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I'm the one that is getting gaslighted so badly and you keep accusing me of doing that instead
| What am I going to do if you keep telling me all these things? Do you think I am going to look at you and enjoy you suffer or am I going to tell you to leave me and move on with your life because clearly you are incapable of looking at my bare soul. So I said that. So I asked you to just give up and move on. But you still just won't. You keep blaming me. You keep telling me that I have to change. Change why? So your stupid ego feels satisfied?
| I simply don't understand. Why are you even trying to fix me? Why do you see me as some problem to solve, but not as a human being who is struggling to survive every day and just try to be a supportive ear? I am not asking you to come solve my problems. I am only asking you to listen, and if you had anything empathetic and understanding to say, just say it. Instead you blame me, you tell me that I am the one who brings things up on myself.
| You tell me that I am the one that lets people around me abuse me. You tell me that I will never change. You then threaten me and tell me that you are scared of me. You then tell me things that make me only think that you have given up on me. So I ask you to just leave me the fuck alone because you are not empathetic to my struggles at all. What's stupid is that you then blame me for not listening to things that you said 2 years ago. I just don't get it.
| Do you think that human experiences are something that can just be communicated through shitposts and then telepathically your thoughts, feelings and pain can be communicated to me? To truly know how something feels you have to be in an almost exact situation. You just say that you ate bread and you work with shitty people and then you expect me to truly know and empathize with that when I never worked before?
| You are the one that is pushing me away and then you accuse me of pushing you. You keep saying things that make me sad and hurt me and then you stop talking to me. I feel like I am about to faint. Rejection physically hurts me. I just want to die. I thought at least one soul in the world would be understanding of my plight and struggles. I thought you would be there for me, but you just kept fighting with me every week.
| I'm in a lot of pain now. Please come back. I don't even like you when you do these kind of things but everything hurts. How did I even get in a situation like this?
| Getting gaslighted sounds dangerous. If somebody lights a match nearby, for instance, they'll hardly recognize you in the casket.
| Oh hey, I was in a situation like this.
It was because I hated the idea of that bitch having resigned herself to a life of self-destructive bullshit, but thought she had enough of a personality to her to be worth it if she ever stopped hurting herself.
Also, can't really talk about myself when you're too busy exploding all day, or when I'm pretty sure you're just gonna use the information to guilt trip me more.
Good luck OP!
| Casual vs Competetive gaslighter FIGHT!!1
| Oh look, it's the same shit that I've been through...
| Tldr, try sex
| My dad said to try making a change and seeing how it works, and do it again and again and you get a good life! I love him so much. Probably they feel impotent and sad and hearing ‘don’t do’ is going to make them feel worse. Could you bond over a small thing you do do, like you could brush your teeth together in the morning, and they
could feel good about helping with that?
The who is pushing who is actually a problem of frame of reference. Take college physics. It’s irrelevant.
| Another wonderful story that tries to imitate the heroic but falls flat when there is no thrilling
| Doesn't the error stand on having different initial views for a relationship and wish to keep the same distance in ideologies to not change the mood from where the bond did birth.
Is there anything in particular you want to talk about OP?
This was a nice rant at least, I could feel many range of emotions.
| I spoke to him again and he kept asking me to explicitly tell him or give him a hint that "I will start doing X" and "I will stop doing Y". Why should I? I have already said those kind of things and promised to people to make them stay back only to find myself doing those things again.
| I do wish I'd stopped doing those things but I think I am better keeping these kind of wishes to myself instead of just saying it out loud to others only to somehow fail in the future and both disappoint them and disappoint myself. I tried to thank him for being with me but I do not know how he took it. I don't know what's going to happen.
| I feel like the focus here is wrong and there are some incorrect assumptions and spirit of defeat. Like the statement "You must say you'll do X" seems really cucked and ashamed. If he wants to help could you set a small goal together you expect you could do alone, or are already doing for him to help you with? I would interact less and just try to have positive interactions where you share things, don't apologize or talk about parts of your life you're disappointed in.
| ALSO-can I be your new bf? I want to kiss you and fuck you and squeeze your soft flesh (with my arms) I recently watched a welding video on youtube and could make a cage in my yard for you to live in like the famous american guantanamo bay where you can't do whatever bad things you were doing, and I could lend a hand too! My parents might not like it though so I might need to hide it in the woods nearbye, unless you can think of a clever excuse (maybe say it's for the government?).
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| You tell me that you are scared of me. You tell me that you have failed me. You express extreme stress and depression whenever you see me being the failure that I am. You keep restricting yourself from talking about yourself to me. What do you expect me to say? Lie about things that never happened to make you believe that I am changing and I am getting better? Why is it your job to fix me? I did not ask for it. I just want to be your friend that's all. Not my savior.