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Jealousy
| I'm way too possessive and greedy. I don't like sharing what's mine, and, well, there are so many things I consider being "mine" even though I realize it's stupid. For example, I hate when people get to know and like my favorite videogame or music band or something like this. Like.. how dare you like something I already like dearly, you fucking moron?! It's silly, yet I can't really do anything about it. As you can imagine, dealing with me in a relationship is a pain in the ass.
| If I really care about the person, even them talking to people other than me will be upsetting. It probably has something to do with the fact that I fully devote myself to just one person and it's hard for me to understand and accept that other people may not work the same way and they need at least several people to spend time with. That, or I'm just an idiot lol
| >>715290
You're not an idiot, but you definitely gotta work on yourself. Being obsessive to that point makes you very controlling and straight up oppressive. I think that would end up just hurting the other person after a while.
>>715285
It depends on the situation sort of. Jealousy isn't a good thing, and sometimes it might come from either a lack of trust or self-doubt, which are things that should be worked on. You should be open about those feelings though.
| I get jealous if it's rational. Let's say, an ex trying to hit them up or other people obv making a move on them. Maybe a risque convo if i got to read one? (I don't read convos, this is just hypothetical) but yeah if i loved a person, it includes trusting them, too. So i don't limit them at all.
| >>715296
You're right... I do trust my partner a lot so I think it falls under self-doubt on my part. I'm afraid I'm not being good enough for him so when another (better) person comes along I fear he realizes how faulty I am entirely. You're also right in the part where I have to be open about these feelings so I'm thankful I have this site to at least vent.
I should also talk to my partner about this, no?
| >>715314
This is true as well. This isn't our first relationship so we both have our own exes and at some point our conversation steers to that direction (usually on his part though. I mostly have nothing to talk about when it comes to my ex) but even when this happens, I don't feel jealous in the slightest. I guess I'm more afraid of the present...
| >>715337
Yeah, that's what I thought. That's the usual. Just know that there's a reason why they're your partner, you know? They wouldn't just choose anyone, would they? You're very precious and special to them, just like they are to you.
So, I don't know if thinking like this is gonna help you, but it's worth a shot:
You trust your partner, right? Then you should trust your partner's choice of a partner as well, shouldn't you? Do you think they're lying about their feelings?
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| To g/u/rls in a relationship, do you ever feel jealous? When does it usually happen?
Is it a bad thing? Does it mean you don't trust your partner fully?
Personally, I hate feeling this way, but it can't be helped. I tend to keep these feelings to myself though. I'm afraid of opening up to my partner about it...