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Love Problem
| I see her nearly every day and I can't stop seeing how beautiful she is. I practically fall in love with her over and over. I shouldn't even say I rightfully love her since I'm not that close to her anymore. She even has a boyfriend now and I respect that. I just want her gone, or at the very most: friend status. Any suggestions?
| There is not much you can do. If you see her you will feel mesmerized from anything she does: smile, laugh, walk, speak, think, anything. Avoid being near her or having your eyes scan the crowd for her.
If there is someone in your class you like to talk to and feel ok with, do that. Speaking with someone else for all kind of important and unimportant things helps a lot.
| Keep resisting, only time will help you get over her. Eventually, the one for you will come along and you will look back at this and laugh. Just hang in there my friend.
| That doesn't sound like love, just attraction or obsession. Simply date other girls and you'll forget about here, there's nothing between you two, a simple date will give you a lot more, than onesided fantasies can ever.
| I agree with >>147012. Consider therapy and meds, specifically to target the obsession, especially if you tie the rejection with not being good enough for her. I'm 33 and dealing with the same thing, because I never dealt with it back then. Way more embarrassing and frustrating now. What I'm beginning to realize is the obsession is a way of projecting insecurity or self-hate, so you have to find the root cause (therapy is good for that).
| >>147129 wtf. Therapy and meds? Fucking no.
No OP, stay away from this therapy and med bullshit. If you are in us ok go on and do it. But if not, don't be like that bunch of suckers who find all solutions with this therapy and medication mindset.
What you feel is human, it is feelings. Going through it develops you as a person when handled properly. And you do not need stinking medication to dull your neeves and sedate you or pay for listening to some fucker opinions about YOU.
| >>147461 meds may be a bad choice, but therapy definitely isn't bad. if you find a compatible therapist you can talk a lot of the problems away honestly. it's not just "some fucker's opinions about YOU", it's finding the roots of whatever problem it is and dealing with it in a healthy and effective manner, instead of letting your mind fuck you up further.
| >>147465 I have friends to talk to about my problems and I do that with honesty and open. The therapist is being paied to listen and you are statistics to him/her. Having someone in your mind is not a mental illness. Unless love and passion are illness. They are known since times of yore, it is what is called Platonic Love.
Yes, seeing a doctor is just paying some fucker to tell YOU about your innermost feelings. Because every thought can be seen like an illness nowadays!
| >>147479 sometimes this "love" becomes obsession and just hits unhealthy levels, to the point when you can't even function like a normal human being because you're concentrated on this person too much. and sometimes (most of the times) it's not easy to get to the bottom of your innermost feelings and find relief without professional guidance. talking to friends is nice, but therapists are professionals for a reason and psychology is no joke. besides this does no harm unlike meds.
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| No, I'm not trying to ask help to get a girl. I need help getting myself away from a girl.
From 5th to 8th grade, I had a crush on this girl (and as the awkward child I was, I never got with her) and I was a bit embarrassing. At the end, I get the guts to ask her to a dance, but she declines saying that she already had someone. Turns out she lied to avoid hurting my feelings. From then on, I promised myself to stop crushing on her and fast forward to high school, where we both go.