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I don't know what to do.
| A true friend will be there for you. Sometimes it can be hard for those who have never had depression to comprehend what people with it go through, but that's not your responsibility.
For what it's worth, God loves you, and the gift of life is not to be taken lightly. I'm not gonna preach at ya, but if you meed to vent anything here on /u/, go for it. We got your back <3
| Also, one thing that has helped my depression before is essential oils, no joke. Lavender and chamomile can really boost your mood. Same with chamomile tea, if you're a tea drinker. Whenever you start to feel depressed, practice training your mind to think about something that makes you happy. I know it sounds silly but it works well. Always force yourself to distract yourself from the depressing thoughts, that is priority. Dwelling on the depression only makes it worse.
| Find something to occupy your time. Whether it a skill or getting mad good at osu. Do something that you can get invested in and may even be useful down the line.
| >>34537b I have. I've picked up drawing and story writing, but due to my depression and other things, I barely have the motivation to work on them. Also, I'm more worried about losing the one friend that keeps me going. I'm worried that by talking with her about my problems, I'll push her away. I'm worried about losing the one person who I feel understands me.
| >>212020 have you asked her directly if it bothers her? If she's a close friend I imagine you should be able to ask that. Just a thought.
| If they are a good friend as you say, they should be able to take the hit and support you.
Sometimes it's just good to air out your thots, we g/u/rls will keep an open ear.
As for skills. If your already drawing and writing. Some larger over arching goal helps too, something ambitious. Also getting involved in group projects is Good, working towards something larger than urself. (Not jeebus tho)
At the very least thats what keepin me afloat. So apologies if I'm projectin :/
| One important advice: treat your friend like a friend, not your therapist. Care about them, be sure that they feel like you talk to them because you like them as a person and not out of need. I've made the mistake of abusing of a friend that allowed me to be real with them and they got fed up because all I ever talked about was about myself.
Treat them with respect.
| >>37a025 I feel like I do. She writes and draws too, so we talk a lot about both of our stories and drawings. As well as just stuff that's happening. I even bought her something I saw online I though she'd like last week, so I do feel I treat her as a friend more than a therapist. Heck, I've only talked to her about this stuff when I feel like I might kill myself if I don't cause I'm afraid of her feeling like that.
| I think your relationship skills are translating onto here because you have completely ignored all of my advice which is coming from someone who has dealt with depression my entire life. Everything I've suggested works wonders for depression.
Don't ask for help if you just want someone to tell you only what you want to hear. That's no way to live. I'm genuinely trying to help here.
| For me i dunno what advice can i give you becouse i never dealt with depression.
But whatever happens stay strong and stick to any stick to your closest friend
She will be able to help you. And don't be scared to contact her. Such things like you pushing her away is not possible if you trust each other. Honest talk about your problems with someone you really trust is i think one of the best methods to solve your problem.
Stay strong
| Heck i made a mistake xd
| >>d8e7f5 There isn't a silver bullet for this type of thing. What works for one person might not work for another. OP take all opinions with a grain of salt.
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| I'm currently suffering from some bad depression, and am taking meds to help. I've never had many friends, especially one's I can trust, but I have 1 really close friend who I trust completely. I've told her a bit about my depression, and she's said to text her whenever I need someone to talk to. But I'm scared. I'm scared that I will push her away. She's leaving to go to collage next year, and I'm scared I might never see her again. I don't know what to do.