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I am so frustrated with my life
| Where do you live? HS is shit, till it end you are a kid after that is when you start doing your part and history to the world, if haven't played all the games you could, watched all the animes that you wanted and made some friends, welp I can say I may be a little bit harder after that, but yeah till it end it's not like life had a meaning it's just go to class and do your home work, enjoy the free time. When you got in uni, life will really begin
| I live in upstate NY. I have no idea what I would want to do if I do go to college though. I feel like if I make the wrong decision I will end up being unhappy for the rest of my life
| Well, I'm in my last year of highschool and feel exactly the same with the exception that besides everything you've said, I'm also scared that I won't be able to go to University because I'm dumb.
| I also don't know where I want to go to University. I don't know what I like and I don't know what I would be good at if I study it in uni.
I don't know if this will make you feel any better but just think that you still have 2 more years to make up your mind, to find some hobbies and also, playing games and watching tv is not that bad, enjoy it while you still have this much free time. Your life hasn't yet been wasted
| Honestly, the first year of uni is a great time to figure out what you ACTUALLY want to do. It may take some convincing from your parents, but changing your course entirely is a viable option. The one year you spent as a computer scientist or some shit won't be a waste of time even if you have to restart your bachelor education all over as a psychologist. There is no "useless" information learned in a good uni that won't ever be relevant to you in life, even if it's "unfinished".
| My grades are Ok I just don't want to end up being a lonely and sad person with a job I hate. Another thing that scares me is the fact that I may never see any of my friends again after high school. I have a hard time making friends and without the ones I already have I'm worried that I will end up becoming a recluse.
| Uni is also a great environment for you to figure out if the whole education system fits you at all. Maybe you're thinking "fuck the system, I just wanna go out into the world as a wasteman freelancer actor/game designer/artist/bitcoin miner" now, but it's not until uni that you realise how much that Fuck The System thinking actually applies to you and how much you want to just go out there and DO IT. Whatever you do, just have a plan, okay? No matter how crude it is, just have one
| And really, right now you have a bunch of time to learn something. There is no skill that is impossible for you to learn. As long as you can break a complex learning process into several smaller steps, your brain will soak that shit in like a sponge.
A lot of people, including me, wish they had at least a year to polish up their skills in peace without pressure. You got two. I very sincerely wish you good luck.
| >>62420 honestly I think this is bad advice-- you shouldn't look forward to uni and think 'that's when my life will really begin' because that's the same as having a big project to do and saying 'oh I'll start it later' and you just keep pushing it back until it never gets done. Don't start that habit-- when something needs to be done, get it done. Maybe this doesn't apply to you--I'm mostly speaking from experience. What's most important is knowing yourself,and knowing your limits
| Also, a thing about talent. Fuck talent.
Pretend it doesn't exist. Whatever talent you have or don't have should never affect who you wish to be in the future.
Me personally, I am a near genius at linguistics. I can learn languages extremely quickly if I apply myself, but languages are not a passion for me at all. I can get top tier language education ez, but I just can't find any language related job fun. I don't want to have my job be a chore, even if I'm the best in the world.
| I'd rather struggle and barely earn enough to eat doing something that I fucking love, like game making.
Honestly, that's what everyone feels. But a part of our culture is this idolisation of talent, which I fucking hate. If you're not making the best out of your natural talent, you're wasting something and you're doing a disservice to the world and you're probably gonna end up drinking your life and wife away according to this culture. Fuck that. FUCK that.
| You life in the USA, I asked because in other places you would not have such freedom as you have in the USA, ou Just need to choose a field not exactly what job you want to do! If you like math and physics go to the some engineer school and there after many classes you may find if you want to go to civil, eletric, chem, or other specialization. If you like computer go to some tech school, and there it goes.
| Hey OP, and >>62446, these are all pretty common feelings to have. I won't pretend that I have my life figured out, but just a few thoughts. Firstly, you have so much time left to figure things you. It's a good thing to keep in mind that in highschool (or even until you're 70 and dying imo) there's no such thing as a "whole life wasted" when you still have your whole life ahead of you. Also, this frustration, while normal, is important.
| You're in tune with yourself enough to know that you want things to change. Hold on to that feeling and study it actively, not passively. You need to use those feelings to find and reach goals.
Please enjoy the free time you have, and try as many things as you can until you find something you love. Maybe University isn’t even the route for you; or maybe it will be later. (Also never compare yourselves to others OP, I guarantee most of the people in your HS have a similar worries.)
| <3 y'all
| I don't really know what I should try to learn though. What if I spend the next two years learning how to create art only to realize that it doesn't make me happy? Most people I have talked to say that college is much better than high school, and that you can learn much more but I'm so scared that I might waste that time learning something that I'm ultimately not satisfied with.
| >>62462 I'll agree with this except, like I sort of said above, it's important to know that there is a lot of time to figure things out. The best time is always now, but at any one point in life you have your whole life ahead of you and to avoid guilty feelings it's important to keep this in mind.
| But seriously thank all you g/u/rls for helping me out. I really appreciate it.
| >>62476 Try everything you can, without worrying about the time wasted. If you aren't enjoying something, drop it. If you come back to it later anyhow, embrace it. Obviously, this advice applies better for hobbies and personal growth than Uni. In University, enroll in what sounds most interesting, but give yourself the freedom to try new things and change your mind. If you find out you don't like art after two years, good! At least you found out before 20 years. :)
| Fuckin try everything then.
Don't do art because you think it's a neat skill to have. Do it to get a feel for how artists work and then decide if you want to go with that. Try anything you can think of, and try not to make the introduction too shallow. Don't just quit after 5 minutes, dig into it. Then quit if you wanna.
Don't have much advice at this point other than, once you try the one thing that clicks with you, you'll KNOW.
Unless it drugs. THAT'S designed to click with you.
| Don't do drugs pls
| I'm a good boy no drigs
| *drugs
| Alcool in party is okey
| Another thing I have trouble with is how I would get started learning something new. Let's say I wanted to learn how to make art. Where would I start? Should I just practice by myself or should I find a tutor? If I am going to learn something I want to do it the right way.
| That really depends on what works for you. Some people are just really self-motivated, some people do well with routines, I for example can't really commit to voluntary things without someone to do or talk about it with. So if it were me I'd find some people you like that do what you might be interested in, but obviously you're someone else.
| I wouldn't worry too much about doing things "right" though - if you think you're wasting your time now you won't be any worse off if you waste it in the future, and if you're pursuing things that make you happy or a "better person" you'll learn something at the very least.
| You live in 20xx, look in the internet, YouTube for exemple. There is also a bunch of site online that teach stuff like economic, art, program and things like this. Nothing have source is no excuse
| Do a flip when you jump off a skyskraper to increase your suicide points by 10x
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| I am currently in my sophomore year of high school and I feel like my whole life has been wasted. I have no hobbies or skills besides playing video games and watching tv. I have no idea what I want to do after high school, and it's really scaring me. I feel like I have no future and it's all my fault. It also doesn't help that I have to watch all the other students in my school succeed and improve their skills. I feel like the most incompotent and boring person in my school.