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Disability Girls
| I see no problem with it but what do I know.
| Just don't expect a handjob.
| Deformed hands ain't too bad.
| I have a fetish for disabled girls. I don't know why.
| >>149606 really, no problem what so ever, no matter how severe a disability? Most men won't even consider dating an ugly or fat girl, but you have no problem with anything physically wrong?
| >>149652 because you think, they're weak and it would be easy for you to take care of them and they would greatly appreciate you for that? At least that's how it goes in VNs and hentai.
| >>149653 whoa g/u/rl stop stretching and twisting my words. OP already said what sort of disability it is and it doesn't really seem like something that would stop anyone from being together. I might not see any problem with having a relationship with someone with a disability but I'm no good guy that can say I only like people for who they are inside but I myself don't really care as long as it's someone I feel like I could be with.
| >>149663 sorry, I misunderstood you. Although you're contradicting yourself, no? You admit, that what's inside isn't everything you care about. But then you say that you don't care, as long as you feel like you can be together. That's very vague. Sure, I hope everyone can accept a weird toe or a third nipple, but what about actually life impacting disabilities, that you have to deal with every moment of your life with?
| As someone with a disability, I always wonder about this with other people. My disability (legal blindness) is one in which I imagine most people could get over it if they really valued my other attributes.
But then I think about how lucky I am since there are quite a number that require an especially generous person to overcome it.
| >>149653 >>149658 >>149681 Trigger alert.
My girlfriend has a faulty heart and lungs, RA and her doctors can't figure out why her heart stops or what she has. Might be Lupus. I love her for her. All it takes is the right person in the right place, no matter what the disability is.
| >>149710 have you ever felt, like she loves you partially because she doesn't have as many options? Like if she was healthy, she could find someone better than you?
| >>149712 She's gorgeous. A blonde bombshell. I'm 6'4 and heavily muscular. I'm a personal trainer and I met her at the gym because in spite of her pain she works hard at being better and never settles for less. I also have a disability called spinal stenosis. She looks after me too. She's the love of my life and I make an effort to treat her like my princess every day.
I suggest that you get out more, triggered Anon.
| >>149653
Some guys like fat chiks.And its more about a person not about being fat,dumb,blind or black love is blind... most of the time
| >>149728 those were honest questions. I don't see even what I'm supposed to be triggered by. It's wonderful that you both feel equal in your relationship, but usually only one person will be disabled and that's when those question I asked arise.
| Blind girls are best because they don't see how ugly I am...
| rin tezuka is the one true waifu
so yes
| I have some fantasies about deaf girls.
You may also remember my thread «Anybody into disability girls?».
| We get it OP, you are a dom
| >>150056 would be hard for me to be with a deaf person, as they don't hear their voice, the sounds they make are quite weird. Imagine a girl with the most bizarre, shrieking laugh... I don't even want to think about how they sound in the bedroom.
| Deaf girls are cute
| >>149603 was in the same situation. It was fine.
We broke up because she was batshit crazy and I didn't want to realise that for 2 long.
| It would depend on the disability I guess. But usually liking someone to be your longterm partner and even loving them, would be a combination of both external appearance and internal character. That is how it works for me at least.
| >>150475 wouldn't you feel a moral obligation to give a disabled person extra points? They has significantly fever options. Would you feel okay, rejecting a disabled person that you like, but just slightly less than someone else, knowing that the disabled person very well could not find a partner ever?
| >>151345 I'm sure they would if extra points could realistically be given. Unfortunately, wanting to date someone or the like is not about fairness. It would be dishonest to pick the disabled person over the person you *actually* like slightly more. As a person who has a disability, I would prefer people be honest with their feelings--I know how these things can be and believe the most important thing is acting in ways that accurately represent our true feelings.
| >>151345 Well it would be a bit like you're with the person out of pity. And like the above confirms, I do not think someone would enjoy the idea that their partner stays because of pity.
| >>151392 I don't see what's wrong with pity exactly. There's nothing wrong with showing compassion. A straw man argument, but you don't think rescuing a dog out of pity is wrong, right? You don't think donations and charity work is wrong, right? So why are love relations different? Would you reject a friendship, because of a disability too? Is it wrong, to sacrifice a bit of your life, a bit of your happiness, for greater happiness of someone else? I'm genuinely curious.
| >>151445 The problem arises not because it's out of pity directly, but because there are a certain set of premises two people agree to at the conception of a relationship that being motivated out of only compassion would violate. Particularly, the premise that states the presence of a mutual feeling that, on an emotional level, the other person is the one you'd like to be in a relationship with and give yourself emotionally too more than anyone else.
| >>151580 I think, that's silly. You aren't going to meet the best person for you, you choose from what you have encountered and you can fall in love and have wonderful relationship with many of them, not just the best one. So, if you accept the obvious fact, that there is a better person for you out there, then why does it matter choosing the best or second best person you have encountered?
| >>151580 >>151715 and we aren't talking here about relationships built only on compassion, we are talking about a small difference. Two possible partners, both acceptable, almost equally good, but the second best has a disability. Don't you have a moral obligation, to go with the disabled person? What if it's clear, that the disability probably won't be accepted by anyone but you?
| >>151726
No. This is a relationship built pretty much on pity, not genuine attraction. I think no one wi be happy with this.
| *no one will
duh
| >>151580 Sorry, I don't mean to imply they're the absolute *best* person for you, because then we'd all only date the rich and famous. So I agree, of course that conception would be silly.
I'm only talking about people you have an emotional connection with. Say, for example, you have friends Abby and Beth, and both Abby and Beth like you. You like Abby more than Beth, but Beth has a disability. I think it would be deception to pick Beth if you could pick Abby, because if...
| ...you begin a relationship with Beth, it seems implicit that you like Beth more than Abby, which just isn't true.
If you pick one based on your desire to virtue signal, then the human mind will naturally gravitate towards "what if" scenarios about Abby, who you originally liked more.
And if the two are almost equally good, then how can the disabled one only be accepted by you? Human beings aren't that diverse in their tastes. Somebody else would like them if they were close.
| >>151771 That situation was hypothetical, yes. But I see what you mean, thanks. Although, I'm not sure if I agree completely. Your reasoning is, that the person would regret his choice, but that happens all the time anyway, for all sorts of pointless reasons, at least this time it would be a good reason for making the wrong choice.
| I think it's a little bizarre you compared earlier to a puppy in need of adoption or a charity donation. In these scenarios, the recipient of the sympathy is obviously in a lesser position than you are. I'm not sure that same application would be received well by many people with disabilities. We would like to feel like we're equal, not like we're receiving things because the world feels bad for us and thinks we can't fend for ourselves.
| >>151776 Sorry if the last post came off a bit aggressive though. I appreciate you trying to be the bigger person--I really do. And I appreciate the conversation we're having. I just disagree on the way you're going about it. And that's okay, too, that we disagree somewhat
| >>151778 I wouldn't say, that a person who need a charity donation is a lesser position... That quite cruel, lol. Sometimes life just fucks you over, either with a bad financial situation or a disability. Why is it okay, to help with money problems, but not with love problems? And I do too appreciate the conversation and I'm playing a devils advocate a bit too, trying to distilled the answer.
| >>151790 I totally agree. I'm not blaming them for needing financial assistance. But doubtless, needing financial assistance is a lesser position than not needing it, no? They're not a lesser person or anything. It's just a lesser position.
And the problem lies in the fact that an puppy needed adopting or a person needing charity assistance...these are problems caused by reparable, external circumstances. A disability is a bit more nuanced than that. While a disability is in one..
| ...way an unfortunate external circumstance that's usually irreparable, it also inevitably becomes part of one's being or identity. To choose someone out of sympathy for a part of someone's identity is not the same as showing sympathy due to an unlucky external circumstance. Because of this, it seems to me that it's more damaging to show sympathy here because it means that you find that part of their identity utterly pitiable. And while it may be so to someone who has no disanikity
| *disability
...if you make decisions based on that, it may make the recipient feel that they are something to be pitied, since the disability is inextricably linked to their identity.
| >>149603 you see kid, there's ton od fucking way to fucking fuck deformed fags. If you fucking make a fucking hole in the fucking deformed hand or if you like being a gay or shit carve the fucking hand into a fucking dick or something.
| is this the katawa shoujo general
| >>151918 Thank you, that is a good answer and I agree with you.
Let me ask you this though, what if the person is open about it? Say you're a blind guy and a girl comes up to you and says: "Hey, I know you're in a position, where finding love is tough, let me take you out on few dates and sex, I probably won't fall in love with you, but it'll be fun." How would that make you feel?
| >>151918 also, I don't think every person would feel that way. Plenty of people are desperate for love enough, that they wouldn't care for what reason someone loves them. Not even talking about people with disabilities, just people in general want to be loved and often they don't care for the reasons behind the love.
| ... OP, I think you're kinda very full of yourself you know, seems to me that you make complicated stuff up for something very obvious and basic, and you speak about everything but what should matter to you. Stop making assumption about what other ppl might think 'cause, obviously, you can't understand them and their feelings. Ofc everyone on a potential level can love any other human, the question should rather be: why the interrogation? Is that person that disgusting to you
| that you need people to tell you that it is fine to be in a relationship out of pity? :3
| >>152391 ah, no, I'm not worried about my feelings at all, either there's love or there isn't, you can't approach that logically. You can chose to reject someone you love because of logical reasons, but you can't choose to love someone because of logic. Well, it's more complex than that, but either way, I'm not worried about my own feelings.
I just like to explore hypothetical scenarios and hear different opinions, call it being full of myself or whatever.
| >>152362 I suppose if they willingly choose it after you present it to them, then I can't really complain. All I can really say is that I would find it odd haha. I actually have trouble in the love department myself, but I've always had a belief going into it that romantic love is a luxury and something I could potentially live without. Friendships are required though in order to live happily, but this problem we have been speaking of doesn't extend to platonic relationships.
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| Could you fall in love, with a person who has physical disability? Serious question. Don't think about cripple moeblobs, but a real, average looking human.
I was chatting online with this one girl and we connected really well, we think alike, we value the same things, she's smart, thoughtful and very creative. I like her and she like me too. But she has deformed hands, a birth defect.
We're going on a first date next week.