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| It's almost been a month since I fell in love with him. I've confessed, he didn't want me, we're still great friends, but, I still have the same romantic feelings for him. I want him so fucking bad. It hurts.

| 1 month? Lmao, the ride never ends!!

| Find a hobby to focus on.

| Also find me, hint hint smooch smooch.

| >>686299
That's hard when most of my hobbies are only really enjoyed with others and, well, COVID.

>>686294
I hope it does soon, but I do feel like it never will.

| >>686286
I sort of relate.
I loved him a lot but he was no longer interested in me.
What I did though, I distanced myself from him and from anything that reminded me of him.
I spent more time with my friends.
I also sought help and opened up to my friends.
It's a difficult process, but in the end it all paid off. I can now say with conviction that I no longer have feelings for him.

Tldr; stay away from things that remind you of him. Also, focus on loving and improving yourself.

| ok retard

| >>686354
Problem is though, he's one of my best friends. Staying away from him and being with my friends instead isn't really possible, because he's one of them, and one of the best ones by far.

I haven't talked to him in a week now, but, that hasn't changed anything. Also, he was never interested in me in the first place or anything. It's not like we've dated or even entertained the idea. I simply confessed and he said it's fine and that he doesn't mind me having a crush on him.

| Focus on the bad sides of him.

| ask them what anime they like

| >>686699
He doesn't really have any. I mean, of course, he's not 100% perfect, but he's still fucking incredible. It's hard to focus on the few little negatives when there's basically nothing but amazing positives.

>>686702
I know what anime he likes.

| Feelings for someone won't always go away. I have a good friend that I dated for a while. I'm not gonna get into the details, but over the span of about 4 years, and a lot of shit happening, I have never *stopped* loving her.
I don't know how long it will take to stop hurting, the situation sucks a lot. But trying to make the love itself go away might not be the right answer.

| I wouldn't suggest avoiding or purging him from your life, either. But your mental health is the most important thing here.

| >>686862
My mental health hasn't been good in, like, a long time. This is, like, I'll manage, but it's hard.

| "he doesn't mind me having a crush on him"
Of course he doesn't, who wouldn't like to be desired?
Is he considering your side of the situation? Your mental health?
Just because it was already bad it shouldn't stay that way.

Love doesn't just vanish, and a week of silence is really not that much.
Things like that take time. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
And by the tone of "basically nothing but amazing positives" i'd say the rose-colored glasses are still in full motion

| >>687465
Why should my mental health be taken into consideration when it comes to his side of things? It should be my call when it comes to momentarily cutting communication and stuff like that.

You can call it that, but I've seen him as an amazing person for the 4 years we've been close. I've seen a fair amount of negatives over those years and I still do. I'm not pretending he's perfect. He's just one of the best people I know and now I have feelings for him for that reason.

| OP, I was in the same situation. I was head over heels for a girl in my friend group, I confessed, she said no. Took me a while to get over it. A month was not enough, it took a while longer, but the good news it does wear off. Good luck OP <3

| >>687617
I'm sure it does but I wish I knew when. I'm gonna be spending a lot of time with him very frequently soon, so it would be nice if my feelings dissapeared the next week or two.