enjoying the little things in life. That's awesome, whatever brings fulfillment is what you should search for. If you don't feel fulfilled though, you have to work to find that. It's not easy. If you're ambitious, you need to work hard on something you believe in to find that fulfillment. From what I've seen (I am by no means someone who has seen everything) you may need to build something.
| Artists create, entrepreneurs build new businesses, musicians make music, programmers write code. It's really about creating and having responsibility for something that YOU think is important. Having responsibility for something or someone (users, customers, people that like your art/music, etc) in your life adds stress, but if done well adds tremendous fulfillment. It's not easy but youre only 26.
| Take your time, get good at something, find what you think is important, research and work to be knowledgeable and gain skills. Work hard and get lucky. You have time, but don't waste time (or don't waste TOO much time, you can still take vacations haha). Set goals and objectives, but start small (start a side biz that makes $500, write 5 songs, get 500 users, etc). Life goes f***ing fast. Enjoy life, but direct your efforts towards something meaningful.
| Another option here is to find someone who is already doing something you think is meaningful, and help them. Not everyone can be a CEO or a top 10 artist or whatever. But ambitious people can help those 99th percentile people achieve amazing things. Find people, causes or businesses you think are amazing and use whatever skills or talents you have to make them even better. You'll build confidence in yourself and real meaning and responsibility in your life. Wish you the best.
| I"m 5 and a half turning 5 and 3 quarters I cant wait to be accepted by the big boys at the playground
| I'm turning 20 in a few months and I AM okay.
Sadly I can't even put Kira's copypasta here.
| Becoming 30 next year and just getting started with life. Failed 3 degrees and bounced jobs like crazy. Just keep failing and learning from it op.
Nobody will prosecute you for trying. The more short straws you pull, the smaller the bad pull pool gets. Just be objective about the quality and quantity of seeds you're showing today for tomorrow's you.
Start planting seeds and wait for them op.
| >>784350
>The more short straws you pull, the smaller the bad pull pool gets.
I fucking wish, g/u/rl.
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| It's weird, isn't it. I vividly remember being so excited for birthdays. And now it's perhaps one of the most hated days of the year for me. Just another reminder that another year has passed without me accomplishing anything I set out to. Or anything at all for that matter. That I have missed another year of my life. I hate when family and friends wish me happy birthday too. It's anything but happy. I'd rather everyone forgot it's gonna be my birthday today.