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im tired of this bullshit
| I was the same, just stop giving shit and eventually you will meet someone you can hang out with. I recommend joining some kind of club
| You sound like me in high school. My first day of high school brought on a panic attack and I never felt like I belonged. I didn't have friends. I'd say, first acknowledge that you have some kind of anxiety problem. It actually helps to acknowledge it. Ignoring the idea of the feeling makes it more likely to get sucked into nothing but feeling. The truth is that everyone in high school has growing up to do. That may be in social skills, emotional skills, or whatever. Everyone's
| caught up in their own issues, and don't really know how to handle someone else's. Most high schoolers probably won't acknowledge if you have anxiety or feel uncomfortable. All they'll see is someone looking uncomfortable and unfriendly. There are nice people that can see past that, but they are few and far between. I know it's extremely hard, but please take care of yourself first. Aim to be the nice person that overlooks the superficial shortcomings of others.
| Ikr, it even becomes harder when you start to actually have responsibilities. I underestimated connections with people and now I'm screwed. Just walk around town so you'll have more chances to meet someone and also to avoid those times just being lost in thoughts.
| As far as more practical advice... Do extracurricular activities, actually study and keep high grades, speak up in class, ignore jerks who make fun of others because of their own insecurities, and most importantly forgive yourself for mistakes. Own anything awkward you do and laugh it off or explain it away. Assuming no one knows your intentions makes communication much easier.
| >>6bbdf7 Ughh. I grew up so socially weird because of my anxiety. Now I have to play catch up as an adult with teenager-level social skills. It's much harder to make friends now that no one has the time to do anything.
| (Op here) thank you for your advices. But my personality is shit so whenever i make friends i act like a different person.also Whenever i speak for myself they always treat me bad. That made me lose my self confidence. So I'm tired of communicating with people.I'll never have friends so i must learn how to deal with this
| >>201941 I don't want to talk with them anymore. I was like that even when i was a kid. It's impossible for me to make friends. I've never had a best friend. I had friends but it's because there's only me who is the same age as them.(like my childhood friend we only see each other in summer) If there was another, they wouldn't talk to me.
| I'm just like you OP only almost a decade older. There was a girl that seemed like she wanted to make friends. I always thought that she avoids me in public as I have already established some sort of creep reputation there by the time. She didn't ever truly figure out how I felt and I think got kind of creeped out in the end. She's still friendly, but talks to me way less often. Might be mind games inferiority complex forces on me. You have to do smth about it or end up like me. GL
| It's ok to be lonely
| Try to join a club or something, you are in a place that has hundreds of people around your age, so its almost a sure thing that there are people that enjoy the same stuff as you, just start qith the normal ones like movies, videogames and stuff like that.
I remember that in highschool one of my best friends told me he wanted to be my friend when i said i wanted to destroy puerto rico in a gundam, that was a lucky shot but still proves that you cant find people akin to you
| Omg i have the same problem
| (im op id keeps changing) I don't have time for club these days and when i make friends that i have the same interests with them, first i act normal and then when i get used to them i act natural because of that they stop talking to me. They're normal, there must be something wrong with me. I don't know what. But they find me weird and annoying. I also never had a lover because my personality is really really bad but i can't change it. I don't want to change myself for them
| >>203217 also, just because they're not my friend and they find me weird, they also bullied me in middle school.But my self esteem wasn't low back then so i could speak for myself but they still bullied me. Now i don't have self confidence and because of that i have social anxiety too. now I'm not being in high school though. Also people in my class find me weird because i don't talk too much but I'm actually really talkative but I'm suck at making new friends
| >>203226 i have less friends. Actually there's one girl in my class i only spend time with her cuz she's the only friend i have in school but she don't care about what i think but we actually have fun together. I get along with her well even though we usually argue these days. One day she saw how many phone numbers i saved in my phone and she asked "don't you have any friends" and i told that i reset my phone often but i actually felt really bad
| Well mate the thing is that you need to change, not for them but for yourself as life its a constant searching of becoming better ourselves, besides if you think that you are weird in a way that makes other people uncomfortable or similar you might wanna think seriously about it
| I read a paper on teen lonliness once. You should be aware that people your age typically assume other people spend far more time socializing than they actually do. ESPECIALLY on weekends.
So next time you're feeling super lonely and like no one but you spends friday nights home alone, you should realize, actually most people spend friday nights home alone.
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| I'm so fucking tired of this. I was going to write the story and it's too long and i don't even want to think about it. I started highschool this year. And please tell me, How do i deal with being alone when every other people have friends but I've none? Pls I really need someone to give me advice.