why is finding a gf so hard?
| unironically globalization. why should she bother looking at you when she has 20 people in her dms?
| First of all you should explain what's your understanding of a gf (just mating?).
The harder you try, the harder you will fail. There are some things that can't be "planned" and "played" according to books and coaches. If you make finding a partner your life goal, your life would become instantly pointless if you've reached it.
>>1075168
There's a good chance that 19 of 20 people in her dms are idiots - she'll find out sooner or later. Or if she's really smart she already knows.
| it is hard for -you- because simply I have most of them. I love women so much. I will not apologize. I love women so much.
| >>1075174
>19 of 20 people in her dms are idiots
>if she's really smart she already knows
*looks into camera*
| Everyone is afraid of getting the short end of the stick (kinda rightfully so)
Women? Afraid of being used, cheated on, having decreased freedom, not receiving much commitment, and afraid of receiving too much commitment
Men? Afraid of being used, emotionally and economically, cheated on, having decreased freedom, not living up to their partner's standards, getting married only to get divorce raped, afraid of not being enough, and afraid of too much/too little commitment
| I think this is not due to "modernism", contrary to popular belief.
I'm afraid humans are statistically unlikely to have a perfect (or even a good enough) long-lasting romantic relationship, from the start.
We're flawed. But our fantasies are not. Our standards are not (sometimes), the only difference from the past is that we are realizing of it just now.
The "movie-like romance" was never real.
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Suppose its a matter of just existing and at some point you’ll find someone, however long it takes. Its only better to not be so fixated about it, while thinking about relationships is fine and all cause we all wanna be with someone.
You gotta ask yourself why you want to be in one in the first place. From there you’ll be able to understand your own standards and find someone who might seem to see the same thing as you. (^-^)
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| fr tho, it's a whole struggle. feels like everyone's either taken, playing games, or you just can't find the right vibe. the dating scene is wild out here