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| you aren't obligated to give him sex and if he doesn't respect that, he's an asshole. you're better off leaving him in the long run tbh, i'm no expert but that relationship sounds really shallow
| >has a boyfriend
>doesn't like dick
I may be an autismo, but that does not compute.
| >>c77e1b I never had much luck with the girls so I decided to try something new. I was hoping just for a loving relationship, not a sexual one.
| >>367196 you are definitely not gay if you don't like dicks. You are clearly asexual bastard using him emotionally while not giving anything back.
| You can just do some hardcore stuff that doesn't involve anal or oral.... you know, things like headpats and handbolding
| *handholding
| It's because threads like this that I love danger/u/ I'm laughing ao hard with these posts.
| But seriously if you are not gay don't go out with a dude just cuz you are feeling lonely it's not going to work and you are hurting his feelings and will not find the fullfillment you seek.
| >>367205 it's totally fine to have that kind of relationship, but if you've come this far without being upfront about your intentions you've been leading him on and are probably fucked. The best thing to do is probably explain what you said in this post, apologize for not communicating that, and see how he feels about it. Even if it does go well he'll probably want an open relationship or something, and it might not go well, but the longer you wait the worse for both of you.
| >>367228 oh fuck you. OP, sex isn't the basis of a relationship. you can have a romantic relationship with someone without wanting sex, and if they can't accept that then you need to dump
| Sex isn't the basis of a romantic relationship, but people who aren't asexual have sexual needs. If you don't want to satisfy those, then you shouldn't demand monogamy. And I don't necessarily mean break up, just understand that this relationship is romantic and non-ace people probably also want sexual ones. If you can keep that separate, more power to you.
| I think op wants more of a close friend than a partner
| -OP
I'm not asexual, I just don't want a cock in me
| >>367430 you can be romantically attracted to dudes but not sexually. suddenly deciding you want a bf because you've had bad luck with girls is kinda weird though
| >>e7fea9 sometimes it's helpful to refer to oneself in the third person when feeling down or in a dilemma, here take a look https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2017/talking-to-yourself-in-the-third-person-can-help-you-control-stressful-emotions/
| Why would giving your lover a blowjob be degrading?
| Why
| Would you think less of someone else for sucking your dick?
How do you feel about cunnilingus?
Probably a double standard there bro, nothing shameful about oral imo
Also maybe research aids a bit, it 1) isn't common 2) is blocked by condoms 2) can be tested for with accuracy 3) can be treated/managed tho not cured
| Bump
| >>a12fe2 woa someone has some problems. Want to talk about it you fucking tard. Not everyone is obliged to fuck you
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| I've been in a similar situation where I ended up going out with someone I wasn't sexually attracted to, what I did was just pleasure him anyway. Once you're used to it it just becomes an annoying chore.
Basically just ask yourself whether maintaining your relationship is worth getting your bf off.
| I let him cum on my ass
-OP
| Didn't like it
| Hmm I dunno what to say OP. Maybe you just aren't into him how do you feel about kissing and stuff?
| Do you love him?
| >>368998 Ok so it seems like 2 possibilities OP.
1. You're romantically attracted to men, but not sexually attracted to men. If this is the case I dunno what you can do since your boyfriend will never satisfy you.
| >>369730
2. You're dealing with internalized feelings of shame and disgust at your own same sex preferences that prevents you from enjoying intercourse with your partner. If that's the case you're gonna have to really dig into yourself and overcome this, maybe get therapy.
Ball's in your court OP.
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| So I recently got a boyfriend, never thought that would happen to me considering I'm not really gay. My problem is he wants to have sex but I'm not up to it. I think putting a cock in my mouth is very degrading and anal might hurt and I'm afraid of getting aids. I can't even give him a handy because I don't want semen on me. I tried telling him I don't like dicks but he just got really pissed off. What do I do?