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Need some advice
| I've known her for a year, she doesn't know too much about me. We're in a small groupchat and in a theatre group. We've never talked together by ourselves, it was always in a group in person or the groupchat. Everytime I go to private message her... I feel like I'm breaking or something. The feeling is so intense I'm just so worried she'll think it's weird for me to randomly message her
| Don't know if this posted or Not, but she's going to France for a year after the State exams, so that gives a month to do something... I just don't know what. I'll provide more context and explain more wheb I have the time, I'm very busy right now
| Just finde porpuse to tolk with her IRL. Not in chat, this is important. After some weeks of speeking you will have more information about what to do next
| A dirty joke is a good icebreaker
| >>57d201 It's difficult to meet up with her, I only see her once a week but that's only in theatre, around other people. I have no idea where to start
| Dude just tell her how you feel
| Btw i rooting for you
| I mean im rooting for you
| You could suggest that you as a group go somewhere idk like eating or stuff and then sit next to her and engade in small talk ? Try to learn somergings about her ?
| I would like to point you towards an e-book entitled "the book of pook", it focused mainly on how to talk to girls and how to improve yourself and your social interactions. There's a PDF available for download on the website ( https://bookofpook.neocities.org ). There's also an audio version on YouTube. Also if you would like to focus on meeting and engaging with strangers I would suggest Real Social Dynamics (RSDtyler) on YouTube. Good luck, God speed!
| Honestly dude I've been there and if you only have a month then the best thing to do is to tell her how you feel and prepare for rejection.
| I say, just talk to her. DO NOT TELL HELL YOU LOVE HER, that would be childish.
Saying hi is the first step, having something to talk about with her is even better, i mean, at the very least just say you appreciate her company and that you'll miss her when she's gone.
| First of all try approaching when she is isolated from any company mainly females .If you get to her try to stand confident and not awkward and compliment her for anything (for her appearance to her acting play).Next try to arrange a date not something special just to get close to each other quicker.
| Just go and talk to her. Don't make up any complex plans about what to say in which situation because those never work and only leave you stressed out when she inevitably says something surprising. Bring out the best humour you have, that's what I do on first meetings. If she likes it, great. If she doesn't, you better forget about her, as chances are you won't be able to consistently hold 10/10 conversations.
| As for approaching, this varies highly. For a general excuse, just greet her and start with some smalltalk, the weather, the play, school/work/uni/whatever, something safe that allows you to lead into a lot of different topics. If she wonders why you're trying to talk to her, you can always say "No reason." You just felt bored, or something, and figured a conversation will lighten your mood.
| Kill yourself, then you can be with any girl you like
| >>db31c2 So, just whenever I see her alone after theatre, just go up to her and strike up a small conversation? Sounds like it'll work, but should I leave it until the next time I see her or should I message her for a bit before, because I'm just aware of how little time I have left
| Also, thank you to everyone who has posted, I appreciate all of you for taking the time to help
| Immediately
| No time to waste my guy
| In person
| Or just hit her up on the phone and say you want to meet up and go on a walk or something
| It's up to you whether or not you call it a date but I say go all in
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| Alright, so there's this girl I'm obsessed with (I don't do anything weird, I'm not like that) and I'd just like to befriend her at the very least.