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Ask her to go out?
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Then she heard about the rumors and got angry with me for not talking about it with her.
We argued, but she said something that hurt me, "you should not be angry because we're nothing yet".
I don't know if it is stupid from me, but it really got me, so I told her that we might should not go out and maybe not continue trying to go on a date.
I regret that now, I actually would like to go out with her
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| I am flirting with like five people right now.
That doesn't mean I'm serious about all or even any of them. Flirting is fun.
You are treating things too seriously and should amplify your relaxed state.
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but it is now difficult to fix this so we can go out.
I just wanted to share this and hear any thoughts of anyone about the situation.
Also, I have never had any date or something, that is why this is kinda difficult to me.
| >>73fe7a
Then we do things should be serious?
It's like, I'll go out with as many people I can just for fun?
Maybe I have idealized too much the idea of having a relationship.
| >>eb8b07 You're just two adults hanging out, and your end goal is a friendship with a bit more smooching involved.
If that means you're going to cram your calendar with dates? Sure, I won't stop you. As long as you rid yourself of the Hollywood understanding of relationships being extremely serious business. It's fair to believe that when you haven't had your first but you'll chase people off!
| >>73fe7a
I feel so fucking immature for this kind of stuff.
I apologized for the debate but how should I ask her to go out once again after cancelling the first "date" due to arguing.
My thoughts would be that she is not interested anymore.
| >>eb8b07 Let things cool off for a little while (maybe a week is okay depending on the severity of the argument) and just... try again.
I know it's quite an empty statement, but worst case you'll be rejected. Take the pain as it goes and move on to the next cutie. And there is always a next cutie!
| If she said "we're nothing yet" she probably meant that she saw being with you as a probable possibility.
Tell her that you regret, that you behaved stupidly and that you will work on it, and ask her humbly to be patient with you. In other words, be honest.
Don't listen to >>73fe7a except if all you want is a one night thing. If you are serious about her, then understanding and honesty are keys.
And I wouldn't wait, if I were you, but suit yourself.
| >>e34980
That's another great point of view.
The thing is that I don't think she wants anything serious but I'm not sure.
I'll try to ask her out once again tomorrow.
Hope she accepts to go out on the weekend.
Appreciate the advice.
| Before I say anything, how well do you know her? Also, do you want a serious relationship or do you just want to try out dating?
| >>92075d
I do not know her very well, but we've seen each other without talking too much.
In fact, she was the one that said that we should go out when we were first starting to talk, that is why I invited her.
She doesn't not seem to want something too serious, so I guess I'd like just try dating her.
| >>778738
Aight.
In my opinion serious dating is not something you try with someone you don't properly know on, like, a personal level. Usually doesn't end well. So, definitely don't expect that.
If you just want to try casual dating then, sure. If your sister doesn't mind then it should be alright.
| >>92075d
Yeah, she says that it's alright.
I've been thinking about it all day, what I don't know is what to text her.
What should I tell her so it won't be awkward to talk again?
I might as well just text her like everything's okay.
| >>778875
Just, like, speak honestly. There's no point if how you treat the situation is based on a vague guess on what you think might potentially appease her. Just tell her what you want to tell her and ask what you want to ask.
| I think your just retarded. I hope you two dont date.
| I echo what others have said about taking things too seriously. You gotta be loose and just go with what comes naturally. Don't lean in too hard and be sure to give her space. Just play it cool and work on strengthening your guys' connection. Definitely ask her out again and, whether or not you two end up being an item, just try to have fun. It'll end up being much more comfortable for everyone regardless of the outcome.
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| Let me share a stupid long story then ask a question.
So I wanted to go out and date one of my sister's best friend (I know, pretty inadequate).
I invited her to go out to eat, but the day before, I heard some rumors that she was flirting with another person.
That made me sad, but I didn't tell her anything.
My attitude with her texting was kind of angry, I should have talked with her about the situation but I didn't.
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