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How to deal with someone permanently in a bad mood?
| As someone also with chronic pain, jesus, I'm sorry. One of my biggest fear is that I will be someone like your father. I try to be patient and to not lash it out, but I still slip sometimes.
I'm sure you've done this, but you have consulted a doctor, right? Got meds to help deal with the pain? Maybe get a therapist who's specialized with pain management?
Otherwise, just be patient with him. Tune the words out. Trust me, he doesn't mean them.
| >>591736 I'm sorry to hear you also experience such pain, and are in such a situation.
We have, the only medicine he uses that works is an opioid (partially works at that). It's prescribed regularly so obtaining is not a problem, but we also wondered if that was connected to his mood. He's also seen multiple pain management doctors and considered surgery. Unfortunately he's not in shape to have it as a heart patient.
I appreciate the response, and I will be more patient with him.
| Maybe get him some heroin? That's supposed to get you in a pretty good mood. For a serious answer though, I don't know. Like, the only solutions I can come up with is to either deal with him or give him drugs. Neither sound fun.
| Ugh, I want to say "maybe get him a fun hobby to distract him" but honestly? When I'm in physical pain even my favourite, non-physically-demanding, activities can get frustrating.
Wish you and your fam the best, op.
| sharing positive emotions even at hardest dialogues works ok for me, but it is brutally hard every time, even at times when I 100% know the person doesn't mean it
wish you and your father the best, you can do it op!
| Opioid medications often cause an irritable mood in many people, this could be a side effect, encourage him to speak with his doctor about this and possible alternatives or doseage changes
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| For background info, my father deals with chronic pain. The pain is intense, and it's hard to cope with. I love him, and my family and I do everything we can to accommodate him.
But because so, he's usually crabby. And he tends to take his anger out on everyone around him, including our family. Not violently, mostly by mean comments or micromanaging. We don't mind him complaining of pain, but his attitude and micromanaging is wearing on our last nerve.