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Feeling bad for being kind
| So you feel bad that you didn't confront some one in the wrong I mean c'mon dude yeah you should've been like why did you steal my shit and get them embarrassed at least cmon
| did you stay silent because you just don't want to hurt his feelings or his pride? or you stayed silent because you were shy or nervous?
| You weren't being kind OP, you were being a doormat. Kindness isn't about ignoring misdeeds, it's about compassion.
You should confront him and be like "I know you stole this thing and I didn't want to say anything but it's getting to me, could I please have it back?"
| >>358955 I think he was being kind to him and others around, and instead of embarrassing him and making a scene he decided to not bring it up
| You can be nice without letting people fuck you over, OP. When people wrong you, try to solve it ffs. You can do it without resorting to petty revenge. I don't think that dude deserved to be spared from social spurning, but you could've just talked to him privately or something.
| Op, you're being such a pushover. Don't let people step on you like that. That isn't fair to yourself. Confront the theif and take back what was yours. Being assertive does not equal being mean.
| Letting these type of things slide will encourage people to wrong you again because it's easy.
| My lord, thank you all everyone for the advice. I'll take the advices seriously when needed. I tend to avoid something that can give troubles, even if it hurts me. Thanks, everyone, I really appreciate it. Hope you all have a nice year
- OP
| >>359986 I'm glad OP. I hope you can resolve this conflict peacefully, and get your valuables back.
| >>359986 are u Japanese by any chance? that way of thinking as trying not to stick out and in general putting overs over yourself is really prominent in Japan.
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| So, a dude stole something valuable from me secretly. Although I knew about it, I kept on being silent, even smiled at him as if nothing happened. Shortly after, I wished that I can smash his face off. Is it wrong for being kind ?