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I need help or at least someone who relates
| I love sex.
| >>711630 not helpful
>>711628 Well I'm not sure I have great advice but I wouldn't use see or self pleasure to "cure" a depression or depressive feeling. It often like you said makes you feel worse. As far as not being able to get in the mood well I'm not sure.
| >>711631 You're probably right, I've just wanted to feel some kind of release or even a short respite from everything but it doesn't help idk. Thank you very much for responding though, it means a lot.
| I'm more g/u/rl then girl but I feel ya hun. In my case I feel I started having less fun playing with myself once I lost touch with people around me
Not like I had a chance to get fucked since I was always closeted around people, but it was easier to get off when I wasn't this isolated from others.
Idk. Might not be the same but yeah crywanks don't do much at all.
| gurls it's NNN, get yourself an excuse to stop thinking about such mind-clogging things!
| >>711648 No that actually helps thank you. I'm sorry to hear about that though, the whole being closeted situation. I can kind of relate there too though it's not as bad in regards to that, family is mostly supportive luckily, took some good years though. Anyways thank you for replying <3
| I fill my reddit feed with ~20% porn and lewd anime girls. I'm not sure if that's a consequence or a cause of my higher sex drive.
| Well, I am a boy and really never felt much enjoyment in "playing with myself". Not before, during or after that action. It's just... I don't know. Same was (and probably is) with actual sex. It's just not working how it should be. It feels like work, and not really interesting or enjoyable.
And not sure that I'm asexual or whatever. 'Cause sometimes I really feeling kinda horny.
Not helping, I know.
| >>711628
Depression can absolutely inhibit sexual thoughts! It could also be a problem witb your endocrine system, and something like 30% of women have trouble getting aroused. I'd recommend seeing an endocrinologist and changing your diet to eat less highly processed food.
| >>712128 Yeah I guess I kind of feel similarly so it does kind of help actually. I didn't really think anyone would just like up and solve my problem so I did also say anyone relating since it matters quite a bit to me so thank you.
>>712292 Hmm maybe I should, thank you for the advice.
| Why would sex be a necessary thing? You don't enjoy it, cool, use that free time to do other things. Enjoy the fact that you are not a sex-driven animal.
| Hello gurl! Im 21 and a girl and i faced that problem my entire life until now. For me it had a lot to do with disgust and the feeling that it's dirty down there. Not sure, but maybe you can look into that. I overcame that but still have no idea how to do anything sexual since i never grew up with it. Im also looking for advice. I get horny sometimes but thats all. I dont feel anything if i touch myself. I only feel something when really someone else does that. Idk how to solve...
| >>712485 I suppose so yes but I want to feel release and enjoyment from it I'm not sure.
>>712647 I do feel similarly in a way yes, thank you for responding and for the latter point maybe try fantasizing about said person touching you? When you do it I mean, get relaxed and in the mood and go for it if you want to, maybe it'd help
| Just don't set yourself under pressure. You shouldn't try to get in the mood. Just wait for the mood getting you.
| >>712861 I just try at most once a week. After going so long like this I just got kind of burnt out. Maybe I'll just stop for a while again and try in the future. Thank you for the advice though.
| I think it's normal? Women hit their sexual peak around age 29 while men hit it at age 21
| I tried touching myself today. Nothing happens. It even hurts when i go inside and i feel nothing. I see that my clitoris is kinda more sensitive than the other stuff (like nipples) but touching that doesn't help either...
| Maybe you need to explore more what gets you in the mood? That's really important. You haven't mentioned looking at any kind of media, but there's a lot of erotic fiction and audios out there that are less one-dimensional and slower than straight up porn and maybe more approachable/atmospheric. Or maybe fantasizing/thinking more about what you want physically/emotionally, even if thinking directly of sexy things doesn't work?
| It doesn't work. I even tried to put a carrot in there and basically raped myself. It just hurts... Sometimes media works in getting me even a little bit aroused but i can't do more and as soon as it gets to touching myself, it's just uncomfortable
| Oh, that's rough. I guess all i can say is, please be as gentle and patient with yourself as anyone else who is exploring their sexuality. The psychological stuff is just as important as the physical stuff, and it's better to be kind and be accepting of how it works for you than pushing it too much
| * as people should be with anyone else
| I've never seen anyone force themselves to play video games until they'd like it. Why do people do that with sex? You don't enjoy it, don't force yourself, and stop worrying about something that you don't need.
| >>85a3c8
>Raped myself with a carrot
Maybe try some sented candles and put a little smoochy music on. I feel similar to >>1facc3 also boy sex never really did it for me. But it's different when I'm all alone because I can create the scene untill everything just feels good and cozy. I only masturbate once a month so I go all out when I do.
| >>85a3c8 Jeez, I'm really sorry to hear that. I feel like a lot of people have a warped view of these things from mainstream porn, myself included so maybe that's also a problem for me. There's a lot of good advice here though, and thank you for replying and sharing this.
>>713089 Seems so yeah, thank you.
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| Hey so I'm a girl who just idk for some reason it's really hard for me to get in the mood, like I rarely ever do anything sexual but if I ever do I feel like it just takes so much effort and in the end I just end up feeling more depressed than when I started. I have been trying to find a solution for years now and I'm at my wits end here. Thanks for listening to my little rant if you did.