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How to move on from a person i didnt date
| But like how ??? Idk what to do with what im feeling. I was serious with my heart and intentions towards him.
I felt scammed and i feel my heart cracking but ppl expect me to be okay with this. I.. i'm lost. I was so fucking serious. He had a kid and i was ready to be a step-mom. Damn my kokoro's beat up, gurls.
| gurl listen to this and drill it right into your dumb little head:
YOU DODGED A BULLET
>YOU DODGED A BULLET
YOU DODGED A BULLET
>YOU DODGED A BULLET
| +1
| >>658404 LOL I KNOOOW
it's just not that easy to like, uncommit like that for me. When i love, i love hard and he knew this!!
I really did dodge a huge ass bullet but also i've never felt so scammed this hard before!! Made me go *surprise pikachu face*
| Hey.. I'm sorry for what you had to go through I know it's hard and I can imagine what you're going through. But you will get through it I know I know easier said than done.. I know I know very well but trust me you will. Because you are stronger than you think. I know the pain your feeing is like someone cut you in half and just ripped out very thing inside you stomping on it aggressively mocking the love you gave making you feel helpless and stupid you get mad and
| Call them all sorts of names. But in the end you still love that stupid boy right? It's hard to just forget everything and move on? As if nothing happened I know it kills it kills so damn much you feel like you're literally dying and no matter how much you're screaming it seems like no one can hear your cries as you drown in your own tears. You try to act like you've moved on trying to lie to yourself comming up with a million excuses but yet you know you can't you just want
| something to plaster the pain.. I know, love is beautiful and it can make you feel like the only girl or boy in the world you feel so blessed for having chose the path you took, the way they talk even by text how it goes your stomach in a knot and when you hear a notification your heart races sure love can be beautiful but one thing that people don't tell you is that love is not all happy go lucky and rainbows, sugar puffs there's much much more to it..
| it can be ugly, it can be messy, there'll be many times youl cry, many times your heart will break because as beautiful Love is, love is not perfect that's why love isn't easy, love takes time; love makes time. It can't be rushed, or forced itll come to you. Take this time to live someone else who needs to be loved. Do you know who? you that's who ^^ you're the one that matters and you'll see once you love yourself you'll see the world on a different light and not only will it
| benefit you but also the people around you; you'll raidate because you are you're best self when you have found acceptence within yourself and love who you truly are that's what most attractive and what will also help the love you have with someone in the future stay strong. Focus on yourself and when you feel you're ready find that special someone but remember take this in as a lesson of what happened don't fall to easily.
| It why I love to say "let it take it's time, love takes time but don't worry because love will make time so don't rush things and go slow, with patience love will grow."
You got this I know you can do it X
Watch your favourite series
Do the things you said you'd always do but never did
Talk to your friends because they'll always have your back
Watch that film you wanted to watch
Comfort food
But most of all learn to love yourself
- soli (the sun will shine again ^^))/*""
| *just ripped out everything
| *text, how your stomach goes in a knot
| *time to love someone else who needs to be loved.
| *you'll see the world in a different light and not only will it
| *you'll raidate because you are your best
| Ps sorry for all the corrections >~<
| >>658554 tl;dr yes it hurts and sucks rn but it's gonna be ok. Just focus on yourself first and the rest of the good things will follow
| >>658548 thank you!! This made me feel better.
The reason he said dating isnt his thing rn is because he was gonna do his dream or some sht which is bull. He just doesnt wanna put the effort or he was never serious in the beginning.
Thanks for putting it out there. I think i just need space to heal from all of this but i cant go away because he wants me to remain as his best friend.
Man i guess i just gotta push through
| This is why I love this place. It can be so helpful and wholesome.
| Heyyii I know exactly how you feel and honestly them asking to still be friends is selfish. Don't do what I did it's only going to hurt you more because you'll need getting your hopes up and each time you'll get your heart hurt because as much as we deny it we want to be more than friends. And trust me it will kill you more when he finds someone else. You need space for your own, I think it'd be better if you say to him that to not communicate for a while- a long while
| Until you got your sentiments cleared and your feelings controlled and you feel more at peace with yourself because trust me once you love yourself you'll be stronger than ever, you'll be raidiating with so much confidence! And that's what you need. I know it all sound like baloney but once you love yourself I'm sure you'll see things in a much clearer picture, after all we understand things more clearly once we take s step back
| So use this time to reflect and most of all heal yourself you my dear is far ore important than whatever he wants so if he say you're selfish or whatever for wanting space tell him to egg himself because he's the one being selfish and do heartless the fact that he knows your feelings towards him, the amount of low you feel and yet he had the guts to day for you to stay as friends??
| Dear you are more important
| You come first
| I know its hard as it's so easy to fall in because what you felt was real
| But you know you're only going to make your heart ache
| So why don't you give your heart a break it'll help not only your heart but mainly you you really need time for yourself x
| *because you'll be getting your hopes up
| *once we take a step back
| *yourself you my dear is far more
| >>658693 ahhh you're so sweet! You're right. I think i do need time. And it really hurts a lot like, so much. And i guess i havent been acknowledging it because i don't want him to get hurt.
Ugh i just. i don't think im strong enough because im horrible at confrontations.
| *so heartless
| I knooowwww exacctlllyy how you feellll
| I've been there
| >>658610 yeah i vent my problems here tbh. I feel like you guys know me more than the people im with. I love /u/
| But do you want to be opened as an second option because to me you're far more than that no one deserves to be as a second option. Even though they deny it they most likely want to be friends because just in case anything happens they know they'll have you because they know the love you have for them is strong
| That's why you need to be careful x
| Awww I love you too
| I may not know you but I do care about your feelings xx
| I don't want to see you or anyone get hurt x
| You're number one
| You come first
| Before any guy
| You x
| >>658705 have you been in this situation before ahhHh i wanna talk more abt this!! Do you have a discord or anything omg
| I do ^^
| I'll be more than glad to talk to you x
| And yes I have been in the si5 more than once sadly but it's helped me grow strong
| That's why I know you can too x okaii holdies
| Solita#7886
| .
| i dont know if it's that haha i haven't used discord in a while i downloaded it again:')
| Huh? Oh wait I didn't verify maybe that's why??
| Try again x
| I'm going to go sleep as it's really late but I will message you as soon as I'm up which will be pretty soon to be honest :') I hope you sleep well and that you have sweet dreams, sleep tight and I hope you're all warm night night x
| Morning i hope you slept well i slept a little more than i had intended but my body will thank me as i really needed the sleep ^^ so howd you sleep?
| >>658859 hello good morning!! It didnt work the first time because the S was capital ahhh i just added you!!!
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| He had the intention of marrying me
And now we're just "best" friends.
Feel like he just used me as a spare time to flirt to while quarantine happened and now that it's lifted where he is, he barely talks to me anymore.
His best friend talked to me and she told me that he did the same thing to her and that once i get over my feelings i'll be okay. /1