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What happen if you ask your parents for therapy but, your parents says you don't need one
| Do some sports. Go visit a gym or start running. It will help more than any pill u get prescripted by some "therapists".
| I also have some really bad ups and downs and going to the gym always helps me lift my spirits. Cleaning my room helps too. Or cooking something for dinner instead of going to some take-away.
| I know exactly how you feel, back when I was at a real low I tried telling my parents about being depressed and maybe I need help. They just brushed it off,"oh you don't have depression, you're fine". I was extremely and and hurt...like trying to open up to someone for them to just brush you off. Anyways I never wound up going to therapy or anything but I eventually improved, not much help from my family but yeah. Listen to what the others said, try finding something.
| Something you enjoy, something that makes you feel good about yourself. It's amazing what a new hobby can do, find a sport, do martial arts, learn an instrument, learn to code or maybe learn a language you've always wanted to...Having something to strive towards helps...Just keep pushing forward man, it's all any of us can do.
| Get off this board, it's depressing
| >>145560 don't make them feel even worse.
You really should see a therapist OP. I'm not sure how your family dynamic is, but maybe you could get a doctor or a teacher or a priest, or whoever your mom respects to convince her your problems are real and you need help. Otherwise schools might have counselors, but quality for school counselors is spotty as fuck.
| >>145487
It really does help a little bit, but just a little. Sometimes I can't get rid of nasty thoughts even during exercising, though, so that's not quite a definitive final solution, probably.
| >>145487
Thx for the advice, though I don't usually do sports, I only do it when my friends ask to hangout for sports and stuff
And the last time I did biking, I almost had a blackout, and the last time I did swimming, I suddenly feel sick after getting out of it
| >>145509
I usually like drawing, but a lot of the time when I finish drawing, it usually feel that the drawing is not good enough
I like playing games too, but my family sees me somekind of slob whenever I use my PC
And I like driving too, but the car usually used for emergency only and I don't have a lot of money to go around anyway
I have things that I like to do, but it just felt like a distraction rather than it felt something worth it
| >>145983
Hmm, try setting meaningful goals for you to do, something that you can be proud of but close enough that you can see the path to achieve it. Something like "draw this big painting" or "make a playable game". Trust that your hobbies are meaningful, not just distraction.
| #145983
https://ddlcwiki.ga/wiki/Monika%27s_topics - Topic 39
If you like drawing, keep at it. Even if they aren't any good, it's better to do something you genuinely like as a distraction rather than doing something just for the sake of distracting yourself.
| Some drugs work OP. But they can take long times to get used to and it can be difficult to be around people when getting on, or off them. Also, some places have community supports where you can get in touch with other anxious people, and build a support network.
>>146152
Sometimes self doubt makes long term goals seem insurmountable. What helps me is breaking every project into steps. Do one thing you know you need to do. Then the next one. As long as something gets done, you good
| Here's MY story from 2 years ago, this doesn't mean you need to think the same way.
I used to have a therapist who told me "my depression" caused ADD like symptoms. It was the other way around. She prescribed meds that fucked me up so bad, I felt like my IQ was cut in half and I was so dopey its not even funny. These meds made me more depressed and when I told my therapist about it she gave me a higher dose. It got worse from there, like I actually thought of suicide.
| So when I told her that, she went to the bathroom FOR 30 MINUTES. Cops showed up to the office and CUT THE POWER (it was already late and I was the only patient there). I was escorted to the ER (ARRESTED) and I was sent to a suicide hospital (different story) I actually stopped taking the meds and I lied about my depression to escape the hospital (Prison). I must have told a good lie because they're psychologists after all. Now I go to a new doctor who helps treat my ADD.
| Therapist = The + Rapist
| Psychiatrist =/= Psychologist.
| Therapy is a mixed bag as well. If you aren't good at getting a long with a wide range of people, it'll probably take a long time to find a good match for you. I know from experience because I'm, uh, pretty idiosyncratic and there are like 3 people in the world I've ever connected with. I didn't get much of anything out of any of the 4 therapists I've seen. It can help, definitely, but it's hard to keep your parents on board if it's that uncertain.
| I've always taken the cautious approach, so I literally waited until I stopped living with my parents before I started looking for outside help. (By then I'd been suicidal for 6 years. Survived, painfully but with surprisingly little difficulty. I'm cautious.) Before that I just tinkered with things on my own. You know you can just download free CBT worksheets? Those are a good starting point. Sometimes engaging with family really isn't worth the effort. I recommend DIY first.
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| I've been getting these depressive and anxiety moments where I can't sleep at night/staying up too late, don't have any motivation to do anything, being lonely, and also whenever I do anything, it's always wrong in people's eyes
I ask for therapy so I can fix myself better, but my mother says I don't need one. What should I do?