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hypothetically, if you had a friend who is adamant on suicide would you tell somebody (to help)
| Who coul I tell? Theirp arents? Another friend? That won't help at all.
| Yes.
I personally would try to direct them to professionals if possible beforehand and such.
But if they are threatening to do it, contacting people who know them personally and are understanding of their situation would be the way to deal with it I imagine. Of course, never trying to push solutions down their throat, since that can overwhelm them more. I'm no professional tho, but death is never the solution.
| As someone who has talked friends out of suicide multiple times, I would say no, but not completely. If they are open to you about it. If they are talking to you. Even if you have to spam them with messages for them to respond, if they respond to you, then you need to do your goddamn best to talk them out of it.
Telling others is very risky. Telling someone will make them trust you less because they've told you not to do it, and you don't know what the other person will say or do.
| But if you're ever at a point where you think they might have gone through with it or are about to do it and completely stop responding no matter what you do, then the police would be your best option. Especially if you know where they are and how they're about to commit.
A better alternative could be to meet up with them yourself, but that's not really possible in the case of it being an online friend or a friend who doesn't always live near you.
| But, basically, trust is a really big thing. Don't make them lose your trust. If the person who wants to commit is very close with their parents then maybe they could be an option, but even if that's the case you wouldn't know how they would react or what they would do.
So talk to them yourself. Make promises but only those you know you can keep. Make sure they know you love them, know you care. If they say they have no reasons to live give them reasons and follow through on them.
| If you can, be with them in person. Help them calm down. Treat them correctly. Try your best not to get mad at them or anything like that either. Staying as calm and cool-headed as possible is key. If it's over text or call or whatever, don't let them be quiet. Legit, don't let them be quiet. Text them a fuck ton. If they don't message back, spam call until they do. They might get mad at you, but if they're constantly talking to you they won't have time to hurt you, so who cares.
| *won't have time to hurt themselves
| Sorry for such a big wall of text. It's just, it's something I have a fair amount of experience with, and helping someone you care about feel better and stay alive is, extremely important. Though remember that it's not your fault if they act despite all your efforts. Some people are too far gone mentally, sadly. But that's where police is the thing to do. Find out where they are, what they're planning on, alert the police with all details and call it an emergency, because it is.
| Good luck.
| Oh, and one last thing:
Information is key. Any information you can get out of them can help. Reasons why they want to end it is important so that you can come up with potential counter points and reasons not to do it. If they have any other mental illnesses, like a psychosis or similar, find out if they are experiencing symptoms of that so you can better known how to treat them. Find out if they are on any intoxicated in some way for the same reasons. All information is valuable.
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| even if they really really didn't want you too?