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How do I stop being sheltered and become more open to people?
| No old friends who knows you really well? I could write fuckin pages but wouldnt speak much till its someone im very comfy with or talking about something i know alot about. Someone once said onodera was best girl and i was chimping out so much that chitoge wouldve been proud.
Either way itd be a long process but i think a large part is in raising self confidence. Even your silly rambling means something, so blab all you can. Alchohol can be a catalyst.
| Therapy.
| Yolo
| Go outside.
Serious answer:
>Either way itd be a long process but i think a large part is in raising self confidence. Even your silly rambling means something, so blab all you can. Alchohol can be a catalyst.
Also, you have to intentionally do and say things that you might be ridiculed for. It hurts for like... a few seconds, up until you realize that you don't give a shit what people say.
Exception being to doing or saying things that are illegal or actually autistic.
| Which, unless you're an actual autist, you shouldn't be worried about doing, because most people don't do stupidly illegal or austistic shit from ignorance alone.
The ones that do are the exception, not the rule. E.G, if you're the kind of person who thinks its appropriate to expose your dicc to some girl that you're just kinda friendly with and then get surprised when they freak the fuck out and start screaming at you, then you're probably fucked in the head.
(A real example.)
| Most likely you aren't this idiotic, though, so power through any awkwardness you might endure talking about your weeb shit and just go out and do it.
Most people, if they're not interested, will just pretend to listen politely before moving on to other things, or ignore you. That's when you'll realize in retrospect that there isn't much to be insulted/feel bad over since most people are rarely overt with their disinterest.
| Keep doing that until you find some derp who shares your interest.
Then keep doing it.
Before you know it, you'll start wondering why you were ever worried at all.
Incidentally, this method is the same thing for dating, too.
| >>263706
Some old friends (or, well, at least "friends") and most of them don't really know me at all.
I can't even dish out these silly ramblings anymore, not even under influence of alcohol (well, I try to limit my intake as much as possible, so that might be the case). I just freeze up unable to come up with stuff to say because it doesn't even register in my mind for the most part.
>>263715
Expensive and not really as effective as I might've liked.
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| >>263742
>you have to intentionally do and say things that you might be ridiculed for
I really, REALLY can't do that at this point. It might come back to bite me in the ass much later when I try to sleep and start remembering all the dumb shit I did before for no reason.
Most of the time I can't even manage to find any interest in my own self or in what I do, but I tend to praise the people who actually do stuff that I'm interested in since I'm sure they'd do it better.
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| >>263815 ahh i get you. For the most part i experience that alot too, when im trying hard. Even when i really want to say something, ill rehearse it in my head till the topics well past...hmmm i honestly believe you just need more interaction somehow, id say working with kids is a good start since talking to kids is really easy, but thats a hassle to actually do.
Maybe post more here and get your inner voice out, i would think that your personality might follow suit. *shrug*
| >>263818
>I really, REALLY can't do that at this point.
If you're not willing to try, then don't expect to ever get better.
| You're literally just wasting everyone's time.
| >>263758
Yes actually. You can learn a lot about people based on what they say when they're drunk, or just slightly tipsy.
There's a reason why people say that drunk thoughts are honest thoughts. It's great for weeding out people you might not want to get close to, or the reverse- finding out people that you would love to get close to.
| Sounds like you got social anxiety, friend. Used to be on the same boat, but fuck me if I can remember how I got out of it. I just, stopped caring what other people think. I delve a lot into things I like so when there's anyone with the same interest, I can talk about that.
I remember how I used to stutter a lot. Now I still have trouble forming my sentences, but mostly I talk with people okay. There's that transition you gotta get through I guess.
Good luck, op.
| >>263863 ooo, i like the way you look at it. A younger me wouldve thought it was suicide since i used to be hellbent on making everyone like me.
What was the saying? Those that matter dont mind, and those that mind dont matter.
Kinda helped put into perspective who i invest time with
| >>263844
And that's one of the examples that make me scared to even try.
>>263841
You just so not understand, it seems. I do try, I really do. And it works for a good minute or few, sure. But then my mind just locks up in this sorta infinite circle, running loops around the same moot point and unable to produce anything worth talking about. Then I proceed to get more and more frustrated and anxious about this thing and it sure doesn't help much.
| *do not
Apparently I can't even type, huh.
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| I'm not very talkative and it often leads to very awkward silences. Also leads to me just sitting there like a fool when I actually want to talk to a person that's interesting to me. I figure it's mostly because I just never had to talk much so I got used to using 1-word replies at most and I can never talk about myself and my passions because I was always sure that no one cares. So now even when someone seemingly does care I still just can't tell them much.