Thread 553880 on danger/d/ Loading...

| Have you...
1) already cheated in a relationship?
2) been with someone who cheated on you?
3) been with someone who cheated at someone with you?

I just get into the 3. situation, and feel afterwards suprisingly bad about it. I know the partner that is cheated at is a good person and I know my affair was struggling about it and feels bad now that we've done it.

Hopefully some of you can give me some serious hints out from their own experiences.

| 1) no, and I could never forgive myself if I did that
2) no
3) no

Honestly OP, you done fucked up.
If you were aware that they were in a relationship, it wouldn't be your fault, but you're saying it in a way that leads me to assume that you did know
All you can do now is talk to them, you know them better than me, so you decide what you should say, just don't leave without saying anything, it will only make you look like an even bigger asshole

| >>553920
>Honestly OP, you done fucked up.
Obviously not me alone.
>that you did know
I knew that they're in a relationship, but there was some evidence that they're open about such stuff, which turned out as misjudgement.
>All you can do now is talk to them
I would like, but I don't know how I should start. I'm a bit afraid to make things worse. It's a bit awkward to tell someone "Hey, I hope you don't mind that I slept with your partner, but it's all cool. Let's become friends!"

| 1)Nope, will never do that.
2)ye,It feels like shit
3)kinda, since she was cheating on a bunch of guys (including me) but I didn't knew it

| OP sometimes in life we make shit calls, I've tried running and justifying myself from my own poor judgement but it seems that it's best to just own up to it, it should alleviate the weight on your mind and though there will be adversity things should come out for the better, keep us updated

| I did cheat on someone, it was in a time I didn't want anything serious, still I fell in love with every "sexual and emotional toy" I had, so I do regret it... It haunted me very badly when I decided to have my first serious thing, I couldn't sleep at all blaming myself for thinking one of his friends was beautiful or handsome, I just felt like thinking just that, not sexual stuff... Just admitting they had a thing...

| So yeah, with my experience of not doing shit, you should do something about it or you will regret it badly in the future and it will be haunting you in your relationship, just not you cheating but the thought of she/he/they cheating on you as karma or life vengeance

| Hell, I even think the two girls still haunt me as revenge for cheating, so yeah do something, shit gets bad for you if you don't do the thing

| No.
No.
If they did, they lied to my face.

| >>554005
Thank you for cheering me up, I really need it right now!
>keep us updated
Well, I met my affair yesterday on neutral ground to discuss how we should proceed. But we end up again at my place. This time we could resist each other, which was not so easy for me. I'm very confused about my affairs behavior, thought. The betrayed partner noticed what happened before my affair could confess (I left some marks in the heat of the night) and wanted some time and distance.

| Why can't people just do love like bonobos... Why is it such a big deal?
Honestly, I wouldn't mind if my partner fucks around. People have a different sexual drive, and if I'm satisfied with sex once a week, why shouldn't my partner with a higher demand have some playmates to satisfy it? As long it is only for this purpose I wouldn't be jealous. If the other affairs go beyond only sexual activities, I would say it depends on the person.

| 1) I cheated in a relationship with my first girlfriend because she forced me into it
2) no
3) no

| 1 no
2 no
3 no
You can't cheat or be cheated if you've never been in anything that may even remotely resemble a relationship

| you cant get cheated on if youre like me and never have a relationship your whole life

| >>554718 it's a matter of trust and if both you and your partner are ok with it but you do it in secret and pretend that you don't is an even bigger breach of trust because you have no reason to hide it
Want to go around having sex with different people? Then at least talk with your partner about it, if they don't like the idea one 9f the sides will have to concede or the relationship must end
When in a seriou relationship you have to have trust

| >>553947
>Obviously not me alone
True, but if they had cheated with someone else, at least you wouldn't be at a bad situation with their partner, since you said they're a good person

>misjudgement
Can't go back now, you can only make sure to confirm with the person being doing the do with them, you know, if they're truly okay with it, as well as their partner, if they have one

| You should still talk with them, not trying to be friends or anything, I wouldn't expect your relationship with them to be the same after that, just talk about it, explain that you thought they were okay with it, and apologise for making this assumption, as well as fucking them
Don't expect for things to be the same, neither for them to be as close to you as they might used to be
You done fucked up, take responsibilty for it

| The worst thing you can do now is stay silient, it will only give you the vibe of "Yeah I fucked your girl, now I'll cut all ties with them because thats how little you two matter to me, nothibg but a fucktoy"
I hope you understand what I'm saying

| >>554718
Because sex is an act of intimacy. Something you do with people you're close with, although there are exceptions, most people would not like to have their partner, someone they share so much intimacy with, share that same intimacy with someone else, or "bastardize" the act by simply doing it for pleasure
For many, sex is still sacred, the intimacy they share with their partner should remain between them
Also this >>554749

| >>553880
1: no

2: yes
- I took my gf out to propose to her, and when I asked her she told me that she had been cheating on me and was leaving me for the other person. Fucked me up for 4 years.

3: yes
- A girl I had a very obvious crush on was dating a guy I didn't like. One day she comes over, says they broke up and we have sex. Turns out they didn't and she was using me to piss him off.