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I think I might be gender fluid but I don't know, plz help
| ... a dominant girlfriend, I'm friends with more girls than guys, very emotional, etc. A while back I considered the possibility that I could be androgynous, and still consider it a possibility. I've taken a test (the S.A.G.E. test) and it diagnosed me as androgynous in body and mind, but socially female. I've recently done lots of research on genderfluidity, and it may be what I am, but I'm not sure. I've been keeping track of my behaviour, and am finding that some things seem to
| ... alternate, the clothes I wear, nothing like dresses or skirts (conservative family R.I.P.), seem to alternate either day to day or week to week between feminine (shirts that accentuate collar bone, jeans with cute designs on the butt, loose fitting lounge wear, etc) and androgynous, like hoodies, and occasionally slightly masculine (leather jacket, button up, etc). It mostly stays within feminine, andro, or something combination of feminine and masculine. I started keeping
| Track of my behaviour, my personality, and found that, while they normally stay the same, I do seem to go through noticeable differences, like becoming more emotional, more bashful or loud, etc. Surprisingly, they usually (but not always) sync up with my choice of clothing, without me even consciously changing my personality, or clothing style. And what's weird is, my sexuality seems to slightly change aswell?!?! I occasionally look at gay porn, traps, femboys, etc. I only like
| ... it if the boys are feminine/ androgynous, shaven, etc. I've monitored how often I look at this, aswell as how often I thirst over boys I see irl, and how often I don't the same for girls, and have come to the conclusion that I am more turned on by boys when I'm in "girl mode" than boy or andro mode, although I almost always prefer girls in both modes. I'm always a sub, but I think I might be even more submissive in "girl mode" than "boy/ andro mode". So now I'm not sure if I'm
| ... A "femboy", a transgender, androgynous, or gender fluid. There are times that I feel very much like I could be fluid, but I don't seem to shift as much as other people do. I occasionally feel slight dysphoria, wanting my body to be more feminine/androgynous, and feeling generally uncomfortable in my own skin, but these times seem to come and go aswell. Because of my family, I can't transition even if I wanted to, but I have been drinking spearmint tea, because it has
| Androgens that reduce testosterone, avoiding red meat for the most part (except on "cheat days"), trying to eat less to get a something closer to an hourglass figure, starting to jog, even doing squats to get a cute butt. Doing all of this has made those periods of dysphoria less intense, so I pretty much know its from looking masculine. So I'm basically asking, and I a femboy, and trans girl, androgynous, agender, gender fluid, or just over thinking things? Please help, I'm
| Genuinely very confused, I think I could need help. If you need anymore info to help me, just ask. I'm pretty new to all of this, just now exploring myself and my identity.
| I can't tell if this is a genuine and sincere question about your gender uncertainty on modern day danger/u/ or if this is a longform joke about that other thread.
| >>273572 I don't know what other thread, but this is an actual question. My parents can monitor what websites i go to, but not urls, so a site specifically for this they could find, but need articles, tumblr posts, etc. They can't. I'm not sure. But I think that the software they use can see posts on Reddit and such, but this website is underground enough that it's not formatted to read posts on here. I'm not quite sure if they can monitor posts, just a hunch. They are very
| ... conservative, they might disown me with actual legal paperwork if I even hinted at being queer. So please, help me figure this out.
| >>f0c76b I'm not a exerpt at gender/sex studies but in terms of sexual prefernece is sounds like you're bisexual? i'm unsure of your gender identitiy tho b/c your explanation is slightly confusing. in terms of your body, do you feel masculine, feminine, or a mixture of both? by "feel", i'm asking for both physically and mentally.
| >>273579 ok, so I believe that I'm hereroflexible, which basically means I'm mostly straight, but occasionally see a boy that I want to have sex with. When I'm in "girl mode", I seem to be more likely to want a boy than when I'm not. So it's basically bi, but instead of 50/50 splot between guys and gals, it's more of a 85/15, but i think I might sometimes change to more of a 75/25 split, if that makes sense. In terms of how i feel, i wss born physically male, but I usually feel
| >>273579 ... Either feminine or androgynous in my head, occasionally more masculine though, but I usually get more feminine than I can get masculine, if that makes sense. and because of my genetics, diet, etc. I am usually recognizable as either a cis boy, a feminine boy (femboy), or occasionally recognizable as andro Or a girl. I'm not sure if I'm fluid, or a boy or trans or andro and just over thinking it.
| >>f0c76b Yes, that's the definition of Bisexual. Being bi doesnt mean 50/50, it can be 1/99 or even 75/25. Hmmm... i dont normally like placing labels on people but i can understand why you or anyone else would want one. its a definite that helps define someones identity. basically, id just say "regardless of what labels people put on you, you are you". Psychically, its what YOU define yourself as. Youve told me of OTHERS percieve you as. What matters is how you see yourself.
| >>273592 I already know that I'm me, but if I really am gender fluid I want to know because I think it would help me with my slight dysphoria if I knew exactly what I was. And the thing is, sometimes I catch myself wishing others would perceive me as a she, or a they, but I almost always get he when I feel like a boy the least of the time. I want to know if I would be psychologically diagnosed as gender fluid or andro or anything else.
| >>f0c76b if you want to be disgnosed, if suggest waiting until you can be finnicially independant. you said your family is conservative, right? if youre in college, id suggest going to the college counsellor. i personally think youre gender fluid, but thats just me.
| >>f0c76b i hope im not confusing you or making this any more difficult for you (">~<) just ginvg you my opinion and what personal experience i have.
| >>273614 I'm not in college yet, sadly, and you're not confusing me or making it more difficult. Thank you for helping me, if anyone else has an opinion please say. I think I'm almost convinced that I'm fluid though.
| Oh good more autism in my comfy board
| >>273716 buddy this board loves traps and taking it from behind and your insulting someone who might be confusing with they sexuality?
its not like this is the first time we have ¨advise¨ thread and i certainly know that it wont be the last. also you arent making it more comfortable by insulting someone who just wanted a advise.
go back to 4chan.
| gender fluid doesn't exist.
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| >>273812 that g/u/rl actually appreciates culture which our board was built with, Pure wholesomeness and love ❤️ btw traps aren't gay
| I think you are just bored. What's the point if you don't have any independence from you parents? Find a job and then asking yourself whatever you want.
| Go to sleep it will go away.If after you wake up is still there kill yourself.
| >>273900 wow this is what danger/u/ has come too. G/u/rl asked for advice and you say this bullshit
| >>273908
Sorry i have problems myself and as you saw i am pretty autistic but i can not handle when people ask for help on the Internet especially when asking for those matters that trigger my biologist knowledge.
| Why is everyone being so rude? It's an actual problem, actual dysphoria!
| Gender fluidity dosent exist and if you're feeling dysphoria you should see a psychiatrist.
| >>274086 if it doesn't exist, why do so many people say they have It? And I can't get a psychiatrist, my family is way too conservative, they wouldn't let me have a psychiatrist for that, and if I did need to transition all the way, they would disown me. Legally. With paperwork.
| >>273920 Please help me with you almighty biologist knowledge! I want to grow a dick, what do? I also need to get rid of these tits, please help, professor trigger!
| >>274088
Because it justifies a gender studies degree.
Look up freud and you see he made up everything on anecdotes.
Nearly got a woman killed because he said she was faking a nose bleed. Had a friend open her nose and close it again. Left something in that almost made her go septic.
| >>274154
Combine that with impressional people who are afraid of becoming different because of a conservative family. And society saying to trust people with degrees on topics and you have those that are in desperate need of money inventing new ways to justify their degree to keep being able to pay for it. Plus the internet for the people who couldn't even get that far spreading "knowledge" to feel better about themselves.
| >>274188
It was serious from the beginning.
Assuming OP is asking for legit help.
I'm just not going to suggest what they do because it would be anecdotal. I do a lot of the same things as OP. The difference is I have no worries about my gender or sexuality. I'm male and a trap. Thats it. I like dominant women and prefer them over even feminine men. My suggestion would be they're fine but thats based on the fact I am. The difference is my parents aren't conservative.
| 1st off, fuck off people who are intentionally being unhelpful to OP. There are serious physical consequences to people in his situation and his parents have already been implied to spy on him.
OP you're gonna have to do what queer people have been doing for centuries, lie to your parents until you're financially stable and then tell them to go suck a dick.
| In terms of being genderfluid, you should physically go to lgbt friendly centers, and tell someone who seems responsible your situation, they'll know to act with discretion this kind of thing isn't as uncommon as some believe. I think more than your gender, your creeper parents are the biggest issue in your life.
| >>4914c0 if you think that trusting people with degrees is somehow bsd, then why should I trust you, a random person in the internet?
| >>274229 thank you for your helpful advice. I'm might try to go to one of those centers soon. I'm thinking about telling my sister this, she's a very progressive lesbian who also hides stuff from our parents. Its just really hard to work up the courage to ask for help, you know?
| >>274211 well, surprise, the term "trap" will never be acceptable by SJW, politically correct culture, and scientific studies. Not to mention it is also treated as a joke, meme, and constantly make fun of by internet users, trolls, and conservatives.
And when no studies/consensus can be used to define what is "trap" the meaning and usage will get blurred overtime.
We might be a vacum cleaner a "trap" 100 years from now.
| *we might be calling
| Non binary genders aren't valid big fella
| >>274917
Who gives a shit what politically correct culture and SJW's think? Fuck right off with segwaying from demanding that an equally made up and retarded term, "genderfluid" is acceptable but "trap" isn't.
Leave it to the fucking morons who aren't traps themselves to tell people what they can and can't identify themselves as. Pretty fucking hypocritical.
| I have a mind to enter every one of these threads and ruthlessly ruin your sad attempts at creating self spaces until you all get back to your useless, high priced degrees when summer ends. Fucking idiots.
| *Safe-spaces, but they might as well be "self" spaces for as much circlejerking as you fuckbois do. Jesus Christ.
| mfw like half of danger/u/'s population self-identifies as traps, bi's, or gays, but almost no one uses the term "genderfluid."
| >>275367 lol maybe if you aren't so stuck up, you'll be able to learn to read the whole sentence before getting triggered.
I said not only SJW and PC culture, NO ONE can get into an agreement about what trap is.
Is boy with skirt trap? Do you have to look like an actual girl? Are traps gay? Can people who cross dress be considered as trap? Are they still a trap when they say/make clear that they are the opposite gender of the outside appearances? Can tomboys be considered as trap?
| >>275367
>Leave it to the fucking morons who aren't traps themselves to tell people what they can and can't identify themselves as.
Hey, Mr. Trap, you are the one who went to gender fluid thread to tell them what they can and can't identify themselves as. I guess you are the "fucking morons" that you are complaining about.
| >>275413
Thats not me, so maybe think for a second kay?
And looks like you put words in my mouth too.
Never said they can or can't.
Just pointing out why "genderfluid" became a thing.
But you know.
| >>275416
>Never said they can or can't.
This is what you said
>I have a mind to enter every one of these threads and ruthlessly ruin your sad attempts at creating self spaces until you all get back to your useless, high priced degrees when summer ends. Fucking idiots
| >>275423
Looks like you should read the first sentence.
>Thats not me, so maybe think for a second kay?
Lets work through this one at a time little miss.
What does it mean when someone says "Thats not me"
and you quote someone else?
| >>275423
And again that doesn't say someone can or can't call themselves genderfluid.
You missed the fucking point.
Hahahaha
| y'all niggas accusing each other over everything cause newfags forget this is an anonymous board.
10/10
| This is the purest form of autism I think I've ever seen
| >>275427 If that's not you, then why do you jump in and reply to me lol
and if that's not you, then I have no possibility to put words in your mouth...
| >>275433
Look at the IDs lady.
Two different ones.
And put words in my mouth when you accused >>bf0186
of being me and accused them of saying who "can and can't call themselves" you were referring to my post where I pointed out where genderfluid comes from.
You need to calm down.
| >>275433
I "jumped in" to correct you from saying "Mr. Trap"
why did you mention that if you weren't referring to me?
You know, in your first reply where you mentioned SJWs PCs and others who mean nothing to me.
| >>275436
^
also tbh the previous post wasn't even telling OP they can't call themselves genderfluid, they were yelling at you (Missus SJW) >>69140b for telling a trap that they can't be called traps because "political correctness tho."
Danger/u/ is as politically incorrect as they cum. That and the video game, which has a loli prostitute, roflmao.
| >>275436
alright, then my reply to you is still this one >>274917. Sorry, forget what I said about you after than, Mr. Trap. Your ID changed too, I got confused.
| Y'all niggas are gay
| >>275443 again, please read the whole sentence. People read the SJW and politically correct culture and stop there.
| >>275453
Why wouldn't they stop there? You wouldn't have put those at the forefront if you didn't think they were the most important part- the rest of the post doesn't change what you were implying, otherwise you would have just used the second half, lmao.
| >>275456
"I have the attention span of a goldfish lmao"
"I only read the title of the news lelelel"
"If idiots are cherry picking your sentences, then you only say that cherry picked sentence lololol"
| >>275464
>Deflecting with memes and strawmen because you know anon is right, lololololololol.
Peace out, yo.
| >>275478
>not being able to read IDs
>puts implications in other people's posts about them saying "what they can and can't call themselves"
>admits to using a logical fallacy
You're done girl, just walk away.
/headpats
| please g/u/rls don't fight :(
| Find a job. Really helps
| >>275487 m8, you ID is different from the one that I replied to originally.
This is your first >>4914c0
This is your second >>bcd58b
Instead of stating your first, you only went "It's not me" yeah, that's my fault for not being able to read your mind
| >>275487
For the "can't and can't do" I was replying to this.
>>bf0186
Even if she's not a trap, my points still stands, she's here to tell people what they can and can't identify as, while she's saying trap can do whatever
>admits using logical fallacy
Yeah, I'd rather do that than explaining my points for the 3rd time for people who can't read past the first sentence
| Genderfluid is a tumblr meme. Sounds like op is bisexual trap.
Find some friends to hang out with and move away eventually with them. Helps getting away from shitty people.
| This isn't Tumblr
| >>278496
Partly it is. The anonimity concept is deep. Doesn't mean people need to be assholes but also does not mean everyone has obligation to be emotionally supportive of various troubles others go through.
Some people will give advice, others will shitpost memes and be offensive and hurtful. Just ignore bad advice and take what seems logical to you.
You ask for help on an internet board, you will get replies that sometimes you might not like. That's how internet works.
| >>278496 if your complaining about what the board is supposed to be like in the game, its 4chan. If you wanted a special safespace without anonymous shitposting youre in the wrong place. Sure you can whine all you want, but its called danger u for dangerous opinions *shrug*
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| Born male, teen, heteroflexible, sub (botttom), loves Gentlefemdom. I've always been very feminine, and have occasionally been confused as a girl. I gave always considered myself a feminine boy, but recently ive been feeling a bit differently about it, and have done a lot of research. I've wished I was born as a girl off and on for a long time, sometimes being content with my body, sometimes not, but dysphoria has never been too bad. I moan when I orgasm, I masturbate analy, I want