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dating advice for a 20 y/o man
| You've gotten more success than the average user.
Maybe try dating girls you find on messageboards instead.
| >>598006 1) I thought bumble was for gays. Like grindr?
2) it's only been 2 weeks. Why in such a rush? You've already proven more successful in dating attempts than I have in 2 years of using dating apps. Dating takes time, unless you're just looking for a hook up.
3) if you're interested in either of the girls, shoot your shot. Unless they've said before that they werent looking for a relationship, they were on a dating app.
| >>6da2eb Thanks. I really wasn't putting my experience in perspective. I guess I was just so excited by the prospect of no longer being alone that I got a little carried away.
| >>013f2c At least you had an date. I'm also on tinder since... Well, three weeks now? No dates and the only girl who ever answered lives 500km away and happened to drive through my city. .-.
| Okay, uh, you know what, let me hijack this thread (only somewhat, not completely) and ask for advice about general chatting and finding things to talk about constantly, which may or may not extend to holding a conversation before/during dates.
| >>748fd6 Absolutely impossibru it seems. There is no fucking thing to talk about endlessly. It always get's weird after a short time I think.
| There's a trick to extending conversation: it's to branch out. When they start out with 'how are you?', you don't end it with 'fine'. You state how you feel, go on to say why you feel that way, elaborate how it got to that point, so on so forth, while leaving room in the conversation for them to jump in should they find a topic they're interested in. It can be tricky to know when you're being too self-absorbed, but it'll be better than leaving no room for talks.
~chews brook mai
| Another example is, 'nice weather, innit?'. You don't go 'yeah, rainy', you state how you feel about it, how it affects you, the things you will do, what they will do, so what do they do? And if they feel like opening up, they'll begin to converse. If people give one-word answers or doesn't really keep eye contact, it might be better to just leave. Though depending on whether or not they are shy, best to keep talks brief and focus more on activities.
~lizzy money noel
| Have confidence, don't be afraid to fuck it up. Infact it's the best if you act like you don't care at all.
We're in a speed-dating age, go to as many dates as possible "hey, nice shoes, wanna grab a coffee on friday?"
Don't neglected friends and people that support you over romantic interest. Because if you do form your world around a single person that world can and will fall apart - and when it does you'll be left all on your own.
| Lol
Not worth it by a long shot.
You don't like loneliness just 'cause you take it for granted.
Good luck, you're gonna need it.
| OP here, and much drunker this time. I was supposed to take a girl out to smoke her out, but she told me she had strep the day of. Another girl I was supposed to take out to the movies the coming week cancelled the day after that. Struggling not to personalize the situations. I'm listening to sad music (from end of Evangelion), so I'll probably end up drinking some more. Thoughts?
| I drank more.
~fop hag auger
| >>598331 Don't steal my signature, fag.
Also, you want my absolute candid opinion? I think it's a waste of time devoting your energy to chasing after women and basing your worth on 'owning' one of them. Just stop being an idiot and do something else you enjoy. You have porn and prostitutes for sexual release, and friends for company. What is even the point of dating? Just watch more anime and pick a waifu from there if you're that desperate.
~was swum wings
| >>598348 Yeah, there are so many other great things in live besides romance
And if you try to get a girl just for the purpose of getting a girl, then that's not healthy imo
| I just accepted that I'll be lonely
I'm officially a volcel
| I would suggest you look into actual chemists if you want to learn more about, Carbon Dating/Radiocarbon dating. I don't think danger/u/ would be the place to ask for Dating advice.
| >>598534
It was a lovely one, wasn't it? Yours is not half bad either.
- the g/u/rl who had that ID before
| >>598348 >>598541
I'm not interested in "owning" anyone, that's a gross incel way of viewing relationships and women. I'm also not just in it for the sexual release. I feel like many of my friends have actually connected to people in ways that I never have. I'm more so interested in meeting someone whose genuinely interested in me and vice versa.
| >>598564 I have two questions for you
1. Are you getting laid?
2. Do you want to get laid?
If your answer for 1 is no and for 2 is yes then congratulations you're an incel! That's all there is to it and it's just another empty label used to ridicule people just as "virgin" was not too long ago
| Now for the other possibilities
Yes for both means you're a chad
No for both makes you a volcel
Yes for 1 and no for means you are technically being raped, damn that's heavy shit
| >>598564 And you can't find someone to genuinely care for you without having to be in a romantic, ie highly potentially sexual, relationship? Ask yourself, why are you trying so hard?
I'll be fair here, being connected in both body and mind with someone sounds like quite an experience to be had. But with the way you're going about things, you won't be able to build enough of a personal connection to do that, so it'll be mindless sex anyways.
>>598569 Kek.
~bills toms slide
| >>598590 There are people who I genuinely care about in a plutonic way, for example that was dealing with serious S.I. or another friend that comforted me when I was dealing with S.I. I guess I've felt like an undesirable person for so long that it feels like the only way to invalidate that feeling is to disprove it via lived experience. That is I feel unwanted b/c I have no counter example to challenge that thought with.
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| I've been on tinder and bumble for 2 weeks and only been on 1 first date thus far. I've been talking to 2 other girls on snap, but nothing has come from it yet. Any advice on how to improve my date chances.