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what does it mean?
| btw im a girl and i know that she's straight
| and other side note is that we're really not that close. i think we only talk because of our group thesis but yea she acts like that
| It sounds like she doesn't know how to act towards you because of your strong autism
| that's funny but i dont have autism okay? hahah
| to sum me up im like the friendly type introvert that becomes an extrovert with people i feel comfortable to
| >>690204 yea that should be pretty much it right? other than that i should not mean anything to her
| Maybe she's rlly just like that to everyone n u dont realize
| She's probably more comfortable with you than with most people, even though you're not that close, I guess ?
| Are you 12? Holy shit
| >>690218 i dont think so? because when you observe her, she herself is a pretty much quiet person and only talks with people that she's close and known for a long time. i just can't seem to fathom why she is like that to me when we talk so little. Although, there are very rare times that we're almost inseparable in a day because she talks so much when she's with me.
| >>690284 i dont get why is she like that. We don't talk much and doesn't know each other very well.
| >>59adbc
Well you're awesome and kind and she probably see herself in you. Some people are just easier to relax around and you sound pretty chill.
Is it bothering you? Otherwise you can probably build a close friendship with her.
| >>045c13 wow thank you for those kind words. its bothering me a bit since there was this one time when one of her friends teases us as a "thing" and she was just quiet about it and im not liking it. she also opens up topics to me that she never said to anyone like things about her childhood and she's touchy to me too up to the point that it relies a different vibe to others and in me.
| anyway, thank you for responding and saying your thoughts about this. i've never shared this to anyone since they probably think of me as a narcissistic exaggerating bitchin nonsensical words but yea it is kinda bothering me a bit for a while now.
| She's straight, yes. But, maybe she'd be gay only for you.
| >>483a5b not like a couple couple thing i guess. but there was this one time when our large group of friends had a gathering together and we separated from them. we went to one of the cottages, sat there and just complete silence. then, one of her friends came and teasingly ask us what are we doing there alone. you know that kind of teasing, the one thats like maybe we were about to do "something" thats why we're there.
| just get to lovin'
| >>690468
i mean you're not even that close right...
why not be better friends and you'll worry about romance later ?
| >>39ac00 theres a lotta reasons why we shouldnt. physically incapable now? yes cuz of rona but without rona, i think i still cant. and if i ever like acknowledge her or accept her feelings (if ever there is) i think it'll be bad for her side cause she's known as straight and have lots of guys that likes her. and also im a coward to things like this.
| >>483a5b oh what i mean is that if ever she does like me, i cant have that, i cant accept her or so. im just gonna hurt her too.
| >>690481
well it's useless worrying about it before you get to this point...
whatever happens, premade answers to feelings are unfair in my book
| >>483a5b im sorry bout that. okay honestly, i like her but yea i still shouldnt accept this feelings. what i know so far is that she's straight, have lots of guys that likes her (she had a boyfriend), and we don't talk now but im sure that our friendship is still there. i just shared this here to just see other people's perspective on how she maybe view or feel towards me and just wanted some advice. also im reaaally a coward in things like outing sexual preferences
| sorry i just really dont know how to deal with my feelings. problem is that people that im close to constantly tells me that its wrong to like people with the same gender so i cant accept this feelings. and also i dont know if she likes me back or what she just thinks of me and its always in the back of my mind every day.
| while thinking bout this thread for a while, i guess i should really just give up these feelings if i constantly act like this, right?
| Go hang out together, that's what friends do
Why would it be wrong to hang out with a friend ?
If you can't cuz rona, well idk,
send a text just to notify her that you miss her...
After all, you can't run away from what's in the back of your head, so it doesn't matter if you're a coward or not
| it's not gay to fuck your friends
| >>690489
>problem is that people that im close to constantly tells me that its wrong to like people with the same gender
Hey, this shouldn't be the reason you base your values on. If _you_ are OK with being with the same gender then you should allow it. It's healthy to be honest with yourself. If you aren't(virtuesly fine with it) then that's OK too.
| When it comes to friendship you shouldn't look to much into the logic of the thing. Imo the best friendships are the lovable ones but without all the sticky bits, pardon my expression.
It's too early to know if she's into you romantically or even sexually. You have to wait and find out but she may very well just like hanging out with you because she finds you easy to be around/relax around.
| >>690508 yea. its why im afraid to come out even more because most of my relatives and friends really find the lgbtq+ disgusting or not deserving of any support. personally, these things are okay for me since somehow im one of them. sometimes i just wanna confront them and ask what is wrong with just loving a person as a person. loving the personality and not the genitals itself. yet, i am still a coward since im afraid i'll lose them and be disgusted in me if i ever revealed me.
| >>c2fc09 for now ive decided to just stop my feelings for her. i think that i was really just over-analyzing things. thank you people who replied :) because if what y'all are saying that she just finds me easy to relax around then i suddenly confess to her or shown her in any way that i like her, probably she'll feel uncomfortable to do things around me.
| >>690586
>lgbtq+
that is politicized garbage. just be homo and don't associate yourself with that garbage, it's literally just a parasite movement.
| >>690606 setting aside the whole lgbtq, the thing is if i continue or accepted being homo, im scared that i'll lose the people that i care about and that no one would support me and people would also act cautious around me. i'll be lonelier than i am now.
| so far, today im not thinking that much about her now. i hope this continues.
| >>690614
your reply is basically as if you spat on a piece of paper, mailed it to the UN, and counted it as an argument
>>690622
sounds stupid. you're even lonelier than if you were with her.
| >>554cac lonelier when i'm with her? you mean because im not the real me when im with her? thats a good point. thank you for making me realize!
| >>690628
i actually want you to find your free happy way. people who matter won't mind and people who mind won't matter.
but don't just jump her. for all you know, she may actually just be bad at social stuff and gave out mixed signals.
| >>554cac thank you so much for that! im thinking of coming out on my parents and some of my friends but for now i think it wont be happening soon. yea im reconsidering now her signals that she gave. There's actually a lot of things that I haven't said about it but yea maybe she probably just view me as a person that she can constantly be comfortable to.
| why is this on /d/..
| >>c29bf8 sorry bout that. ever since ive used this app, ive only experience and tried talking with people here on /d/. Also, i just like to be updated on the topics here in and such, ive grown accustomed and more comfortable here.
| I can't really argue with the fact she likes you because your way of typing made me like you OP. <3
| >>690667 aww i dont know what so say, im flattered. thank you for complimenting me! im smiling ear to ear hahah. it just been so long too since i talked to people or anyone without holding back any feelings or topics to talk about. yet, still while thinking bout it, i think i just really misjudge her. anyway, we'll see when rona is gone and its safe to come out if she and i will pick up what we left off before rona.
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| what does it mean when a girl acts differently at you? like she treats you like a friend only but she acts differently only at you. i mean like calls you sweet names, flirts a bit with her words, caught her lookin at you or other stuff. I don't know but she i feel she sees me as a friend but why act different in me???