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Ever feel like people are trying to tell you who you are and what you think?
| As a teacher, I have been guilty of this (the problem that OP g/u/rl highlights) numerous of times, especially during my early days.
It's very easy to assume my students are doing X because they're Y; it's especially easy to power-trip them into thinking that's *actually* what they were thinking (i.e redefining themselves by my words).
It's also easy to get caught up into thinking that, because I'm more "experienced", I can "deduce" their thought process. (1/2)
| When really, all I can do is make them feel guilty or wrong about their actions or opinions — which repeats the cycle of me, with my ego, tripping them over and making them feel "wrong"
It's almost like gaslighting. Well, I guess it is gaslighting. And I'm not ashamed to say that I am guilty of doing all this in my past.
| Yeah hate those people I can be a mad scientist of I want, Okarin taught me that much
| Oddly enough, no. I guess I always look like I know what I'm doing or I'm weird enough people don't try to know me as much. People just leave me alone.
| Beep boop, I'm a dinosaur!
| Oh yeah, definitely. It doesn't happen much to me in particular, but I feel like I see it a lot. I think it's interesting because, in a sense, it displays how intimately narratives drive our thought processes, particularly the idea that one can feel justified to dictate what someone else thinks or feels to fit the mould of an antagonist or hostile figure, even if they're just a kid being a kid, for example, or if doing wrong was not the intention at all.
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| Good criticism and suggestions are often precious things in life, but have there been points for you where you feel someone goes a bit too far and starts trying to tell you what you think or feel about something?
It's something that I'm rather used to honestly. I've been chastised, rebuked, and told what I did wrong countless times, and the speaker is often right. But it always bothers me when they try to tell what I'm actually feeling/thinking.