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Things that Hurt Lonely People
| mood
| Gut wrenching heartbreak over the one crush I ever had. It was over ten years ago.
| >>332067
1. That's why you don't watch moe/slice of life. It is basically facebook, people showcasing the best/most fun part of their life.
2. Why the fuck are you eating out alone? Take outs ftw
3. That's why you don't watch animemes and ascend to arthouse shows.
| >>332210 It's when I walk over to the counter to pick up my order when I come into brief contact with normal society.
| >That's why you don't watch moe/slice of life. It is basically facebook, people showcasing the best/most fun part of their life.
And it is a work of fiction, just
like the lives on Facebook.
| seeing people have a fun chummy conversation
| >When a group of happy people start laughing together at one of those circular tables at a resturaunt.
;_;
| *it
| Why hurt? Embrace the loneliness
| I am crying right now
| Honestly? I feel playing vns/games that make you strongly feel for the characters could do harm.
I've loved what I've played of VA-11 Hall-A so far, but I think getting invested in the lives of fictional characters is just a way of ignoring my social isolation - "I don't need to spend time with my friends when I could just work in a cyberpunk bar!"
Do I refund? Or is it just the equivalent of getting invested in a novel? is it fine ALONGSIDE a social life?
Help out a new g/u/rl
| You are not alone.
| >>334553
Then again, I feel what separates a VN or any game from a book is that you can feel part of the game, like these are people you know.
I worry that if I continue playing VA-11 Hall-A it'll just be as a substitute for a real social life. Like I'm just ignoring my real friends - who I only see in school - in favour of virtual characters.
Should I just reject, refund, VA-11 Hall-A as a distraction from improving my real life?
| >>334636 just abstain from games like that as a whole. you don't have to refund it or anything. focus on improving your social life. once you're comfortable with where you're at, start playing those games again and find a balance between the two - maybe play less in one sitting and talk to your friends more.
| >>334636 If you spend your time correctly, you shouldn't be sacrificing any social time. Whatever trade-off between having fun and improving real life is in your head.
Playing VNs isn't any different than other hobbies. Sure, it consumes time, but that doesn't mean you have to use time that could be spent with friends.
Point is, VNs and real life are different, and neither is a perfect replacement for the other. But it's not a distraction as long as you use common sense.
| And to answer OPs question:
VN hangovers are what really get to me. When I play VNs, it makes real life seem blander, but the amount of time I spend enjoying it far outweighs the VN hangover anyways because
A) The VN can give experiences I've never had in real life.
B) 3 hours of fun VN time in exchange for 2 minutes of silent weeping isn't a bad trade. I'd do the weeping part without the VN anyways.
| I don't think it is healthy to watch slice of life shows when you are lacking/in need of social interaction...
You will think it as a replacement/way to cope for your loneliness, not realizing it only fuels your loneliness even more.
I mean, it is the same as listening to sad songs when you are heartbroken or playing VN just because you want a GF badly. You want it at that time, but it doesn't solve the problem.
| Reaching out try to talk to someone and then them just ignoring you.
| Getting stabbed hurts alot
| Looking at the empty spaces where loved ones used to be. The entire city reminds me of my parents. Now that they're gone I find myself looking at restaurants, districts, stuff we enjoyed together... I gotta get me some of that weeb shit you guys are on.
| Getting shot at
| For me, when people get too comfortable and get very content with you, to the point they think annoying you constantly has no consequence. I'm in the army and I'm stuck with my dudes for a long time. I'll think that I'm really patient, but I'm hella sensitive, and as much as I play off the banter and stuff it makes me realise how much more lonely I am. Makes me feel that being alone is better than bothering to make friends and put up with shit people give, even if it's depressing.
| - getting stabbed with a knife
- getting hit by a car
- falling from a staircase
| > bone hurting juice
| Seeing the people who you used to be close with grow out of your life. They make new friends and alike while you isolate yourself for "your own good". They might says they don't forget you or anything but still never interact with you anymore. Not like it is bad, it's better that way.
| Seeing the people who you used to be close with grow out of your life. They make new friends and alike while you isolate yourself for "your own good". They might says they don't forget you or anything but still never interact with you anymore. Not like it is bad, it's better that way.
| The only time it hurt me was when my closest friend got an child
| I get hurt when people tell me to "just make friends" like no, I wanna stay in my room stop trying to save my soul.
| I dont understand how people can be lonely. I love the solitude.
| Dying alone.
| Awake.
| >>336443
I don't know how it is in the army but in a normal scenario I would recommend thinking about how you feel and telling them if you don't like something they do.
You are stuck with them so I would not try to be confrontational/very demanding about it.
Even if they kept annoying you, the fact that you have had the courage to state your feelings and make your voice heard may make you feel better and improve your self-esteem.
Good luck g/u/rl.
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| Here are some of mine:
-Looking away from my phone in the middle of watching slice of life anime to realize I'm in my dim and empty room.
-When a group of happy people start laughing together at one of those circular tables at a resturaunt.
-When I try to think about a crush but I realize my sexuality has been screwed over by anime.
Anyways, what are your g/u/rls biggest problems with loneliness?