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Being Polyamorous sucks
| As a fellow poly, ouch. Good on you for being honest though.
| them's the breaks
| I think they just mean that if it's that what u want then it's ok. But since you asked abt they're personal opinion then ┐(´ー｀)┌
| Rip man. Makes me glad that I'm not poly. I think that being a lesbean is enough suffering for me.
| My general experience with so called "polies" so far is that its an excuse when said poly is caught cheating, so I can understand why they find it disgusting. Even if you're not like that, that's generally the context within which it comes up.
| For me its similar too. For me poly has been associated with cheating or a way to ignore another person in said relationship. I'm not saying you are but there are negative connections with the subject.
| sounds dumb
| If anyone claims they're poly when they've already cheated, that really is just an excuse because they're still going against whatever commitment they had made, regardless of what kind of thing they might be open to hypothetically.
What op is doing is the right thing - figuring out things beforehand - though if they really ask "if they were OK with me being poly" that's not a great way to put it - difference in being a poly person and committing to a certain kind of relationship
| I personally wouldnt be worried about Polys cheating moreso than I'm just more into monogamy. The feeling of yearning or jealousy that would come up if I coudnt see my oartner bc they were busy with someone else is tew much. I can respect people that make Poly work but it isnt for most.
| also sorry OP, that was awful for your friend to have done.
| Yeah that was awful for your friends to answer honestly to a question you went out of your way to ask them!!
| I think friends can be friends while still having a difference of opinions. If they don't agree with it, that's alright. Y'all can still chill and go bowling together.
| Yea go bowling and chill, I'm sure that it was appreciated you didn't hide it !
| >>689760
This, 100%. Genuinely true. I have a friend and I have sort of a similar thing with things I've told her, and she doesn't like it, but that doesn't mean we're not extremely close friends and care about eachother, you know?
It does hurt a little immediately, but it's not a problem for you friendship. Shouldn't be at least.
| never had any good experiences with poly relationships,its always usually just unicorn hunters
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| Confessed and came out as poly to a friend a few days ago, they were happy that I confessed, but once I asked if they were OK with me being poly, their face just instantly changed and the "yes" from earlier turned into an "eww, no" ;-;