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way of becoming more talkative?
| Wish I knew, I can talk all day long but I have so little presence that sometimes people don't even notice I'm talking...
| I have to confess: I'm not a very good listener. I'm that one person that won't shut up even though the topic at hand is dry as heck.
Okay, so, I don't have any inherent "tricks" to doing this, but the way I do it is simply making the conversation solely focused on me first. Do like a "Hey, do you know *relatable stuff* is *your opinion*?"
After that, I usually link it to another topic - then another, then another again. Repeat until they're bored.
| If you can't think of a topic then don't overthink it. Basically, as long as you can extend a single topic by either padding your opinion or having a small back and forth with your conversation partner, you can pretty much sound like a talkative person.
| And if they don't respond a single bit to any of your cues, even if you have tried multiple times, then consider talking to a brick wall instead.
| The only thing that worked for me was practice. But I'm socially awkward and shy, so that meant living enough years in a city being forced to talk. Begin with small talk. Yes. Everyone hates it, but it's necessary. Afterwards, try to talk about a subject you know they'll know. If you can't think of something, reveal some mundane info about yourself and ask if they ever feel similar. Lastly, end with 'I gotta go, but It's been great talking to you. See you later! '
| Talk a whooooole bunch. This may require an assistant to talk to.
| Holy
| I find that stating an opinion or observation about the topic keeps people talking. Even if its just a minor thing
| >>139629
yeahh ionno about that. i'm not that opinionated myself tbh and to others' opinions i usually react with "huh", "oh okay" and "i see" and then fail to keep talking from that point. trying to change that rly didn't do much for me
| >>140598
Its the same for me, except i usually realise what i could have said and kick myself for it. But having opinions helps a lot, even if it only gives you one thing to say
| The slow way: Read books. Live through them. Learn how to communicate through social interactions with books focused on dialogue and interpersonal relationships.
The quick way: Force yourself into public places, mixers, the gym, coffee shops, anything really. Give yourself social stimulus every day.
| >>141167
books didn't quite work out fir me so far
and if i try the quick way my anxiety will probably kill me
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| ye so here's the gist of it: led a boring life, ended up a boring person without stories to tell. which leads me to sitting silently in a corner at social gatherings and especially painful awkward silences when meeting tet-a-tet. it's fine when that person talks a lot (since i seem to be a decent at minimum listener), but when they don't...hoo boy, it gets bad. so yeah. the actual discussion topic is in the title pretty much. how do i keep the conversation ball rolling?