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Should I abandon my fiancé?
| In turn, recently I've stumbled upon a girl. A tall girl, a strong girl, strong enough to carry me (which she had, and it felt amazing). A girl that already has her life together and who I won't need to wallop upside the head to force her to keep developing herself.
We have been dating for the past few weeks and had an amazing time. I am wary of our feeling potentially stemming from pure new relationship energy, and she is wary of committing knowing that I have a fiancé.
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| She offered that I move in with her, but she wants us to be exclusive.
I would feel bad about abandoning my fiancé for her, especially since he'd probably immediately revert to being an useless human being if not for my constant prodding. But I don't want to build my future with someone who hardly classifies as independent, either.
What should I do, /d/?
| Leave him, but don't do it harshly. You have to be gentle with him, but strong in your decision, and pray for him to recover after it.
| Marrying a person you don't love is making life hell for both you and them.
| Why did you go out with the guy in the first place? Especially if you have such strong misandry (not cool by the way)
| It's incredible how, with less than 1000 characters, you managed to make me absolutely despise you.
I hope you sneeze so fucking hard you cover yourself in snot, and no one lends you a tissue.
| Are you à female going for another female or à male going for à female ?
Anyway, if she knows you're married yet still goes after you then she'll do it again when you'll be with her
In other words, she's bad news
| >>801253 tbh it's hot xd
It's your life, so make decisions what you really wish.. there is not objective right/wrong, make anything what will make you happy ^^
| You don't deserve him
| how does a single g/u/rl become such a powerful baitposter wwwww
there's no fucking WAY
| danger/u/ the place where garbage pretending to be human can afford to have no shame and pretend their shit personality is normal.
| >>801258
That's probably what I will end up doing.
I'm not sure if it's really possible to let him down gently. Perhaps over time?
Associating myself less and less, then cutting ties entirely.
Thank you for understanding.
>>801262
It is imperative for a woman to have a room of her own. If he's willing to foot the bill for it, it's his poison.
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| That was the rationale, pretty much. Or to reword, he needs someone to work for so he can feel that he's not useless, and I didn't mind him doing so as long as it remained convenient.
>(not cool by the way)
Get back to me when I can look at a man in the street and not be forced to wonder if he's a rapist or a fascist. No, genuinely, please do. It'd be a better world.
>>801267
I'm not married. I am engaged, which makes the circumstances different.
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| I invited her to continue the relationship despite them. I doubt homewrecking is what she hopes to achieve, if anything she doesn't want to have to share me - an understandable goal.
>>801282
Thank you. At the end of the day, nobody is going to look out for my happiness other than myself.
It's a shame that so many g/u/rls get angry over this concept. I guess they're males who have no place here to begin with.
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| >>801341
>Perhaps over time?
I'm not the most experienced but in your situation I would be direct so it's clear what your boundaries are and respectful to the other girl. It might be more dangerous to do it that way, though.
| >>801252 >>801253 >>801255 >>801341 >>801342 >>801343
If you do not want to be with someone then don't. It just kind of sounds like your trying to milk this man for his money,which in turn makes people hate you.
Just dump him for this woman and get on with it. Don't get in a relationship you hate only for it to get worse and worse year after year and resentment to grow.
| You do sound like an utter bitch
>I guess they're males who have no place here to begin with
>Get back to me when I can look at a man in the street and not be forced to wonder if he's a rapist or a fascist
Hope you get raped by a fascist. No just get raped by Mussolini himself!
| Wahmen
| >>801341
You should just break up with him asap so the both of you can move on with your life quickly. Leading him on for an extended period of time wastes both of your's time.
| >>801364
>"I don't like men, I don't feel safe around them"
>YOU BITCH HOW DARE YOU GO GET RAPED
men in a nutshell
| op's not wrong to behave the way she does if this is what she can expect from you lot
| >>fe9222 It's hard to empathize with someone that starts saying they hate men, generalizing, and describing his fiancee as a useless human being (multiple times, at that) while fooling around with another person behind their back.
But yeah, keep thinking that the rest of us are the despicable ones.
| >>801414 it isn't really that hard to empathise with them if you drop the moralization and respond to the thread like you aren't a massive tool. if you really need to put down an internet woman to prove to yourself you aren't despicable, at least do it in /new/ pls.
| >>801415
>drop the moralization
I know it's shocking to the rest of you apologetic whores, but some people actually have morals, it's called not being a worthless human being
| Moral of the story: sure go drop him and take off with the lesbo, I hope she drops you thrice as hard as you were during childhood
| High effort post, the amount of astral projection here is strong really smoked them out. Harem protags are only cute in the animes fellas, don't become what you eat.
| >>802297
Thanks, I tried~
Men are honestly so easy to fuck with, stg. That just psychological damage in general or this board's selection bias in particular?
| Please just leave him. It's unfair to both of you. He'll be able to meet someone he can work under that will also love him back while you can find someone who you'd be capable of loving. Both wins in the long run.
| I am now going to be a sexist, manipulative and demeaning troll towards women online, even if it hurts them. Sure they are easy to fuck with since they're estrogenic retards.
| >>801252
why did you let it get like this in the first place? you said you never loved him yourself. it's only gonna be worse if you wait to break it.
so do both him and yourself a favor and go. don't waste his time, don't waste yours.
| Fucking fags ugh
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| I have a bit of a dilemma.
My fiancé works hard to build a home for me.
I don't love him though -- I never have.
He is immature, inexperienced, he never had a job until I forced him to get one.
In fact, he's male. I hate men. It's something you have to hide if you want to function in a society, but the more time I spend with him, the more he reminds me of a typical male: a terribly mannered dog who can't be trusted to behave without a carrot and stick to keep him straight.
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