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I need to get it out of my chest
| Things got worse and worse, I decided a few years ago to change my life, I went to college and gratuated on chemistry, biggest mistake of my life, I only lost time and money, never managed to get a job on the area, despite trying hard. Then I decided to do something else, computer networks, I always worked on tech support so, another mistake I guess, the working hours never match with the college, result? 4 hours of sleep per night for 6 months 6 days a week.
| But I managed to get a internaship, another mistake I guess, people there liked to give each other demeaning nicknames, and I commited two of the biggest sins a brazilian can commit, I am shy and a introvert, so I did not accepted how they dealt with me, I fought back, 1 year struggling, but that was not the worst part, out of the blue my blood sugar rose to incredible levels, which was odd, I never had any issue like that nor anyone in my family.
| I found out with the doctor, that I had developed diabetes due the stress, lack of sleep, poor alimentation and so on, I fought hard back then, new diet, managed to get into a gym, and managed to go back to normal, at least according to the blood tests. That lasted for a year, when I got a job in a network international, I got stressed a lot, worked a lot, was treated as a second hand citizen in there, well, it got really bad, I passed out at home and woke up nearly dead in an ICU
| I was beyond destroyed this point, first thing I thought waking up in a place I did not even knew where I was, was "What a waste, I should've died", then I asked a male nurse which hospital it was, he said which one and laughed, then I had some flash backs while I was half passed out, I was somewhat conscious, I was talking and interacting but had no clue of what I was doing, and acted like a madman, and that was not even the worst part, they had to drain my bladder
| So they sticked a tube into my dick, in front of my whole family and nurses and docs, for days everytime I had to piss, it felt like there was a toothpick in my urethra. ICU was hell. I couldn't sleep, my head was spinning all the time, I was dizzy, could stay with my cellphone or anything, had only a shitty tv with poor image and open channels, no cable, injections all the time, painful ones, it felt like cubes of ice went through my veins.
| After leaving the hospital, the most weird experience ever, I mean, I discovered the place from inside out, that was something I only ever seen in videogames. I got home, went to work only five days after leaving the hospital, even though I nearly died according to the docs, cetoacydosis they said, my blood became acid, filled with carbon, which made my heart go through overdrive, and all my minerals went down, everything went to shit, but I went back to work.
| First thing that happened? I got fired, but I was so fucked that I did not even cared. After a period of depression at home, the pandemic struck, and I got an invitation to work on the tech support for that new Valorant game, I was going to be a third party worker, the wage was decent, and they needed someone that was a gamer and knew english, I did the interviews and I went fine, the fact I worked with IT before it helped, after 9 months the operation had to get smaller
| So I got fired, even though I had good numbers, I never asskissed the operation leader, and she was the woke type, and I was a straight white male with no tattoes, messy hair, tired face, really skinny, with a black t shirt and pants that kept falling. Since then I've been unemployed, which is a problem, I need meds, and I found one that works perfectly to me, a pill it worked better than injections, but it is so damn expensive.
| Today I received a denial from a job I was trying, which was weird, they said my english was not good enough, I worked with the language before, did inteeviews, I made international calls, anyone reading this can see how I type, I mean it's not perfect can improve but, considering I learned it by myself with video games I grew up playing, I'm glad with it. But since that was not bad enough, I made the stupid decision to go get my vaccine jab.
| Why stupid? You may ask, well, since in this shitty country, our moronic president Bolsonaro, denied vaccines left and right, we kinda ended up without it, so our governor, another piece of shit individual called João Doria, purchased by his own, the thing is he got the chinese Coronavac (Sinopharm), and after 5 mins in google checking it out, you can tell it's trash and it does not work as it should, after that we managed to get some from Aztrazeneca, Pfizer and Janssen.
| But the issue is that, all the vaccines is under gov control, I can't buy one, even if I want to, and the application is fucking random, they never tell which one they are giving,cuz no one wants shitty coronavac, check what that did for Chile, and I went there and they gave me shitty Coronavac, but what I should've expect? I've been treated like sub human trash my whole life, why it should be different now? I got so angry I kicked my bed back home, my arm and foot hurts.
| So really, I had enough, not too long ago I nearly buyed cyanide to kill myself, the only reason I haven't it was due the fact I have a mother and a grandmother, they would not be able to handle it. I only fell in love once in my life, years later, I found out the girl in question became a SJW, saying shit like "White people this, white people that" no one ever loved me, I fought so hard, went to college twice, I also went to tech school despite the fact I went to public schools
| This is country was always shit but it only gets worse and worse, I've seen fanatics going for Bolsonaro, despite his crimes, his shitty governance and madness, meanwhile we have burgeioise middle to upper classes shitheads, supporting Lula, PT(Partido dos Trabalhadores/Workers Party) despite his crimes, the young ones are even worse, they support a party called PSOL (Partido Socialismo e Liberdade/Socialism and Liberty Party) they are pretty much 2013-2016 Tumblr political party
| Well known members of that party have pictures dressing themselfs as Che, or being in Cuba supporting that monstruous dictatorship. One of their members Jean Willys, a openly gay man, dressed himself as Che despite knowing his homophobia and how he killed gays, just for being such. And there is a third authoritarian piece of shit called Ciro Gomes, he is pretty much left wing Bolsonaro, just as authoritarian, he knows how to smooth talk his way around to hide this side of him.
| So my personal life is hell, the country is hell, I have no hopes of improvement, I just want to die, I'm tired of suffering and crying and planing suicide, I had more than enough and god knows I tried, I really did, but the deck was stacked against me since day one, it never mattered how much I fought, it all can go to hell.
And if you had the courage of reading this far, this huge wall of text, thanks for your time and atention
| Not the first escape Brazil post I've seen. Kinda depressing that you can't even enjoy hating politics since both sides are dumb over there. Save some money and try move over to a europe or anywhere else for a fresh start.
Shitty life is much more sustainable in better countries. Incidentally i always thought val represented a poorer experience but i can't say it depicted depravity at all. Makes the devs experience seem positively upper class in comparison.
| I was trying just that for a while, I may be allowed a Portuguese Citizenship, due portuguese descent but, I need to find a document I never mannaged to, and with this shitty sorry ass vaccine not even sure if they would allow me in there. And yeah, both sides are made of mentally retarded I don't even know how to describe.I may try to save money, but thanks to Bolsonaro and Guedes policies, the exchange rate went to hell, but I need a job. I curse the day I was born in this shit.
| Damn pardner, I just wanted to say that I hope your situation get better at least a little bit in some way.
That's harsh.
| >>a59811 Thanks cowboy. I'm so pissed, that vaccine shit was the last drop the overflew the ocean for me, it is so shitty that Chile will give a third shot. I made the mistake to take that first shot cuz, if you deny they put you in the end of the line, treat you like an anti vaxxer or some shit, so fine, if then are going to treat me as such I will act as such, I won't take anymore, to hell with it, I'm tired of being treated as shit.
| I really wish you the best homie. That's a fucked situation to be in, but I can tell you have it in you to get through it. Just how long you've already lasted and the fact that you're able to express your hatred for all that shit in this way says a lot about you, in a good way.
Shit's bleak, shit's fucked up, but you're strong as fuck. Know that.
| >>3b7803 Thanks buddy, I'm so tired I feel like I've burned myself beyond ashes at this point, I just want everything to end, I'm so tired, everyday I wake up wanting to die, hoping that I will be dead the next day or something.
| >>776997
I know. I've been there. So many times, and I'd be lying if I said I don't anymore. But, ay. As long as I've got people to live for I'll keep living and try to stay as same as I can through all the fucked shit. It's not easy task in slightest, but it's not like anything good can come from being dead, and you could randomly die any day. I just try to remind myself of that. Death will come, so I'll stay put and do my best until then, no matter how strong the desire gets.
| Idk if that can help you at all, but, ay. It's worth a shot, ain't it?
| >>3b7803 I really appreciate the good will,I really do, and yeah only reason I have not killed myself yet is due family, to be specific, mom and grandma, otherwise I would've done it already, but being alive is torture, everyday is pain and suffering and not only in an existential way.
| >>777002
I know, I know. It is. But it won't be forever. I know it sounds cheesy and shit, but I'm serious. People told me that shit and I wouldn't believe them. Back then I was at a point where I was planning on ending it despite my mom and my sister. But, shit. I'm still here. And, yeah. It's still really fucking painful a lot of the time, but, at least it's not as much as it was. Maybe I was just lucky, but, won't know unless you try.
I feel you though. I really, really do.
| >>3b7803 I'm happy for you buddy, even though my life is shit and helpless, does not mean that everybody else is, glad you managed to recover at least to some point. I was never a man of faith but now I am even less, I'm sorry it is just after so many years I'm just...broke.
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| >>777018
Well, here's the thing. That's what I'm trying to tell you. You're life ain't helpless. Even though you're depressed and you've convinced yourself of that doesn't mean it is.
My life was shit and helpless and I didn't see any end to the suffering after years. But, you know. Turns out that it wasn't helpless after all, even though I saw literally no way for things to be better for years.
All I'm tryna say is, well, keep at it. You might find something to keep you going.
| >>3b7803 I thank you but really, I thought about everything and anything under the sun, and it's too much pain for me I can't go on, just can't.
| >>777037
Yeah, yeah. Whatever you say buddy. But you ain't omniscient and depression obscures and clouds your thoughts and judgement heavily. I don't doubt the pain you're in in the slightest, but what you need is help. A bit of support. Someone to make things lighter and make you realise that shit. Not a cheap way out that severely hurts the people who love you and makes your last moments painful.
Giving up just ain't it. It isn't that relief you want. It's a way to never get it.
| >>3b7803 I'm trying to hang on because of family and some friends, but that is all, hanging on, I don't hope for nothing anymore.
| >>777168
That's fine. You don't have to hope for stuff. Hanging on is enough. Other things will come as a result, even if you don't believe it will. Just hang on and try to make the best out of it, even if that's just turning your brain off to some music for the 5 minutes you can.
Just hang on for them. You've got a strong soul, so I trust you'll be able to.
| I am brazilian but at least im not shy.
If youre shy or introverted in this country youre FUCKED.
I feel u op
| Yo why dont you become a cop? Trust me its the best decision here. I make a lot of money and i can tote the poles
Also i got drugs for free
| >>a6ce31 I spoke about Willys, to show the type of ideology that goes around that party, he was an metaphorical ilustration so to speak, and he will try to run this election for the Workers Party. I though of becoming a cop, civilian police, I could never become a military one, it's simply not me, but I hate corruption and I am not for drugs and shit, I hate crime and would like to shoot thugs first and get out without asking questions, and that would get me killed fast I think.
| >>a6ce31 And I'm from São Paulo, I just tremble and shiver imagining how life is in the North/northeast, I always felt like a foreigner in here, never felt at home, I grew up in the 90's liking video game and Rock/Metal music, so folks always looked weirdly at me, specially cuz I always hated football, from the depths of my heart and soul, maybe that is why I was always into english and internet culture, I felt at home in there.
| I stopped caring after all the "woke" and "SJW" rants.
| >>aaa08e See, this is why I hate ideologies and politics as a whole, people are unable to see beyond that. I scream and curse both sides, explain the sociopolitical affairs and issues of the land, and the answer I get "Said bad stuff about my side, must dehumanize and attack"
| >>777572 Yeah, but that is one of points, here we barely have more than two so, there you go, another issue.
| >>777575
That's something I gotta agree with you on. A lot of places have essentially just two sides politically, which is retarded. Even huge places like the US have essentially just two sides. It's fucked.
| >>779b05 even places that have a plurality of sides have issues. The game is just rigged and good people don't have institutional power, and even if they managed to they're out numbered.
| >>777599 >>777601 >>777602 Yeah, I gotta agree cuz I've seen that happening. We should try to be rational, discuss ideas and concept instead of ideologies, ideas by their own merits, see point by point of what is right, what is wrong, why this or that works or not, but I fear people on average are way too tribalistic to act as that, it seems simple but it's not, it's hard you have to go against your instincts, biases and second guess yourself a lot.
| :(
| >>777565 My side? I'm not in any of those "sides" since they don't exist. I don't think anyone apart from the far right actually believes SJWs exist. In any case, blaming fictional groups as the source of your problems (obviously you were fired because you had no tattoos, right) is just ridiculous, and when those groups are typically imagined by the worst of humanity at the time, I won't pity you.
So no, not "my side", but I know I don't want to be in yours.
| But you probably think that "my side" is the same side as everyone who doesn't agree with you.
| >>777601
Agreed.
>>777638
Now I do also have to agree with this person to a small extent. Even though I want the best for you and think you genuinely seem like a good person, those terms very much rub me the wrong way. They're at their core terms made up by far right people to demonize everyone who wants less capitalism and more equality.
Now, I do understand why you hate left extremists. That I understandable. But, I don't think you lost your job because you were white.
| But I very much understand turning to that mindset. It's easy to jump to conclusions and shit, especially when shit's frustrating and hard to understand. And I do understand hating every sort of extremism. But, might want to be a bit careful with that mindset. I know some people who got into that mindset and ended up thinking that every gay person is trying to turn the world into Soviet Russia and kill the straight people.
Not that I think you're like that, but just be careful.
| I was feeling sorry until I started the conversation talking about the left and such. the rule is clear, if you use "sjw" in your vocabulary, you're probably just as ignorant as they are.
| >>aaa08e Sure, there is only far right and no far left, the extemists are only on the other side, and sure again, pretty sure you are aware and knowledgeable about the sociopolitics of foreign countries,ones you probably don't even know the language they speak, and despite I spoke about it in first person, I have coworkers to back it up, some I still talk to this day and they almost always tell me stories about that sort of crap, but whatever dude,"not my views= extreme right wing"
| >>316e99 I used those terms cuz, they were the most close to the equivalent in brazillian portuguese, I could've said "lacrador" but I doubt any of you would've understand it. And I meant the whole profile not colour, although there were companies with hiring policies as such "no white only" or profiles in twitter such as "whites doing shameful things" that is disgusting and racist but utterly retarded here, those concepts were imported from the US and (...)
| >>777844(...) are wrong by default but, are doubly wrong here, why? We are mixed, I'm white but I have folks from all colours in my family, father, brother, cousins, I never gave a fuck about race bollocks until those identitarians came in 2013 forward, I still think it's crap. And again I feel those who judged me did so under an american centric point of view. Some said that term is a way to demonize thise who wants less capitalism, well, thay does not make any sense here (...)
| >>777845 (...) Cuz we barely have any real capitalism here, our state is HUGE, we literaly have a comunnist party in gov, taxation is gigantic, the socialist party, PT (Partido dos trabalhadores) (Workers party) has been in power for decades now, and everything public is trash, it sucks, public education, public health, I had to use money from my own pockets to pay for my issues, I tried the public service once, endless lines in a shitty building (...)
| >>777846 (...) And that is one of the reasons that shithead motherfucker Bolsonaro won in here, he promised us, capitalism, there is this economist Paulo Guedes, he went to Chicago university and all, said he was a liberal (again here liberal is right wing, another difference) promised us more economical freedom, less taxation, more privatisations, tougher police and so on, and his opponent was a guy from the Workers Party, the guy was known as the worst mayor São Paulo (...)
| >>777847 (São Paulo is my city) ever had so, again, people judge it's normal, people are blinded by politics, again it's normal, but dehumanize folks due differences in points of view, and due an analyzes made out in the lens of a different culture, thinking it's the same as the place you have come from, it's wrong, plain and simple. I believe in a few things, personal liberty and freedom, and the only judging factor one should go through, is about character, intelect, ethics etc.
| >>777844 >>777848
See, here's where you make a few assumptions yourself. Just calm down a bit.
The reason I gave you the benefit of the doubt is because you might not be fully aware of everything behind those labels. And, you said it yourself. You tried to use it because we wouldn't understand the term you wanted to say. That's where the confusion is.
You know how you said you don't give a shit about race, right? Race shouldn't matter, right? That would make you and SJW.
| Like, the people who invented that term made it as a negative stereotype for people who think races and genders and shit should be treated equally. So, you were just mistaken on the terms you used it seems.
There's nothing more to it. Not calling you far right in the slightest. You're just confused on the meaning behind the terms you used and we got confused as a result.
It's not on anyone and ain't nobody here far-anything. Just a misunderstanding.
| >>777851 I have seen it used differently, but if you say so. I have seen being used to describe those people who say "Ahhh all white straight men are evil and privileged" sort of person, those insane feminists who thinks all men are possible rapists, sorta of person. Folks like "Big Red" sorta of person, that is what I meant. I hate this sort of person, I have seen middle to up classes people in here, who had lives I could only dream about, or in the first world (...)
| >>777861(...) saying things like that, like I was some kinda of devil for being born this way, those things never helped me in any way or form, and it annoyed me, cuz they always turned their blind eye in front of real issues, poverty, disease and so on. I never cared about "identity" always treated everyone the same, I always have seen/see people as individuals, never as a part of a group. I just wish I was born in a better place.
| >>777861 >>777864
I mean, yeah. Some extreme people like that are horrible, though it's not really that common. And while it's true that having light skin gives you more privilege most places over people who don't, that doesn't mean white people are bad or everyone should be viewed as identical and shit. The point of pointing out white privilege in places that have it is supposed to point out that systems should treat people equal. Not treat white people lesser. That's hypocrisy.
| Like, the point of it is to get to a point where colour don't matter to not just individuals but the systems as well, but some people take it a step further and flip it on it's head to the point where race is the only thing that matters in their eyes, which is fucked up, hypocritical and destructive. I despise that shit.
But I also despise the term SJW because it exists purely to group everyone on the left in with those, demonizing even more people. So, it's just, a weird spot.
| >>316e99 Well light skin never gave me anything, at all, neither it did for some family members of mine that are blonde, neither having dark skin was an issue to the other family members, that identity politics, was imported from the US so it makes no sense here and I don't think it does for the US as well. Privilege? You know what is true privelege? Money, that is all, it buys you, education, medical care, housing, great food and so on.
| >>316e99 And that has become more and more common, and accepted even, there was this girl, Rubia (Ruby) I had a thing for in tech school, she has brown skin, I never gave a fuck about it, she was really pretty, smart, great personality, years passed, I found her twitter not too long ago, she was like "Shut the fuck up, you are not pretty! You are white!" Tons of likes and retweets. Imagine the inverse. In mainstream media as well, take a look at it.
| >>316e99 Look at the new He Man remake cartoon, all males are inferior or monsters, have to be humiliated all the time. That thing went mainstream. I saw in a tv show on open television, folks talking about "Mansplaining" and I mocked on how, can't even be translated to portuguese properly. And these insane ideas some people thought it was ok "Cultural appropriation"?! Are you nuts? I have seen that madness growing since 2013, here we have a political party made purely of that.
| >>316e99 And what worries me is that, people do not challenge that, maybe it is under the guidance of "political correctness" so they may get ashamed of it, but to me it is just as bad as far right, and also it gives ammunition to the far right, those types of people and movement helped folks like Bolsonaro and Trump a lot, it should be fought like the far right is, should be treated the same, cuz here, it is ~~acceptable~~ to say things like "Stalin did not killed enough"
| >>777926 >>777927 >>777928 >>777933
And I never said I supported any of that. I don't. Discrimination is discrimination.
There's also a reason why I said "most places" and not "all places". A good example is my country. Sure, money is power and a way bigger privilege, but POC don't have nearly as many chance to earn money. They don't get jobs despite being more than qualified enough, purely because they're not white.
But that's not the case where you live, and I'm not saying it is.
| The reason why I explained why it's a thing isn't because I support people who say white people should just be killed or some shit. I don't. I hate extreme left as much as I hate extreme right. Reason being that they're the exact same thing.
Extremism on both sides leads to people being treated like shit because of stuff unrelated to who they are, and it leads to the people at the top having all the control in the country and doing whatever the fuck they want.
| Pure communism is bad, pure capitalism is bad. Extreme left is bad, extreme right is bad. System as a whole? Also bad.
| >>777946 >>777947 >>777948 Precisely and I agree, but the issue I believe is this: Nobody fights the extreme left, some pretend it does not exist, others are scared cuz it paints itself as politicaly correct, but like it or not, there were a time where Anita Sarkeesian spoke at the UN, the woman who said that "Everything is racist, everything is sexist and you have to point it out" and everybody were ok with that.
| >>777949 Before this identitarian madness, I felt like we were doing better with that problems related to racism, everybody were so disgusted at it, that it was taboo even, I'm not saying it was perfect, racism still existed but it was ashamed, behind doors with a soft comment/"joke" scared that someone might hear, and I think it was better than the madness it is now, not perfect but I doubt it could've been better.
| >>777950 But to summarize. Here some videos of a British commedian explaining it and unlike me being funny at it:
https://youtu.be/p9_bI789Gog
https://youtu.be/GLG9g7BcjKs
https://youtu.be/e5TVLEaqqdI
https://youtu.be/Rq74bZqbOqA
https://youtu.be/u9pESjtw6GA
| >>8da48d No, they meant in general, cuz it is ok for our congress to have celebrated the commie revolution, for our ex president Lula to say that Fidel was like his older brother, if you saying anything against it, you are an ignorant who knows nothing of history, and also the classic "It was not the true communism" also is thrown around a bloody lot. But ohhh deary, if you try to make a Pinochet's helicopter joke, or not being PC, you are a nazi/incel scum.
| >>777848 bitch i am from são Paulo and i can say, you should be used to this.
Stop complaining about how the government fuck you in the ass. Use this energy to focus on yourself and change your life without the system, or using it to your favor
| We already have a lot of people crying about how living in a 3° world country can be fucked.
Lets focus in get out of this shit
| >>777926
What the FUCK
If you think you live in Brazil and you dont have a privilege cause youre white youre dumb as fuck
| when people say you're privileged to be white, they're not saying you're naturally richer, more fucked up, more shitty than someone who's black. they mean that when you walk down the street, people won't cross for fear of being robbed. they mean the police won't be too aggressive with you. don't play dumb
| >>2de3d6 >>d13d66
One habit of stupid looking people is not taking responsibility for their lives.
I think taking responsibility is the most powerful attribute we can possess in life. And smart people know this.
Because the reality is that YOU are ultimately responsible for everything that happens in your life, including for your happiness and unhappiness, successes and failures, and for overcoming your challenges.
| I want to briefly share with you how taking responsibility has transformed my own life, including the perception I have of myself.
Did you know that 6 years ago I was anxious, miserable and working every day in a warehouse?
I was stuck in a hopeless cycle and had no idea how to get out of it. I basically approached life like a stupid person would.
My solution was to stamp out my victim mentality and take personal responsibility for everything in my life.
| I hated the fact that I’d wake up in the morning dreading the day. When the motivation to go to work just wasn’t there, I’d literally spend the entire day binge-watching something on TV to numb out.
I was supposed to be living a vibrant, exciting life in the prime of my years, but that’s not at all what I was experiencing.
| Rather, I was depressed, anxious, and living week to week working a warehouse job with very few friends.
I was stuck in a negative cycle and had no idea how to get out.
And it was all my own fault.
| To put it bluntly, I was unhappy and completely underachieving. I felt like my life had virtually no meaning and my biggest fear was that I’d die that way – miserable and purposeless.
The thing is that it wasn’t my circumstances or challenges that were weighing me down, it was my unhelpful attitude towards them.
| I had finally hit my breaking point and decided that I had to do some things different in my life.
This decision to buck up and start a new journey was a pivotal point for me. I drew a line in the sand and said, “No more!”.
What I did was twofold:
I made a firm decision and commitment to start taking full responsibility for my life
I started taking positive actions each day toward a better life.
| This led me to become more of a seeker rather than a victim. An advocate of my own happiness level rather than playing the “victim” role. I was realizing that in order to break free from this cycle of negativity, I had to get serious.
I also had to take positive action.
In other words, no one was going to come rescue me. Because only victims can be rescued.
| Why did I finally decide to take responsibility for my life, after years of playing the blame game?
The kick starter for me was an epic book called, Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl.
The book details Frankl’s experience as a Nazi concentration camp prisoner, and his incredible ability to adopt a positive mindset in such atrocious circumstances.
| I thought, “If Viktor can find meaning for his life among such tragic circumstances, there’s no reason I can’t”.
Reading this, along with some Buddhist philosophy, helped me get clear in some areas of my life.
The biggest takeaway I was getting was that I had to rise up and take full responsibility for my life. I had to stop blaming my past. I had to stop blaming the world, my job, my monkey mind, other people – everything!
| I knew I needed to learn how to accept being “in” the present moment even when I didn’t like the present moment.
The simple truth is that that acceptance is really hard to cultivate. Humans are practically wired to not accept ourselves if we’re not living our ideal life, or to accept the moment if it’s not 100% comfortable.
Like most people, I just didn’t know how to do it.
| In many ways, it's all about letting things go. Letting go helps us break away from negative thoughts and behaviors that do not serve us, as well as loosening the grip on all our attachments.
| The first step to letting go is coming to a greater awareness of your attachments. Identify your attachments and think about how they operate in your life. You can then evaluate if you would benefit from shifting your mindset to embrace things in your life in their present forms, even as they change.
Simply put, accepting things the way they are involves a subtle shift in mindset that helps you appreciate the present reality of your life.
| >>2de3d6 >>d13d66
Delusional positive thinking stops you from seeing warning signs in your life and taking action to overcome them or prevent them.
It’s much more effective to learn practical techniques – which have worked for thousands of years – that teach you how to focus and accept reality for what it is.
Techniques that allow you to relax your body and mind.
And mindful strategies you can use throughout the day to get your mind focused on what’s most beneficial to you.
| >>a6ce31 Which part of town are you from? Downtown? South? Cuz sure as heck you are not from east part of it. https://graficos.poder360.com.br/x4efh/3/ Funny if you consider the etnicity of the police how that works. What you describe is an american thing, I have a cousin, he is blonde, but walks and talk like a thug, tatoo and everything, police saw him once, they were not nice with him at all. And that is the point, being rich is what gives you privilege, jackass.
| >>a6ce31 I have met people of color, that were born in richer families, that had collection of international travels, went to colleges like Mackenzie and shit, that is priviledge. And honestly, I'm yet too see people changing sidewalks due someone else etnicity, like fuck, never seen that my whole fucking life, really. My friend once showed me a video, was taken on a bus, woman with no reason accused the haitian guy of robbing her cellphone, then she found it on her bag
| >>d13d66 Everybody booed at her, calling her rascist and shit, and yeah, she was and she deserved it. Try to pull an KKK stunt in here, to see what happens to your sorry ass.
| And honestly I regret the second this shit became politics, I don't want to discuss that crap anymore, it corrupts and fucks with everything.
| >>1cbc0a Errmmmm cool? I guess? I mean I don't believe that everything is thay easy and, it's like "take a certain stand at that is it!" And well, some are my fault some are not, it's no simple I guess.
| >>1cbc0a
Just gotta say, like, no. Everything in your life is not your responsibility. That's some privileged ass shit. A lot of people don't have control over every thing, and even those with a fuck ton of money and power don't. Everything in life is a butterfly effect, and you're not the only person that exists.
Just wanted to say my piece on that. Obviously take responsibility for the stuff that's your responsibility, but there's a lot of stuff outside your control in life.
| >>778395
Taking responsibility was never about gainig total control of your environment. It's about adopting a practical way of dealing with your lot in life. Yes, shit happens and life isn't fair. You didn't get cancer because you lost control, but your sucess in overcoming hardships is entirely your own responsibility.
| >>778424
I disagree. In most cases, sure. But for some people there can be a lot more factors involved that are actually out of their control, even when it comes to exclusively the part about overcoming it. But generally? Sure, to an extent.
| >>778425
I just told you it was never about controlling your environment... Let's not do this shit where we go back and forth for hours because you ignored or missed cruicial points of my posts.
If you don't take responsibility for your own life you won't get anywhere. No one else will give you a career, happiness, successes or whatever it is you need to live a better life.
| Let me ask you. What do you gain from playing this blaming game of yours? How does blaming the world, your past, your brain, other people, "a lot more factors" etc help you achieve a better life?
The answer is: it doesn't. It keeps you stuck in negativity, like cement.
Taking responsibility in this case means learning how to let go, like I explained here >>778182
| >>778426
I don't wanna do that either, but you're the one who ignored me. I didn't say environment. I didn't say controlling any part of environment. Not everyone has the chance to overcome that shit and deal with that shit afterwards. Not everyone is lucky enough to have that mental capability. Some do. Fuck it, most do. But not everyone. That's all I'm saying. That's all I wanted to point out. Mental disabilities that prevent people from being able to do that exists.
| >>778447
If you think it's about blaming luck or chance then you're not even grasping the core concept of taking responsibility for yourself.
I'm not gonna waste any time repeating it for you or "debating your disagreeements" like those gals over at /new/. That behaviour of yours is seriously scuffed.
Have a nice day.
| >>778460
I think we're both misunderstanding because that's not even remotely close to what I'm saying. You've ignored or at least understood me every single time now. Love the hypocrisy though.
Have a nice day.
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