This thread is permanently archived
I really can't focus
| Perhaps this is why I have such a shitty long term memory? It doesn't feel like it's worth learning anything sometimes bc why bother if I'll forget about it after half a year. I can't remember most of the content of the books I've read nor my thoughts at the time of reading them. Each year up to 2014 for me is just memories of 3-5 events that happened that year. Is it even possible to restore my memory capabilities? Well, that's a side rant actually, I'm sorry
| Anyway, perhaps anyone knows what to do to calm the fuck down? I'm thinking about switching to pen and a notebook but I think the speed of my handwriting will drive me nuts. Or mb when I'll stop using internet so much I won't get that feeling of wasting time/time going too fast anymore? Maybe there's something that can change the way I think? Like, going for a walk, no internet for a week, diary? Will these help?
| I think when it comes to thoughts I get about my life being over (I'm beyond repair and too old to catch up to life) or about delaying something I should just remind myself of the answers I've found for myself. It helps, but after some time I forget to remind myself and so I'm in a yet another loop of doing nothing, any way to prevent this? Maybe there's some biological cheat like exercising or sex or nofap? Also, I'm not sure who I am anymore(example of my thought leaps lol)
| You seem to be me from the Future.
Damn, I really need to stop my procastination tendencies.
I already have a shitty long term memory like yours.
But damn... It's almost impossible for me not falling into some sort of distraction.
Even so, I'm so consumed by information and fantasies that I do not care if I have a solid work future, I think work and studies are just annoying things that get in my way from enjoying life.
And life is about enjoying fantasies and consooming info.
| Buddy you have ADHD. There's a lot of people like us, relax.
I would suggest getting some professional help, if you can afford it. If you can't, well, there's plenty of resources and community online.
First you gotta accept your problems. You can't focus as well as other people seem to be doing? That's fine! Don't beat yourself about it. Find ways you can work with it.
| Different people have different ways to solve things, so these are just the things that work for me.
I keep forgetting things, so I write EVERYTHING down. I can't keep my things tidy, so I let my room become a mess, but it's mess I understand. I can't study from a video, so fuck videos, I find written or audio-only alternatives.
I have to alt-tab away from work every five minutes or I feel like I'm going to die, so I let myself do that. Eventually I still get the work done.
| I do find that, when the internet is being too distracting, keeping myself away from devices can help a lot. Writing with pen and paper instead of typing, printing out pages and reading those instead.
Getting hobbies where I can get totally absorbed into it is also good. For me video games and books already fit the bill, but I imagine something more action-based like sports or woodcutting or something would be even better.
| >If I have an interesting thought about philosophy or art or anything really I just give it up after a few minutes and think that I'll think it through again later
Try to write them down IMMEDIATELY after you had the thought. Even if it feels like something totally mundane. Thoughts are fleeting.
>but I think the speed of my handwriting will drive me nuts
Absolutely, but that slowness can be helpful. It'll give your mind some room to breathe.
| Have you tried having sex to help with your focus?
| >>634fa8
Fuck shit dammit. Yet another shitty thing I won in genetic lottery (or I just developed it by poor decesions when I was not conscious enough, doesn't matter) that I can't change, nice. I'm not the smartest guy already and on top of that I now have illness with no cure. I guess that's it for my dreams huh.
Professional's in my country tend to ignore adhd in adults + most effective medicine is banned too. Is there anything I can do to try to treat it effectively at home?
| >>776000
I already gave you some suggestions, but also, you gotta fuck off with this attitude. It's not something that make your life automatically worse. It's just something you gotta learn to live with.
| >>776014
It certainly seems like it does. Inability to do and having harder time achieving what I want just because I was born this way or smth seems sad.
Your suggestion are more about living with adhd, I thought maybe there's something I can do to cure it completely? I guess there's nothing :(
This thread is permanently archived
| I just can't focus on anything if I'm in a presence of a pc/phone. But every source of information on topics I wish to learn about is digital. How do I focus on a video if I need a device in order to watch it? Idk, it feels like some kind of illness. I can't learn things I'm interested in. I can't even THINK properly. If I have an interesting thought about philosophy or art or anything really I just give it up after a few minutes and think that I'll think it through again later