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Emotional isolation
| I am at uni and still am lonely af, but that's my fault
| Most classes I've been in, people don't talk much and leave the second they're over, but that's something that can vary depending on the class and where you go. Still, there's a good chance that you would have to go out of your way to get to know people, with extracurricular stuff like clubs and student organizations probably being where you'd get the most chances.
| I made my group of friends in college by walking up to a group of people that were casually singing, playing instruments and dancing. Got to know them just by hanging with them in the courtyard.
There are a million ways to get involved.
Also, have you ever tried talking to your friends on a deeper level? Have you ever tried to really understand them the way you want them to get you? Remember, friendship is a two way street. (:
| I don't know an easy solution. Our society seems intent on only becoming more and more isolationist, and really people seem morr interested in propogating fear of one another than opening up to eachother.
| My dick is also isolated, I thibk you should envelop it in warmth
| >>275927 Us socialists have a term for that: We call it "Atomization", in that the individual is encouraged to operate independently of family bonds, friendships, and ties with their fellow man, and simply content themselves with work and private consumption.
Don't fall for their tricks.
My solution has been to find any possible reason to get out and meet people. Whether it's attending events at the library, or simply walking in the mall, spending time
| Never had friends at uni. If you struggled building relationships with people at school you will at uni. I'd suggest finding a thing you can do isolated from the society and still have fun and live well.
| You just got to talk to people and keep it up. Nothing complicated about it the hard part is doing it. Currently at the bar with classmates I've know for years but still so distant from them
| You have to put yourself out there. It will suck, but that's the only way you'll make friends. It gets easier over time though
| I used to isolate myself in high school too, now in uni I'm quite popular (it was an accident). I didn't really care for social contact so it did not affect me if I had friends, I had a few and still like to have these close ones. If you are going to uni, do something that you have at least some interest and friends come with time, I didn't expected what happened to me so... Let's see how it turns out for you
| OP here. Thanks for taking your time to say your bit.
>>275746 I guess I am a bit of a hypocrite as I don't allow myself to be serious around people. But I just reckoned whining won't actually make them smile or any more empathetic towards me.
>>276140 Well more hypocracy on my part. I understand this in theory (am a leftist), but I just feel "helpless". Like I'm never actually capable to return a favor and so I'm just deadweight to my friends and community. Then again I'm 18 y/o
| >>276195 Problem isn't to keep chatting with people, I'm can talk for hours and people do find it mildly interesting. It's just this feels pointless...
>>276297 Kinda feel you. In elementry school I was look at as wierd and to be mocked. But oddly bullies don't see their bullying as bullying and they remembered me as they guy they had fun with. It was odd, but as the pushover I am I did continue hangout with them (they did mature a bit, so yeah). Again, it just feels pointless...
| To conclude my rant on how I'm lonely despite being around people I'd say I will try to actually figure out other people's personalities, what they like and whatnot, and maybe all the people I've met thus far won't seem so indentical and boring. And if all else fails I guess I can volunteer in the military for a few months. At least that way I will have a handsome bod.
Also >>276029. We have a deal as long as you envelop my dick as well!
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| AKA I'm lonely despite having people who know me IRL and a small circle of internet friends.
I may sound like a prick (Using psychologial terms doesn't help me in this regard) but genuently I'm about to end highschool, unsure if I want to go to uni and just feel like the people who currently know me don't actually want to understand me.
I heard people in uni are cool. Is joining a uni just to have classmates considered normal? (Accounting the cost of tuitions).
...Probably not.