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My crush puts me on hold
| If she just went through a breakup, I dunno what message it'll give if you just outright ask her out afterwards. She might feel like you're just taking advantage of the situation, you know.
| >>56ae4e
Honestly, I thought about it. On the other hand, if I wait too much, I might miss my chance (we've met while she had her current bf)
| >>702158
Homie, listen. This g/u/rl >>702102 "she might feel like you're just taking advantage of the situation". If you do that and she feels like that, she's right.
If you care about her, then don't do that shit. Either distance yourself or accept that you're just gonna stay friends.
If you don't care about her as a person and her feelings, then go for it! It's not immoral to take advantage of an object, right? Strike while she's vulnerable!
| You won't listen to me either way but women are unable to love and you'll get hurt for nothing. Or if you're unable to love too then do anything you like. After all if she likes you then you'll be together but if she doesn't then yeah she'll feel betrayed by you and will date someone else to numb the "pain" of breaking up (or she won't idk). If you're good enough then she'll be ok with this if not then she'll think that you're a monster for trying to make a move
| >>702198
Bro. Homie. Cuh. Yes, you are. Looking at all women as a completely different entity that's worse than men and extremely lose, that's incel as fuck.
| *loose
| >women are unable to love and you'll get hurt for nothing.
>>702190 This is completely wrong and you should really evaluate how you view woman as a whole. Just because you may have been hurt doesn't mean everyone is the same. You have a warped sense of woman and you need help.
| I don't need help lol. Women are different bc of socialization and a little bc of evolution. Also I thought incel means involuntary celibate or smth not just new catchphrase for feminists? I'm not going to change my opinion on women bc you said "oh-oh that's sexist you know women are not like that...". Affection is not love and majority of women are unable to love. Most people are too but women are much much less likely to truly love someone.
| It's not just women. A lot of people nowadays are so self centered that they're unable to care for anyone else but themselves. Women usually fall in the more narcissistic side of things because they have guys kissing their ass half the time in social media. Finding someone genuine and honest in this day and age is very hard. Again, it goes both ways, not just women.
| I treat women in the same way I treat men too, are you in a thought police? So tell me why do I need help? To make you feel better bc there's one less "sexist incel" in the world? Or why? Also if socialization doesn't affect how people behave and think then you want to make statement about black people or smth? Anyway it doesn't matter, I just tried to give op my advice and suggested an action. If you want to make an argument address suggested action not my thoughts
| >>702226
The direct definition of incel you have there is correct, but it's usually used as a term for males who view women as lesser, mean and worse than men.
What you're saying is true for a few females. Just like it is true for a few men as well. Your narrow and generalised view of women is an incel mentality though.
I'm not telling you to change your views. I'm just saying it's generalising. As long as you don't hurt anyone the way you view the world doesn't matter.
| >>702231
Oh. This one hadn't loaded when I sent my last reply. You're just baiting or a really sad person. I'm sorry. Remember that not everything is bad, and that the things and people that hurt you aren't everyone.
| I'm not sexist/fascist/incel/etc. I do not approve any hatred-fueled social structures. I approve BLM to some extent if it's one of your concerns too. It's not what this thread is about in any case.
| >>702233
Are you gaslighting me lol. Stop making assumptions on my character and my feelings. Once again this is not what this thread is about so stop it won't help op in any way. Just "lol this dude is wrong don't do this" would be more adequate than what you post.
| G/u/rls, let's stay civilized and stop this little argument, okay? Pretty please? This thread isn't about this, just as >>5ca7e4 is saying.
| >>702237 no its not, but he has made it about himself.
>>702236 I'm not trying to tell you what you have to do. But I am saying that you don't know what you're talking about. I'm not sure what has made you think women can't love. I never said you were sexist, you brought that on yourself. And you can believe what you want but even scientifically there is no study that backs you up.
| >>702257
>You're an incel
>males who view women as lesser, mean and worse than men.
>I've never said you're sexist
Yeah ok. Sorry I tried to argue and made this thread about myself. I'm in a need of psychologal treatment I'm sorry that I think I'm always right and so egocentric.
| CUCK
| As a real g/u/rl, i honestly think you should just wait a bit instead of downright asking her right after. Breakups are hard and puts us in a vulnerable state so the immediate attention from someone would be nice but in the end you might just end up hurting yourself OP. Hmm, i was kind of in that situation before where someone asked me out and i "thought" i was ready but in the end i just ended up hurting both of us. Please don't do it.
| Cuckold indeed
| I say distance yourself and move forward in your own vein.
G/u/rls do not find that kind of devotion attractive for the nost part. By dating other people you will both temper your infatuation so it doesnt hurt as much and show your crush you are desirable to women and capable of holding a relationship.
| I ain't readin' all this shit. Speed up, move on or get left behind. Do you think she has you on the mind at all when shes getting railed? No chance, stop robbing yourself of oppertunity. Easy! This is the Formula 1 of life
| Well that happened.
| Yeah do what >>702298 said and wait.
Besides you don't have to tell her you like her so bluntly when the time comes. Why not say something like "I want to get to know you better, would be down to grab a coffee or something sometime?". At the end of the day that's what it is about, you surely want to know her better and you don't come off as a needy g/u/rl by just saying "I like you". That last sentence puts people in a rough spot. Wait, ask her out and then make your move.
| >>427255
I'll post a short update:
We've met a couple more times since she rejected me. Not only that she invited me, but kinda let things go very physical (nothing sexual but kinda close?...).
She's still dating him, so I don't get it. I really don't.
For now I think I'll give it more time, even though it hurts me to stay in this while I still have feelings. I'll cut things off when it either gets too much for me, or too disrespectful towards one of them.
| >>702639 >>702649 very dicey +1
R u sure u wanna be with a g/u/rl like that OP?
Idk seems v toxic but u tolerate it anyway so 乁( •_• )ㄏ
| >>48ee64
I guess that everyone has some downsides.
I tell myself that she wouldn't do it to me if we were dating, but that's kinda clowning myself.
Despite all that, personality-wise, we got pretty close. That's why I still want her. She kinda gets me.
>>56ae4e
Thanks~
I'm trying my best
| Ur a cuck
| Fuck the OP
| What a bitch
| It's the uncertainty that kills me
Why does it have to be such a pain :(
| Cuckold
| >>703278
Only being able to get a girl while she's emotionally vulnerable, just for a momentary relationship because you're desperate, I'd say that is the beta cuck move my friend.
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| Hey g/u/rls,
Long story short: I'm in the friendzone, either for later being a rebound or stay there. I still have feelings for her.
I plan on trying to ask her out again once she breaks up with her current bf (looks pretty soon to me). In case it fails, I plan on cutting the contact. I can't be "just friends" with someone I feel something for.
Wwyd in this situation?
P.s I really wanna die rn