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How do you deal with severe loneliness?
| Welp, The best way to cure loneliness if to find something fulfilling.. I use to have trouble getting friends have being burned a few times. The greatest cure for loneliness is well.. A companion.. but if you are having a hard time getting one.. Take Jill's advice and get a hobby of a sort. Overwatch is a great place to make a team of friends or just go to a local game of Dungeons and Dragons.
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| Just incase you feel really down.. My steam name is "Le Detective - Recently Damaged." I can help you until you get something going. Also, the whole thing about Jill requiring something to prevent her from being distracted actually applies in real life.
| Sounds corny but put yourself out there, join your community groups and sincerely give people a chance n attempt to see things from their view without ego. Once u get going on sharing the things u love n being around people who are naturally warm u will gain their warmth without taking anything from them
| My friend attempted suicide n survived, got a job n goes to church now like he bounced back 100%,loves talking to people learned how to talk to his parents instead of just venting to me online like, life just sits outside your door but you have to choose it and choose to see the good in it. Like if you are lonely, just go to where people are
| By reminding myself how bothersome it is to interact with other people. Keeping everyone happy, maintaining public image, tolerating people's mistakes. Not to mention that I hate people in general anyways.
| >Keeping everybody happy
Why? They should be content to just spend time with you.
>public image
Unless you're vain, this isn't an issue if you want company.
>tolerating people's mistakes.
So you're saying you don't tolerate other's mistakes but tolerate your own?
People aren't bad. The hardest part is finding the right people for you.
| Distract myself with movies, anime, vidya.
Don't give up on looking for someone but don't force yourself to if it's getting depressingly hopeless, take a break.
| Why deal with it, why not fix it? Maybe it won't be easy, since you're asking this question, buy a solution is better than a workaround. And working on a fix should distract you enough anyway.
| >>126935 you are taking it in a too grand scale, granted it was my fault being vague.
Keeping everybody happy: That's what I see interaction between people are. If a person is a debbie downer, depressing, whiny, naysayer, no one would want to sincerely spend time with her. You spend time with other because it makes you feel pleasant/better, and to make others feel better, sometimes it takes more than "being yourself" and that is bothersome IMO
| Public image: it can apply to your carrier, or just personal relationship. People generally judge other by their job, attitude, and social life. This is not an issue if I am not a type of person that post in an obscure anon board. I literally have nothing to say if people strike a conversation with me about normal stuff other than canned answers.
| Tolerating people's mistake: Firstly, I don't really tolerate myself, I often beat myself for the smallest mistake. But I just want to be treated how I treat others, but that doesn't really happen most of the time. So when people treat me like I wouldn't ever treat anyone else (just small stuff like asking too personal question, for example), that's already a mistake in my book and I don't want to deal with that because that is the kind of mistake that I would never do
| Eat tide pods
| Get a gf
| Talk to random strangers until some of them become friends with you
| masturbate
| >>126915 I understand where you're coming from with this. It often feels like most social situations are contrived, and it becomes difficult to be real with others when it feels as though there are these obligations and external circumstances barring you from it.
| >>127146 That's generally the problem I have, is that most social situations Do feel contrived or somewhat fake, and I completely fall apart dealing with that and make an ass out of myself, because I can't deal with it.
| >>127356 Yeah, for me I'm fine at making small talk and getting to know people..but then I'm bad at getting close to them, because I never feel like I've met the "prerequisites." I can play the part of the socially normal person, but I have a hard time establishing meaningful relationships. I don't know how to make someone go from a close acquaintance to a bona fide friend.
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