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Control issues?
| 1. there are people who love such people
2. seems like you could easy get into an abusive relationship, so watch out for bad people who just want to use you
3. good soldiers are always needed, but don't be a soldier to the wrong people
| You're probably fine the way you are. Some people even revel in it. However, you should be able to take some basic responsibilities such as paying your bills, cleaning yourself and your house, staying healthy and so on. As long as you can do that, just be yourself. Might as well enjoy it.
| Are you alright, OP?
| Mmm. Yeah. I'm trying my best to take on some responsibilities. So I THINK I'll be alright. Thank you everyone for the advice!
| I'm pretty sure a lot of us like to "just be taken care of"...
| Ah right. I should have clarified that I can't handle NOT being taken care of....
| When I was the head of the class in university. it was around the same time I got into airsoft. And these two weirdly clicked together. Being able to shut down my own decition-making for one day once a week and just follow the leader and rely on his judgement without thinking was rather satisfying. Even if we failed often in engagements, it was all on the commander, and I was still having fun. Overall this kind of weekend recreation made me less nervous about my responsibilities.
| Hmmm...That sounds pretty helpful...I'll try something similar for my weekends.
| In real life I have some trouble being in control, but while gaming online I'm usually the one with the plans and people sort of gravitate towards making me the leader. Which is super weird given how I actually in real life.
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| Soooooo....I don't know if I have issues or something but I can't take control over anything without freaking out. Being the leader in even video games always turns out bad. In relationships I always want to just be taken care of and even during sex I like being treated like nothing but a tool with no responsibilities. I feel like as an adult if I don't grow out of this I won't be able to function alone so....I dunno what to do!