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Am I too attached to my friends?
| I think it's normal especially if u confide a lot with that person. But i guess u also need to keep urself busy bc it sounds like your world's slowly starting to revolve around them.
| Things is though, that playing games brings me more or less no happiness anymore. I often feel like shit even if I'm playing with him because it's not the same as being with him in-person and I don't feel like playing games most of the time.
So I often end up feeling very sad and getting even more sad when I don't get to hangout with him for a few days. I have one friends who wants to hangout almost constantly, but he's not good at listening and I get a lot tired being with him.
| >>663244
Ah, sorry. I'm slow with writing.
Yeah, I guess. I don't have school or a job or anything. I try to work on my creative projects, but I rarely have the motivation to even finish the small ones, so I don't really do anything.
It's not really that my world revolves aroun them, but, it's much, much better with them, to put it that way.
I have some online friends I love talking to, but they're often busy and time zones suck.
| >>663312 oh then that's totally normal! You just value your relationship, is all. It's hard to find genuine connections nowadays imo. I only have a few friends but i cherish them a lot so you're totally coolio my gurl
| I guess I just feel very lonely, demotivated and empty, and even though I often keep to myself I'm an extrovert at heart. I'm not the best socially, I'm kinda scuffed, but being with friends is the only thing that can give me true happiness, and I don't get to spend nearly as much time with them as I wish.
I might actually be moving in with that one friend of mine in a year or two, once we get our lives and school and stuff sorted out a little better, but, yeah. Idk.
| >>663331
Ah, okay, that's good. Also, sorry again for being slow at writing.
Yeah, I value them a lot more than anything else to be honest. They're the one thing that keeps me relatively sane and make me actually want to live. I just feel like complete shit when I'm not spending time with them or doing anything productive, and I only really get the motivation to do stuff if I'm happy, which usually is after having been able to spend time with them.
| Well, I still think I might be, actually.
| I spent most of yesterday with a great friend of mine, and it was really nice and made me genuinely happy. Today I can't hangout with anyone, and it's making me really depressed.
| I just don't really have any other source of happiness than being with them, and I hate it when they want to play games all day instead of spending time together. Like, I understand doing that every now and then. I need to take breaks from social situations quite often because I can get sensory overload from almost nothing. I can't understand stuff like not waiting 2 extra minutes so we can walk together, to get home and play video games as quickly as possible or that shit though.
| I guess I feel, like, not worth it I guess. My friends often prefer video games over spending time with me. A very close online friend of mine is always too busy with school or bring in group voice calls to spend time with me. I just feel like I'm not wanted. I know it's not true. They just enjoy doing other things as well. We always have fun whenever we talk or do stuff together. I guess it's just the anxiety and shit. Fuck. I realised that this thread is almost just me. Sorry.
| >>663939 okay hmmm im no therapist but maybe u r. Sometimes i love being with my friends because they shift my attention from the reality of who i am. That kind of jazz. Don't apologize
| >>664063
Ah, yeah. I'm the same, but being with friends is more or less the only way I can shift my attention away from all the bad shit.
Okay, thanks, I won't. I just felt like, you know, I'm taking up a lot of space here just ranting about personal shit.
| >>664071 hey it's normal. Sometimes it's nice to just vent it out towards anonymous people to let it out. Ive done that a few times here on /u/ so no worries about it. I hope you find the good balance that you need between your friends and being okay with being alone. At the end of the day, we go home to ourselves and we'll need to face that reality.
*virtual hugs my gurl*
| >>664118
Thanks. Yeah, I really need to relearn how to be alone. I used to do it just fine. Make jokes with myself, think about random shit, chill with a single player game, read a book, just have a good time alone. After gaining a lot of mental problems though, I feel like I've lost that. I'm only able to do those things together with someone, and not alone.
Well, venting here is fine, but probably 30-40% of all the mental health threads on this board are me, so it feels selfish.
| Like, mental health threads started becoming common place here after I made a few, and even when a lot more people started making them, 50% of them were me. Now they're plenty though. Like, half of /u/ or some shit is mental health/venting, but, idk. It feels weird. I've made so, so many venting threads and been able to say a lot and get genuinely good support and advice, yet here I am with the most self absorbed ranting thread of them all.
You're being very nice about it though.
| Give him blowjobs while he games. You get to be with him and he gets to play. Everyone wins.
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| Basically, I feel like shit a lot, but when I'm with friends, especially one of them, I just feel a lot better. I can talk to him about anything, we have very good synergy and I can talk to him for hours and still feel completely relaxed and stuff. I get very sad whenever I want to hangout with him, but he doesn't want to. He's not the most social person and stays inside and plays games a lot because he just, well, really likes games I guess.