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What would you do?
| Told her to pay per message, hoping it would snap her brains open. She did stopped. But recently we met and she talked how I was an asshole for pretending to lend her help, but I was not willing to help as friend as I charge her shit. She also mentioned how if I keep doing this I'll have no friends bcs now I'm going to be a hidden loan shark to my friends.
I'm asking my closest friend but they are currently very busy. Asking for honest opinion, what would you do? Am I at fault?
| She has ulterior motives and you could have handled it better.
You're both at fault.
| Honestly I'm thinking of just keeping distance. Not becoming strangers, just knowing each other.
| >>141152 I was suspicious of the same thing. But I agree I could have told her politely instead of what I did.
| >>141147
What did you do? And what did she say afterwords?
Anyway, I would try to talk to her and if she's just going to keep being 'toxic', I'll stop being friends with her(as hurt as I may be).
| If it were me in that situation I'd simply cut her out of my life, but I'm not you.
You're going to have to weigh the pros and cons of having this girl in your life. Make educated, well thought out decisions. Do not speak before thinking. Bite your tongue if you must.
| >>141159 It's ok. Basically she only said that I should not charge friends as it will make me look like a loan shark to anyone.
>>141162 Yeah, I'll think this through later. Right now at the heat of the moment, I'm pretty much ready to shut the gates
| Sorry for asking... But in case I meet similar problems in the future, should I just refuse to help instead?
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| I have this friend who I used to go hang around with but she acts really immature and quite honestly toxic (complaining about little stuff, etc). One times she asked for my help and what she did is that she would always use my phone to SMS/chat someone she could not because 'my battery died/I ran out of quota'. The thing is, she is by no means poor as she bought like expensive makeups almost monthly.
One time I got really fed up with her 'borrowing' my phone and I straight up...