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What do you do to be an interesting person?
| What makes you think you're boring and uninteresting?
| >>706308 Well, I don't have many interests, I just draw from time to time and play video games, I'm terrible at small talk, often just giving small and generic answers and I only really leave my house for work or when I visit my family
| I also have no friends
| >>706312
None of the things you've mentioned makes you uninteresting. You 'just draw', but most of the people on Earth cannot do that. The style you draw in, the colors you use, the things you draw - it all makes you special.
You also 'just play video games', but you don't play just every video games that exist out there, right? You have your own tastes, you have your favourites, you probably have video game genres you absolutely hate - that makes you special and interesting too.
| You don't have any friends? Well, that can make you look all more mysterious!
Hobbies don't really make you more or less interesting, op. Your personality does, but that's also highly subjective. The fact that you don't have any friends doesn't mean that you're boring, it simply means that you haven't found the right person yet
| >>706314 I mean, you're right, but I guess, I wish, that I was more outgoing
Idk, but I just don't wanna be that kind of person, who blends into the masses and who doesn't get noticed by anyone
| >>706316
I think I might understand you, I've felt the same way for a very long time, but trying being someone you are not won't really bring happiness. You are who you are, after all, and you can't do much about it.
What I think will really help you is learning how to appreciate yourself. Easier said than done, yes, but it'll most definitely solve most of your problems regarding the subject.
| And you don't need to be outgoing, or friendly, or extraverted, or anything else really for people to like you.
Becoming more confident in yourself and your abilities of dealing with people may be helpful though, if that's problematic to you. Talking to us g/u/rls here more often may be a good start!
| i do what i want
| I don't do anything for the purpose of being interesting. It's a lot more fun to do what I like and figure out what makes it interesting later.
| nothing. i do things because i want to, and if people find those things interesting, cool. if not, also cool. who cares what they think?
| You're not a boring person. Though your mindset probably makes it hard to talk to you.
I know people who think like exactly what you described. A lot of them are some of the most interesting people I know, but they can be very hard to interact with because they just keep saying "I'm boring". So, just drop that shit.
Stop trying to convince yourself that you're boring or nothing special, and just do what you enjoy and say what's on your mind.
That's literally all you have to do.
| Also, there's nothing people do to "become special". Or, well, I guess that's incorrect. Some people do certain things just because they believe that doing that specific thing will make people view them as "interesting". That's the closest you can come to being genuinely boring though, because you're not being you.
So just be yourself instead of holding back. Do what you enjoy and just accept that you're interesting instead of listening to your self doubt and anxiety.
| >>706386 Well, I don't go around telling people, that I'm boring, that would just be weird
When I said, I'm bad at small talk I meant that I often just give short answers or sometimes don't know how to respond at all
| >>706444
Well, I do the same. Small talk basically doesn't exist for me. You don't need to be good at the most useless type of conversation to have friends. I mostly have friends who also heavily dislike small talk, so, that's an excuse, not a reason.
| i guess i can be funny
| "masturbate"
| You always gotta try to keep busy. Then when you talk to someone you have stuff to tell em, like the project you've been working on etc. Truth of the matter is that being able to listen to the other party a lot of the times is more important than talking bout urself.
Small talk is bs and I don't even know why it exists, it's fucking pointless. People don't know how to appreciate silence, that's why it exists. Just be urself and stop worrying about trying to seem interesting OP.
| ^ this. I recently started juggling some art projects while unemployed and suddenly I feel like I have more to say from two months than I ever had in all my life.
Being yourself is hard though, some people are too "self-aware" so to say and they overthink everything about themselves during conversations or while attempting to make friends.
From personal experience, trying to be interesting just makes you boring. Be yourself. You don't need to fit anywhere or be anything but you.
| >>707171
The desire to fit in somewhere is something everyone has to some extent, but I still recommend taking this advice. If you have yet to find somewhere you fit in while being yourself, then don't try to fit in with an environment that doesn't allow for that.
Everyone is interesting to someone. Some people find me completely uninteresting and sometimes dislike me, while some others find me interesting and sometimes love me. You need to be yourself and find those who like you.
| Idk how I feel about all this "being yourself" stuff
What if you genuinely wanna change? Does that really mean, you're not yourself anymore
An extreme example, but if someone has a shitty attitude and they want to better themselve and become a better person, should they not try to improve, just because they wouldn't be themselve anymore
| >>708244
They would be though. That's the thing. If you treat people badly and you don't like it, then, well, you don't like it, right? So changing that attitude would be you being true to yourself.
"Yourself" is not something that's defined by your previous actions and behaviour or people's perception of you.
You could say that I'm not the same person I was a year ago, and you would be correct. But that doesn't mean that I'm not myself, because I stay true to who I actually am.
| It's almost the opposite. A year ago I was very repressed when it came to a lot of things. Sure, I've changed, but I'm way more true to myself and my feelings and wants now than I was before.
I've changed how I approach or behave in certain situations, and I've changed my opinion on certain topics and changed some things around how I treat people. But that's not me being someone else. That's me changing, like everyone does, and staying true to who I am at the core.
| You see?
| >>563a61 I do agree with you, but a lot of people in this threat say, you should just be yourself instead of changing
The point I was trying to make was that you're still yourself, even if you change
| >>708272
Ah. I misread. I apologize. I thought you were saying the opposite. That "be yourself" was bad advice because what if you want to change? I understand now though. I agree.
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| Basically, I'm a really boring person and I'm not really sure what to do about that
So what do you all do to be special?