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Asking for advice
| Let's tackle the obvious: appearance *do* matter, but only if you're in the extreme of things (like, I don't know, looking like crap at public places?). Appearance is what will strike first, if you can look about nicely dressed and whatnot, you have pretty much upped people's opinion for you.
However, this doesn't mean that you need to be a model or a god/goddesses of perfect image; what the 'norms' are seeking is "decency", not "perfection".
| >>70141
you can be a famous person and many girls want to be your girlfriend, there are a tutorial to develop a halo-personality where you litterally the center of your social circle
| The second question is a bit hard to handle, since that can vary person to person. Sometimes the advice "ask them first" work, but at times, it's the opposite that may work.
Reflect on this yourself, this is up to you and your comfort. See which one do you think would work better for you.
| And lastly, for the third question... Eh, I mean, it can be an age thing and it can also be an experience thing. I really don't have a set in stone definition for when one is ready for a relationship, maybe other g/u/rl here would know better for this one.
| Damn thanks all for the quick response!
>>70144 Ah ok, thanks for the input. I think I'm just average so prolly still a pass :D
>>70147 Thanks for the idea. Might look into that
| >>70149 >>70151 It's allright, your answers are deep insights on my questions already. I think it might be good for me to ask one of my friends too for this.
| Keep it simple and stupid, OP.
1. Yes, appearance matters. 'Handsome' only exists in people's minds, but taking good care of yourself always works. (Personal hygiene, healthy lifestyle, enough sleep, dress appropiately).
2. Irrelevant. You want to hook up with someone, take fate into your own hands. Just say hello and improvise from there.
3. Irrelevant. Approach someone, hit it off, and you will both come to realize you are in a relationship at some point.
| >>70192 Ok what I understand from your answer is that it would be first top self-presentation and the rest are experience. Got it, thanks for the input
| heres some tips:
1. keep your appearance in check. appearance plays a huge part, especially for first impressions. if you already know each other, just go for cool, decent, not over the top.
2. take initiative. if you stay passive, nothing will change.
3. let them feel/know youre into them, but dont be desperate. keep your cool
4. show them youre someone dependable, someone they might need. but dont be a pushover, or u might be used
| >>70434 Ok thanks. Hmm I really agree with 4, my friend was too dependable but naive and I saw many attempts by others to manipulate her so what you said is true.
| Well being naive is what we are are/have been at some point. It is part of growing up so later on you can tell a dud from genuine. As long as it doesnt make one paranoid and completely freakish from relationships, it's all good. There is also the kind of people who think naive is sexy and they will just fall depper and deeper into you.
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| So most ppl my age already have GF/BFs while I'm a loner myself. Recently, I have a person who I think I felt genuine love to but I'm unusure if I'm good enough to approach
What I'm asking is..
1) Honest opinion if people only actually care about appearance? (I consider myself not attractive but I'm making slow progress)
2) Any advice to approach someone? Better guy/girl first?
3) When does one considered ready to be in a relationship? Crazy obstacles?
Thanks in advance!