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I have socialization problems
| Well, what do you like? What're your interests.
| >>325d1d
Get a job in retail or anything that requires customer service. Not only will it force you to get better at socializing (difficult at first I know) but it'll also put a little extra jingle in your jeans.
| You and me both, sister. :(
| I know the struggle g/u/do
>>300007 sounds like a good idea even though working in retail really isn't the most enjoyable thing
| There's got to be a solution though. Some people make friends so easily, what are they doing that we aren't? Or perhaps, what *aren't* they doing that we are?
| >on dangeru
Redundancy much?
| >>300422 well for once they are talking to people, second they have hobbies and things that passionate them meaning that they can do more than just small talk.
Usually any new conversation goes like this: greet them -> small talk -> find something you both have in common during small talk -> talk about the thing you both have in common.
| What they aren't doing is not sounding interested, if someone ask you how did you did on the test you have to ask him about it too cause if you don't you just sound like you don't want to talk right now so you have to be actually listening and talking, something that can be hard, the they won't mind if you don't have experience talking
Nothing wrong in not wanting to talk but they will stop trying to talk to you if you don't actively participate on the talking
| Making "friends" is quite easy. Everything is on a basis that everyone should know. Give and receive.
Other people want things from "you" (you here isn't exactly you yourself, but anyone), once you manage to find what they want, you simply have to offer them and voila, you got a friend.
Generally, you can go with acceptance, gratefullness, listening. Actually, to simply listen to people is a big freepass most of the times.
Also, everyone wear a mask, a facade, use of persona.
| (we can except some NA peeps lacking that ability) but the point is that there is no shame in "cheating" at socializing, the rules are biased from the start.
Well, I may be a little over simplifying it, the way you give what the people search/want/desire make a lot and humans being full of shit, appearance take a major place in the process.
| To simplify it even further, fake it til you make it bbe.
Just pretend to be interested until you find something you actually both care about. Otherwise that convo will dud out.
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| Ive never been true weeb w/ all that wierd weeb features (like anime partiality, 10+hrs/day online, studies problems etc.) but also i havent any friends (or even spoke to anyone by my own initiative) for about 3 yrs (and as i can guess ppl think that im typical nolifer). And the problem is that this intermeditate state isnt comfortable. So, should i throw away all this irl shit (obv sarcasm) or kill myself or (how?) git frunds?