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Serious help losing my virginity here.
| Like how should I start and keep things smooth?
| I should also note that I tremble a lot and it makes both of us nervous...
| I'm a virgin but I recommend leting it happen naturally, just relax amd if you have a problem say it and meke sure to hear your girlfriend too
| Verified sex haver here! Been with my girlfriend for 5 years now, will share my best tips.
>>676047 Was right in saying let it happen naturally. Get yourselves comfortable and start with kissing, moving to touching when the moment is right, and eventually to sex.
Make sure you've done ample foreplay.
Wear protection.
Don't go at it hard and fast because it looks fun in porn.
The vagina takes a good while to relax and widen, and especially so if it's her first time.
| Honestly a lot of the advice I can give boils down to not going hard and crazy with anything, but here's a few more tips.
Pick a basic position. Don't get wild before you even know your way around each other.
Communicate! Don't be afraid to talk, ask questions, and be human. It doesn't all have to be dirty talk, communication will make everything easier.
| Okay basic one but.. don't be afraid to take it out. You can take the peen out to move around and switch up positions. Don't try moving and staying in her constantly.
| >>676054 you can get condoms online very cheap if that's possible for your living situation, and depending where you are nonprofits or clinics might give them for free. It's really a bad idea to do penetrative sex without some kind of birth control, there are plenty of other ways to have fun
| I'd suggest making sure you are comfortable being physical and ideally comfortable being naked together first because that's somewhere a lot of anxiety can be tied up, in body image and in and other stuff like cuddling is much less loaded and still nice
Also remember that it's you two's own thing, don't worry about some of the expectations that are out there
| *in body image and in opening up to intimacy
| Where I live you can get condoms for free on any public clinic
| foreplay helps like... a lot.
some heavy petting and fingering.
| Feels like OP starts trolling. Wearing a condom is like not walking barefoot the streets today. STDs are no myth, how pregnancy works neither. Wear that rubbery thing or go rot in hell.
| What your problem with condom? If you're poor and can't afford condom can you afford kid? But yeah you sound like trolling more than anything.
| I promised everyone I’m not trolling. I see the need to ask everything though and I appreciate all the feedback.
| Also I’m not brain dead and the idea of pulling out isn’t a concept that’s hard to grasp.
| >>676165 Pulling out isn't the same as using a condom.
Precum still contains sperm that can impregnate a girl, and if it's your first time you're likely to either get overexcited and go off by accident, or not want to pull out at all.
| It's not worth taking the risk of not using a condom, because having a kid/abortion/buying emergency contraception after the fact is way more expensive and will definitely alert people to the fact you've had sex if you were trying to keep it a secret from parents etc.
| Condoms can be gotten for free if you visit any kinda clinic that deals with that stuff, or a family planning centre.
Failing that, they're not expensive at all.
Sure a box of condoms will be like $10 maybe, but you can usually get individual ones for cheap.
| Here in the UK pretty much every public men's room in a pub, bar, restaurant, or garage has a condom machine that will give you at least 2 condoms for a single £1 coin. Usually you get 3 for £1.
I'd go checking for that if you're so poor
| so fuckin cute
| >I have been very nervous around her lately
>I tremble a lot and it makes both of us nervous
But then
>Also I’m not brain dead and the idea of pulling out isn’t a concept that’s hard to grasp.
How can people not see that OP is trolling?
| No condom is for puccis
| Yeah this started out sounding like a legitimate request for advice but is now obviously a bait.
| I don't think it's necessarily bait. There are a lot of guys who think that way or who have been convinced that condoms are bad or unmanly
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| What better place to ask for insight than here.
Ok so here’s the deal. Me and my gurl are both virgins and we’ve agreed to have sex sometime soon. The problem is, that I have been very nervous around her lately because of the tension through this. So what I need thoughts on is how do I make this not awkward when we actually do it? Tips and advice are very appreciated.