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| Sup. I'm the type of guy that gets over things easily but I can't do it with a certain person. He and I used to like each other, but we never did anything about it. After three years of being like that he said some stuff that sounded like he was about to confess, but he instead said he didn't like me anymore. It's all cool and fine until I ran into him a few days ago, then I can't stop thinking about him again. It has been affecting my work life. How do I stop this
| i dont know if this question is what you were expecting but i really want to became more feminine but without my parents noticing and kicking me out, like ideally i would like to shave off all my body hair, have a more femenine body and get a nice haircut but im sure it will just make me homeless.
i dont really care what my parents will think about me but until i get a job and have a place to be i need to discreetly become a trap.
| Magic conch, tell us, are traps gay?
| Op back after an Internet failure
>>79486
So I had the same thing happen to me but for half the time. 1.5 years of endless tension and flirting attempts with a gorgeous girl who chose two different guys over me. All I can say is you need time. Time to heal. I still need time to get over her. One day you'll wake up and feel like you don't need him but until then don't think "where did I go wrong" think "I don't need him"
| >>79498
It sounds like you should become a tactical trap. Get as feminine as you want when you leave the house, like a super hero changing costumes in a phone booth. Because self expression is important and you can do it sometimes but yes getting kicked out of the house will also be bad for you
| >>80522 how would that work? like hide a backpad with dress and makeup then go outside and change?
| >>79498 Setting aside how you want to present yourself, make sure you're not changing yourself for other people. Never alter your personality or physical being just for the sake of attracting someone or fitting a certain type. If all this truly makes you happy and more wholesome, then go for it. There's also the option of talking to your folks about it. The truth reveals itself sooner or later anyway. Webs and lies make life far too complicated. Good luck. - A well traveled Anon
| Op do you have any tips for telling a girl that you love them/wanna go out with them?
| >>81152
You can never go wrong with the classic straight punch.
"hey you're very pretty, i would love to get coffee sometime/can i have your phone number"
I've used that exact line probably 7 times now and it always works. Any worthwhile girl will appreciate the no puns no gambits honest question
| oh but don't just say "I love you" to a new girl obviously
| op, why the fuck am i asexualaromantic?
| >>81313
alright i have an unpopular answer to this. If you're a human who is past age 13-15 that means you went through puberty which then means yeah somewhere deep inside you there are hormones creating a desire for sex. So you probably at the conscious/mental level don't have a desire for sex. which is fine. You as an independent person get to choose what you do and don't do.
| >>81313
as to WHY I would say you have a block on sex in your head? again that's tricky. I've only gotten close to 2 asexual people but they both were already very anti social girls. they were homeschooled, afraid of boys, one of them was groped, both had anxiety disorders. This is why I feel that asexuality or the lack of interest in sex is a side effect of having a bigger problem in your life.
| How would one meet a girl the same age as you (19) if you've dropped out of varsity?
| I don't know how to pleasure myself. I'm a g/u/rl
| >>81387
Pick your second most attractive friend and head out to any public place that humanity has labeled a safe flirt zone. Malls, parks, and bars. If you're too nervous to try a straight direct approach as I've described in earlier posts, here's my other strat for you. You have to wait for some third party element to cause you and the girl to interact.
| The best source of this, is how whenever something weird happens in public every bystander looks around the room at other people for confirmation of the weirdness. That's when you can make some organic eye contact with a girl. Give a light chuckle, tilt your eyes towards the guy standing on his table singing as if you mean to say "wow can you believe this fella?" And if she smiles and gives some kind of similar silent message, don't be afraid to close the gap and introduce yourself
| >>81578
I'm not sure how to accurately describe masturbation it's something I just figured out on my own without a lesson, also I'm a dude I'm not sure I can help directly so my advice is just watch some porn of people jerkin' it. There's a lot of it and they all do it right
| >>81962
Wouldn't taking my attractive friend out with me lead to the girls over looking me and focusing on him? wouldn't be the first time...
| >>81313
Not OP, but as someone who has been straight, gay, asexual and bisexual multiple times at different times in my life for at least several months to a year despite only being 20 years old, I can attest that at least for me asexuality is always caused by a psychological issue making sex or romance completely unappealing.
I think it's probably like that for a lot of people and asexuality often ends up being a phase, but of course that doesn't make it any less legitimate.
| I know it's p late for me to say this but...thanks op
| >>82099
When I said second most I meant second to you. Having a friend just helps ease things. If a girl sees me with a friend, it's simeltaneously a compliment that you stopped your own conversation to talk to this girl, and makes you feel more sociable and human as opposed to a guy all alone by himself searching for girls like a stalker
| What is love Like? No really this isn't any melodramatic bullshit I don't think I've ever actually been in love and I'm uncomfortably close to the point where I have to think...am I retarded? Can someone really go their entire life not knowing romantic feeling? Like holy shit I feel like I'm just missing it or something. I mean I'm lost here, but I guess I still want a sex life but that feels wrong for some reason.
| 29. Shits just didn't click.
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| This seemed to help people out last time so let's do it again. I, op, will give genuine advice to any question you have about love or sex. I don't like real questions being answered with shitposting