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So like when do you give up on a girl?
| When you realize you're not special.
| >>69d1bb Simply put, it's not worth it if there's no feedback. Just for your own edification make a final sincere attempt to clear the air, it's likely the situation is more muddled than you say. Once that is done if there's nothing there move on.
>>bd171b SOME empathy dude.
| >>270761 There's no simple formula for this sort of thing sadly. I personally would solve this problem like so:
1. Create a pessimistic and optimistic % chance estimate that she will ever ACTUALLY get together with you. Example: pessimistic: 5%, optimistic: 40%.
2. Guess when this relationship would begin and how long it will last. Example: start in two years, end in 42 years. Just estimate.
| 3. Multiply the percent chance by the number of years in the span. Now you have a weighted value of likelihood of years of happiness. Ex: pessimistic: 40*0.05=2. Optimistic: 40*0.40=16.
4. Now if you have good opportunities to date others, you can assume those probabilities of them actually dating you are pessimistically still around 85%, especially if they're showing interest first. Run the same calculations with them.
| If their pessimistic result is better than her optimistic result, then you really should date them. If their pessimistic result is worse than her pessimistic result, then you should not. If their optimistic result is above her optimistic result, then I would still go for them. Because that means you see a happier future down that road, essentially
| You could get fancy and change the math to decrease the value over years since you are less sure the relationship will last each successive unit of time.
Basically apply principles used to judge investments.
It's SURE not perfect, but I like to take as objective an approach as possible to emotional matters. If it feels right, then I'll know I've done the wise thing. If it feels wrong, then I've learned my emotions are strongly against it
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| I've been waiting for this girl I'm into for like 5 years cuz I fucking love her so much. She loves me back she says but she's got shit she needs to work through. Still lives with her parents/unemployed. She's got like legit crippling anxiety so u know it's fair but still. I feel like I'm letting potential happy relationships pass me by waiting so long. What do?